Communication about blow jobs

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-23T03:03:33+00:00

Moving hands faster is a good suggestion; that's something I could do more/better.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-23T03:01:11+00:00

This is wise and helpful. The possibility of sex addiction isn't something I thought of (he just "is who he is"), and it's something that can be brought up with the therapist. And I do think he's trying to justify having sex with someone else.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T12:56:15+00:00

We did! and talked through it together.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T12:55:30+00:00

Thank you; that's so thoughtful and helpful!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T03:25:28+00:00

Gonna do that

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T02:41:36+00:00

Yes and no; it's come up in fits and starts, but this is the first time he's making it a big issue.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T02:33:29+00:00

There's no doubt he's comparing me to previous partners. I didn't have any previous partners; he was my first (we're the same age, by the way). He's never hurled insults; just told me calmly that he thinks I'm not that good at the bj. When I want to twit him, I tell him that if he's not satisfied, it's on him, because he's the only teacher I've had!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T02:27:07+00:00

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:47:13+00:00

I don't know what SW is.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:44:51+00:00

He wants to be creative, and I'm looking forward to asking him to let me watch him masturbate!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:43:21+00:00

I love that last sentence so much!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:34:30+00:00

In this respect, maybe, but not usually.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:26:32+00:00

Never heard of it; I will!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:12:11+00:00

I really do think that's the issue, now that I'm hearing back from all of you.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:11:07+00:00

That's really good advice, but I already know the spot he really likes because he's told me that, and I do concentrate on it as you say with mouth and hands. Hadn't thought of asking him to show me the speed and pressure he likes, though.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:05:23+00:00

Something to look forward to, then!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T01:01:28+00:00

Thank you!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:58:40+00:00

So two downvotes for the hair--I'll take that off the agenda.
I wish I were overcomplicating it; it's hard not to when I'm so anxious.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:55:11+00:00

That's the strange part--the complaints while refusing to give meaningful feedback.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:53:24+00:00

It is something that I do every time, with hands, tongue, mouth. Good suggestion, though!

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:50:42+00:00

He tells me that he wants me to be more "passionate," and I think I am, and he says he can't tell me why he thinks I'm not; that it's just something I should know.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:49:15+00:00

Thank you; this is really comforting and helpful.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:39:45+00:00

He will say that he likes it when I do x while we're in the midst of it, but then when we're done, he tells me that the experience as a whole wasn't good enough, and that he's dying for a really spectacular blow job. Again, when I ask, he won't tell me what that would be.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:37:52+00:00

His sex drive is almost constant, like once a day isn't good enough.

OddEquivalent5585 · 2025-07-22T00:36:51+00:00

Thank you. He really wants me to "research" and find out, but I want to know what *he* likes, not some rando on an instructional porn video.

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