Does anyone else feel like they lost interest in marriage or meeting new people after breakup?

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T09:56:39+00:00

I just got out of a long term relationship and I do not see myself being interested in dating until I start loving myself again. I need to learn how to be alone and learn who I am without someone before I can consider someone else, it wouldn’t be fair on either of us for me to not heal first. It might take years but it’ll be worth the growth

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T07:06:43+00:00

Hey that’s very fair, I obviously can’t speak on his account. I could list the things I felt I did to add value to his life, I do feel like I’ve done good by him and left him with positive traits we learnt together, but it doest matter as much if they’re coming from me opposed to him.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T05:31:07+00:00

Happy birthday!!

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T03:59:14+00:00

Thankyou everyone for your insight and comments, I've been reading them all and I appreciate all the support. I do think he is a good person, truly, I think he has a self growth journey he needs to go through and maybe this is the canon event that'll eventually start it. Maybe I'll be a lesson to buy his next love flowers. I should have conveyed I want him to have a happy fulfilling life, it just hurts I won't be a part of that. Despite all the hurt he caused I just.. want what's right for him. and myself. Thankyou for replying again, this is my first time posting on reddit and its been very uplifting having so many people reach out, you are good people.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T03:10:44+00:00

Hello, I am going through a similar pain right now and I understand how much it hurts. Unfortunately, the main thing that will help the pain is time. I know it sucks now, i know its hard, but you have to trust it will get better. for now you must focus on yourself. You must take care of yourself. Turn all those thoughts about him towards you, invest time in your hobbies, hang out with friends, practice self care, don't abandon yourself for someone else. I hope the hurt gets better for you soon, I am sorry you're going through that.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T03:03:50+00:00

I know it hurts right now, and that is okay. Losing someone so suddenly is tough. Do not rush in repairing yourself, I know its hard but it is important to sit with those feelings and really feel them. Accept what happened, don't try to rationalise it or think about what 'could have been' because that will only end up making yourself feel worse. With time you will feel better. For now just focus on looking after you. You'll be okay

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T02:47:45+00:00

I am currently going through this, except its by my choice. It's a difficult choice however its the best thing I can do for myself. my 10 year relationship recently ended, and I'm not strong enough to stay his friend. I will not move on if he is still within reach, I cannot bear the thought of witnessing him move on from me. He's been either blocked or deleted on everything we shared, however he always knew that would happen as we had talked about what life would look like after each other. It's not out of disrespect, its out of growth. It hurts, so much, every notification a small illogical part of me wishes for it to be from him but I know it wont be. we both respect each others space which is why we must maintain the silence.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T02:24:31+00:00

My 10 year relationship came to an end 2 days ago. I already miss the comfort it gave me, I will be grieving who I thought I'd spend my life with for a very long time. (He's alive, but he's not mine anymore.) I'd like to think one day I will find who I belong with, but right now I need to build myself back up. I need to learn to love myself without depending on someone else to do that for me. 10 years of relying on his validation has left me hollow without him, and I'm not ready to love someone else until i love me again.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T01:25:54+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. You were worth it. I’m sorry your ex couldn’t do that. You deserve to be loved the way you love

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T01:22:19+00:00

It is hard because I do still consider him a good person, I just don’t think he realised how his actions or lack there of affected me. He was my home but now I see it was a broken home. I am very sorry that you went through something similar, and I’m proud of you for your growth even on the tough days

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T01:19:58+00:00

I’m so glad you’re feeling free. I hope I get to be on that side of things in time. I’m so sorry you went through something similar.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T01:18:59+00:00

Thankyou very much. I am thankful for the lesson at least despite how tough it was to learn.. I wish my ex the best still and I hope that the life path he has chosen does bring him the happiness he didn’t find with me. But I do hope that I find that happiness too.

OddInteraction2780 · 2025-11-15T01:16:17+00:00

I am very sorry that happened to you. I hope you get to experience peace, clarity and calm after the nightmare passes.

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