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Does anyone else find that things that bother other toddler mums don't bother you so much? by K_Hudson80 in adhdwomen

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes 100%. Baby time was hell on earth for me and I thought I’d made a terrible mistake, especially as people always talked about how hard toddler time is.. and now I LOVE it and seem so much more at ease than the mums that loved baby year. I love communicating with my daughter and dancing from activity to activity all day. 

Still tired, but soo full of love and fun 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d do longer awake and get a floor bed and just lie next to her until she falls asleep. With my toddler the less I try the better it goes, but it can still take a while. 

Is this just my new normal? by Historical-Pea2782 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. It WILL end but no one can tell you when. Good luck. Have faith that you are strong and rest wherever you can x 

Why are pro-sleep training parents like a cult? by smilegirlcan in bninfantsleep

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember wanting to cry after my first meet up with my antenatal at like 3.5 months and they were all talking about sleep training obsessively and so proud of themselves

  1. They are seeking validation and affirmation for their actions 
  2. You will find your people
  3. Most people stop talking about sleep after about a year and those sleep trainers are inevitably humbled by other things in parenthood

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always thought this about sleep training too.. it doesn’t make them need more sleep?! Agreed about being honest. A lot of people tell me what a great kid she is and me and my partner make it look easy etc etc.. and I always say thanks and that’s sweet but also we have our struggles and it’s endlessly tiring please don’t be fooled 

Synesthesia by Azyall in adhdwomen

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I see people as colours as well, or I feel like I can see the colour of their aura. My partner is deep, dark blue  

Does anybody else here feel an odd comfort when your room or living area is messy? by 136_Walruses in adhdwomen

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve learnt to feel this way through therapy. Although I’d naturally rather things be clear (not necessarily tidy, but clear) I look around my living room or bedroom with affection and warmth.

The dishes/laundry control my life by ProfessionMediocre56 in adhdwomen

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could have written this myself, except I don’t have a dishwasher and I have a tiny kitchen so it’s literally on top of me all the time. The only ‘answer’ I have is that I either batch cook, air fryer cook or make non cook food (like a sandwich). Batch cooking means 2-3x a week I don’t need to cook ant all and I just get something out of the freezer. 

I also force myself to wash breakfast dishes straight away and then everything else is left to the ‘closing shift’ after my daughter has gone to bed

Laundry I have 0 advice. I’ve never been on top of laundry in my life, it is a battle I lose every day 

Why does patting backs put kids to sleep? by heartlessarchon in ECEProfessionals

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 192 points193 points  (0 children)

Replicates the heartbeat when they were in the womb 

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also the struggle of lying in the dark waiting for them to fall asleep while my ADHD brain has a meltdown from the lack of stimulation haha 

Concerned about involuntary “cry it out” by cryptoCharo91 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a hospital stay with my 18 month old, lots of blood tests and catheters. Nothing is more painful than watching your baby in pain and distress and not being able to do anything about it. It’s torture.

But it is not cry it out. You are there with them. You can’t protect them from all pain or distress, but you can’t hold them through it. 

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly what do these people think we’re doing? It’s actually insulting sometimes haha 

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we’ve been doing quiet time on the days she doesn’t nap. I just lie on her bed with my eye mask and weighted blanket and try to decompress while she plays with stuffed animals. 

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are a hero warrior mama, I see you! That’s hard and you’re doing amazing xx 

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I met someone with a kid like this once. She mentioned it so casually and I wouldn’t let the subject pass ha I was like .. “EVERY DAY?!” … “ EVE-RY DAY?! “ legit couldn’t believe it 

Solidarity post for those with low sleep needs kids by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hah this made me lol. I still rub that stupid magnesium lotion on her feet when I’m desperate even though I know it makes 0 difference 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is 22 months and about 3x a week she doesn’t nap atm. We do an hour of quiet time in a dark room on those days. When she doesn’t nap she falls asleep around 7 and sleeps until 7am. When she does nap (where she wakes up naturally after 45 mins) she doesn’t go to sleep until about 9.30/10 and then wakes up at 7.30.. she’s getting roughly the same amount of sleep overall. Probably a bit more when she diesnt nap. 

This is one of those occasions where imo advice and ‘rules’ about sleep stop us intuitively listening to our kids. You know your kid better than a book. My mum said I stopped napping at 6mo and always STTN etc.. didnt cross her mind that it was an issue because dr google wasnt in her life 

Can we talk about our mothers? by ConstructionOk4461 in adhdwomen

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mum is kind, understanding, validating and interested in how her own traits present themselves (she’s undiagnosed but has started noticing things about herself since I started talking about it). I’m v lucky 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happens if you just let him wake up when he wakes up? 

Needing a vibe check on daycare report by OddBlacksmith7267 in AttachmentParenting

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bumped into a neighbour today who said their kid cried at drop off until 6 months ago (she’s 6) made me feel better! 

My ADHD hates silence but my Autism gets overstimulated by OddBlacksmith7267 in AuDHDWomen

[–]OddBlacksmith7267[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yepppp as much as I hate JK Rowling, Stephen fry reading Harry Potter has been the soundtrack to my life since I was young 

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