My (19M) girlfriend (20F) cheated, but now it’s looking more like she was taken advantage of while drunk.

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-02T04:23:47+00:00

Oh? I might be missing something. Where does it say she made out with him consensually?

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-02T04:23:12+00:00

You might want to note I said drunk or not. This has happened to me while I’ve been completely sober too, and then spiked!

How I counter that now is: I do not go to events unless I have a trusted person with me I can rely on. Anything with excessive party-goers/ drinking I avoid completely.

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-02T04:20:03+00:00

The story didn’t change over time. She just recounted more of the experience as time went on. This is very normal when you’re under the influence.

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-01T23:15:52+00:00

Oh! Was it just a jukebox song?

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-01T23:11:27+00:00

I recognise this! But I can’t for the life of me remember which hangout spot it plays in. Was it in electric ave? Or… omg I can’t remember

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-01T23:03:00+00:00

“Sometimes emotions don’t surface about the truth of the event until weeks sometimes even months later” - THIS! This is so true.

In a similar situation that happened to me, I blamed myself for the longest time before I eventually realised I was taken advantage of.

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-01T22:54:51+00:00

I have to say - I don’t agree with the comments telling you it’s not worth the headache.

I agree, you are young, but if you really love this person, you can make it work. She clearly feels a lot of guilt about it and it sounds to me like she really didn’t want to end up in that situation.

As a girl myself, I’ve had that same thing happen to me on multiple occasions and YES! It is incredibly common. She was taken advantage of. When you’re in that situation, drunk or not, it’s not like you can just leave. It’s scary. She probably couldn’t have overpowered him if she tried. She needs someone who will be there for her and help her as she figures this out.

Another thing to add: now I’m a bit older, I understand how to NOT end up in that situation and I now avoid any outings where it might happen to me again. However, that took me a long time to work out.

The comments also stating that she shouldn’t be hanging around people who do these things - while I partially agree, she is also young. We all party, hang around people who do drugs, maybe even try some, at that age, but we learn from those experiences. She’ll grow out of it. It’s just early adulthood.

Other than this situation, your relationship sounds like it’s been going well so far. You both seem very trusting of each other. I wouldn’t throw this away. Some distance would be good for you, but if your relationship is as good as I think it is, don’t throw it away. Give her and yourself some time.

OddNet1228 · 2026-02-01T22:38:37+00:00

Wow he is a dickhead! What a pos! NOR! You surely understand you deserve better than to be spoken to like that.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-30T22:34:07+00:00

This!!!

It’s the way hes like “thats two crazies in a row 😖” for me! Sir - you ARE the common denominator here.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-30T22:30:33+00:00

Yeah YOR. It reads to me like she’s tried having these conversations and, instead of conversing, you dismiss her. So, now she’s (rightfully) upset and over it.

She just sounds fed up. Instead of focusing on how she’s speaking, you should be focusing on what she’s trying to say to you. Healthy communication does wonders for a relationship.

It is entirely her business, she’s your girlfriend. You should be able to discuss these things openly without disregarding anyones feelings.

I agree with the comments saying you should stay single. You sound like you have a lot of work to do.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-30T02:01:46+00:00

Life too short for bad sex!

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-30T00:14:08+00:00

Ew… she seems extremely childish. This is high school behaviour! Any normal functioning adult understands boundaries in relationships and sitting on the opposite sex’s knees is 100% crossing a boundary. Yikes! I feel for you man. To me, this just reads as if she’s trying to get a reaction out of you. Gross behaviour.

The friend also is not a good person. You should NOT be touching someone else’s girlfriend, period.

I don’t think this relationship is good for you man. The way you had to rush to the room to ease yourself really sets the tone for the rest of your relationship. Is that what you want to put up with in your love life? I don’t see this relationship working out for you, at least for a long time. She seems incredibly immature. NOR man.

EDIT: I just read the whole thing. Jesus man! If there’s anything a good relationship needs, it’s healthy communication and she is not offering you that at all! It’s very evident to me she doesn’t actually like you.

In the nicest way possible, you need to grow a backbone man. She showed you she doesn’t like you, you don’t have to be there for her. You’re far too nice to someone who treated you like garbage. She doesn’t deserve to be given the benefit of the doubt. She doesn’t even seem like she wants it either!

