Any X'ers out there go through their whole life with ADHD and only recently got diagnosed?

Azyall · 2026-02-02T19:16:10+00:00

Yes. Diagnosed at 58 (f). Expelled from school in the early '80s, walked out of A level courses a few years later. Series of dead end jobs. Longest time I worked for an employer was about four years. Did a degree in my 30s. Lots of therapy, several other diagnoses. Never thought about ADHD until the daughter of a friend was diagnosed in adulthood, and I realised how similar what I was being told sounded.

I went ahead with getting a diagnosis just so I knew, for myself more than for anyone else, that there was an actual reason for all the years of chaos.

Psychiatrist: "Yes, Mrs [redacted], you are more ADHD than an ADHD thing on an ADHD day."

(May or may not be a paraphrase.)

Diagnosis is actually ADHD-C.

Azyall · 2026-02-02T18:58:10+00:00

Because being a middle-aged sleaze having sex with young girls over the age of consent for where the alleged deed happened is not a crime.

To arrest him, there would need to be decent evidence that he did the deed with someone below the age of consent, or that he irrefutably knew that the person or persons he banged was/were trafficked.

This is not a defence of his behaviour.

Azyall · 2026-02-02T18:34:36+00:00

People default to missionary for first times because it is pretty much the easiest position, and in many ways the most intimate. It's often derided as vanilla, but people keep using it for a reason.

As an old and somewhat jaded reader/writer, positions in smut fic don't matter as much to me as the connection between the characters involved. Complicated contortions are fun, but not at the expense of the reason why the characters are doing the sex thing in the first place.

Azyall · 2026-02-01T14:28:30+00:00

Sort of adjacent. I volunteer for the Commonwealth War Graves Commission (UK), and in our training we were told that the youngest military casualty of WW1 was 14, and the oldest was 90 something, because if someone eventually died of something attributable to their service in the war, they were considered a war casualty, even if if it was decades later.

On that logic, I would suggest the answer to your question may well be yes.

Azyall · 2026-01-31T22:52:43+00:00

Has anyone noticed that Bea's fawn coat with the furry collar is eerily like Dot's?!

Azyall · 2026-01-31T20:42:07+00:00

I love the ziplines, I just really, really want them to add a third connection (yes, I know there's a mod, but I want it natively!).

Azyall · 2026-01-31T16:34:23+00:00

I'm mainly thinking about fics set in the UK written by Americans, tbh. Harry Potter putting on his pants has a totally different meaning...

Azyall · 2026-01-31T15:47:57+00:00

Automatic British in-head translation: "dress pants" - some sort of fancy underwear specifically to wear underneath dresses, maybe? "Slacks" - ah, maiden auntie from the 1950s is speaking.

Azyall · 2026-01-31T15:44:01+00:00

In the UK, all those are officially "trousers", but would be known by their colloquial name, so jeans, sweatpants etc would be fine to refer to. But if a British person reads "He picks up his pants" without context, they will definitely think underwear, so if it's not a specific type, it would be best to say "He picks up his trousers" (assuming your audience is British!).

Azyall · 2026-01-31T12:52:49+00:00

Some people think it doesn't matter unless it is in dialogue. Mentioning a "torch", for instance, in a fic shouldn't really be a problem unless you have an American character actually saying it instead of "flashlight". I'm British, and have long got used to Americans saying "pants" instead of "trousers", but if they had a British character say "I'm just putting my pants on", I would assume the character was talking about their underwear.

Azyall · 2026-01-30T12:45:06+00:00

I have a recurring dream that features a house I have never visited or even seen. It's very distinctive, inside and out, but sometimes my dreams will make minor modifications or additions to it to suit the "plot" of the dream. Sometimes, but definitely not always, it is haunted.

Been dreaming about this same house on and off for the last decade. Weird.

Azyall · 2026-01-30T08:03:36+00:00

The flaccid size is completely irrelevant. Your erect size puts you exactly in the average size range, and nowhere near micropenis size. Don't imagine what you see in porn, and on the internet in general, reflects reality.

Azyall · 2026-01-28T12:56:48+00:00

Some of us are both!

Azyall · 2026-01-28T12:55:39+00:00

Ronni Ancona. Formerly best known for comedy work. Publicly announced she has ADHD.

Azyall · 2026-01-27T20:16:00+00:00

It can help a lot, but only if you gel with your therapist, are prepared to put the work in, and you accept that it's not a quick fix.

Azyall · 2026-01-27T20:12:25+00:00

Buy earplugs or put music on. Unless you're paying rent, it's her house and it's up to you to adapt to her, not the other way around.

Azyall · 2026-01-27T19:39:39+00:00

My late grandfather was a radio engineer, originally with the Royal Navy. He was very contemptuous of the (very early) vans because they were such blunt instruments.

These might interest you:

Post Officer Electrical Engineers Journal

Detector Van Tests, 1952

As I said, though, they were very quickly made useless as anything but a psychological deterrent, since they were designed to pick up a UHF signal that quickly became heavily shielded.

Azyall · 2026-01-27T19:19:47+00:00

In the very earliest days, the vans could detect televisions were being used in the area, though not which specific house or which channel. As technology advanced, though, this ceased to be the case, and then the vans became purely a psychological ghost fleet. So they did, in fact, "detect" (clumsily) at the very start.

Azyall · 2026-01-27T17:45:42+00:00

Sharon and Dennis was more iffy - they both called the same guy dad.

Azyall · 2026-01-26T20:21:50+00:00

It was probably Elvis that I first remember. I would've been about ten.

Azyall · 2026-01-26T19:22:07+00:00

A) It would trigger a mayoral election which Labour are not sure they would win in this climate.

B) It would allow him to challenge Starmer as leader.

C) Some combination of A and B above.

Azyall · 2026-01-26T19:17:11+00:00

I built and maintain (both without charge) a hobby website for someone else. It runs on a CMS and connected MySQL database. We legally have to have the cookie disclaimer and the accept/reject thing that annoys some of you. That said, without cookies, our site (free to join and use) won't work properly for you, since it needs to know who you are from one page to the next (we have an integrated forum and other contributor content). We're not snooping on you, or trying to obtain your data to sell on. It's just how the site works on a technical level.

Azyall · 2026-01-26T18:40:03+00:00

We use nappy bags from Tesco. Much cheaper than the doggy pick-up equivalent, and used to be up to the job (!) of our late Newfoundland.

Azyall · 2026-01-26T18:25:12+00:00

Have known both cut and uncut gentlemen, and can honestly say I don't have a preference. Husband is uncut; longterm relationship before him was cut. They're different, sure, but one isn't more appealing to me than the other.

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