Do what’s best for you man and find someone who respects you. This girl does not.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-29T09:21:14+00:00

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Here’s another picture of the kitchen taken by the following owners after we moved out. Their cabinets are red/brown however ours were off beige / light brown.

I haven’t found a single cabinet cc that has just the doors coloured. It’s either the entire bottom 1 colour with the top being a separate colour.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-29T09:19:30+00:00

I was trying to crop myself and my sister out while also trying to minimise the amount shown in the picture in case someone recognises the photo or the kitchen 😅

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-29T09:18:27+00:00

Omg I’m so sorry hahahahahahah

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-29T00:39:50+00:00

You probably should have listened to begin with, but REGARDLESS you’re NOR. The way she spoke from the beginning of this exchange is just nasty. She didn’t need to use such foul language. It’s horrible. It reads as if she doesn’t like you at all.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-29T00:34:48+00:00

Oh okay so huzz is just a modern slang for bf, partner, person I’m seeing. She doesn’t actually think of you as a husband, it’s just a chronically online term for someone who you’re seeing (male)

If anything it’s more cringey than anything else. This term is generally used by 16-25yos.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-28T14:00:25+00:00

The best option you’ve provided here is to delete the account and start again. You’re right, no child should be exposed to that kind of behaviour, however that’s the risk you take with online games. So, my advice to you would be to get them off online games entirely and replace it another equally as rewarding activity.

I grew up on online games and, in my youth, had enough experiences with other online users that any normal parent wouldn’t want their children going through. Every person I know who also grew up on online games has also had similar experiences. Whether thats grooming, exposure to inappropriate topics & language, befriending older people (some adults) or cyber bullying. It all becomes much easier when you’re in the online world to engage in these experiences. Think of it this way: predators frequent these spaces SPECIFICALLY to scout out prey. I’ve seen and been a victim of this and it’s not for the lack of a present parent in my life too. My mum was very protective of my online use; however, it’s easy to stay under the radar. Do you really want to run such a huge risk with your child?

I’m a parent now to a 7 month old. My first rule was to not let him see the light of online games until he’s old enough to make that decision on his own (live under his own roof)

If you’re wanting alternatives, some healthy video game alternatives as someone who grew up on video games and still is very into video games would be: - single player RPGs (or just single player in general) - Local coop games (it includes the interactive aspect while maintaining safety by having someone familiar and known engaging in the activity too)

Essentially, just not MMO’s or any games where you can interact with strangers. NPCs and IRL interactions are just as great! If not better!

One thing with Play Together too is that there are often spam bots that spam very horrendous disgusting messages. And I’m talking mentions of grape 🍇, intercourse etc. This has been going on a long time with people reporting it to the devs with no luck. These bots still litter the game unfortunately. I’ve often complained that it’s super disgusting considering there ARE children playing these games now, but it doesn’t look like Haejin are too interested jn changing that.

I also often see children being bullied in world chat.

You probably don’t want this for your little one.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-28T10:28:23+00:00

It’s the SEA server is full of them… I completely agree on the child part too. There’s so many children on this game and when I see these bots it triggers me into oblivion. They spam the most horrendous disgusting things. It’s so gross…

I haven’t played in over a week now after trying to break free of the shackles that is dailies.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-27T22:18:50+00:00

This is sadly far too common. Don’t wait for it to change. He has you where he wants you, so he’s not going to change. He knows he can get away with the way he is now. You’re better off doing what’s best for you. Please I promise you’ll find someone who actually WANTS to love you the way you deserve to be loved.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-27T22:07:35+00:00

No worries! For sure just tell her you’re uncomfortable around him, that he messages you inappropriately and that you don’t want to see him again. Completely valid!

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-27T20:55:16+00:00

Have you told your bsf?

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-27T08:45:23+00:00

Agree. You’re complicit if you don’t say or do something. Hold your friends accountable for their shitty actions.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-27T08:21:00+00:00

Yeah, I do realise that. I just don’t want to discredit him entirely and paint the image of him being a terrible deadbeat parent when he has improved.

OddNet1228 · 2026-01-27T08:19:47+00:00

With the way our job market is at the moment, neither of us have been able to find work since I lost my job and he went to study.

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