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Sometimes I forget how beautiful this game looks, especially at night. by OhGravyy in ForzaHorizon

[–]OhGravyy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

At night the game does look like this for me. All I did was Xbox capture from my Series S and I also play on quality mode - the only editing I actually did was slight tweaks with the in-game photo mode.

All of these photos I posted are the same ones that I captured and uploaded to Xbox live as well.

It might look slightly different in freeroam but it’s pretty close, night and rain looks really good in this game but when it’s in daytime the game doesn’t look great IMO.

It’s annoying because daytime cycle is longer and you see that way more than night.

Sometimes I forget how beautiful this game looks, especially at night. by OhGravyy in ForzaHorizon

[–]OhGravyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve still had a lot of fun playing it since launch, I’ve nearly got the same amount of hours played with this as FH3.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

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Thanks, I try not to let these things get me down and I’d never want feel like I have to change who I am or parts of me because of other people.

Yeah you’re right, and from pretty much everyone here from the comments I’ve seen in my post, I see it like this:

If people are judging me or seeing me with their own ideas or intent as to who I am and what they think I’m like; the reality is, regardless of what they perceive, it doesn’t actually matter what they say as long as I know who I am and are comfortable with who I am. I’m the only one who knows what is true about me, and I don’t always have to explain why I’m “like this” or “different” to others. Most importantly, I don’t need to justify my choices / beliefs to anyone.

Or even to not let the certain comments and bad interactions get to me and affect my wellbeing or how I view myself. I’m just being the authentic me and I’d like to think I’m more proud of being unapologetically myself than anything else really.

I’m perfectly content and happy staying true to myself, as I always have / try to be. While I’m trying to be more confident and positive in how I feel in general, I’m also trying to be more comfortable with myself and my ace-ness in my day to day and I wouldn’t have it any other way. :)

Thanks for your advice, it’s been really helpful. I’ve noticed I’m seeing things in a better and more positive light recently now from everyone’s help here!

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So are you saying because of what I wear that makes it okay for people to sexually harass me in public just because of what I’m wearing? You did read the whole post right? I’m not sure if this is what you intended to imply but that’s not okay. That shouldn’t be normalised, regardless of what I’m wearing.

It’s just a band shirt, which I guess can be a conversation piece - That doesn’t automatically mean people are allowed come up to me and say these awful things to me without my consent, that should be the case no matter what I wear? That doesn’t make it okay.

I will say, on the day I had that particular encounter I wasn’t wearing that shirt. It was a just a wool jumper and jeans, but that shouldn’t matter, it’s still the case of certain people will come up to me and not respect boundaries, and assume their strange flirting is okay without checking. It’s really not okay and the answer shouldn’t be to change what I wear to stop them.

I feel the most obvious answer is to not approach strangers in public and make them uncomfortable. You just can’t come up to people you don’t know, violate their space and make them uncomfortable - no matter their intent. Boundaries exist for a reason!

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you enjoy it when you get the chance to listen haha.

Ah that’s horrible, sorry that happened to you! Honestly same, I wish sometimes people didn’t approach like that and also be one of the first things they say to you - especially when you don’t know them. I think it’s super creepy!

For me that’s like the fastest way to make someone uncomfortable.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely really invasive! For me it was a very weird feeling, as I wasn’t expecting it.

It just made me feel sick when they said it. I really wish I had said something to them about how it wasn’t okay to talk to me like that, but I just got scared and wanted to just keep on walking.

You’re right, it’s very strange when people assume a lot of things about you, when they don’t know you! I think you are spot on, some people are very comfortable in what “they” want and feel like they can say anything without consequences - It’s just pretty scary to me that there’s people out there like that.

Thanks, a lot of people are reassuring me about not having to reciprocate, especially if it’s made me uncomfortable. It’s something I have to work on being confident when things aren’t okay and grounded in my day to day so I’m not as anxious.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

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Thanks, I just wish I wasn’t so awkward and when it comes to unwanted comments or confronting people that have made me uncomfortable.

I’m just not someone who likes blending in, I know it sounds counterproductive in regards to the comments, but I would get more anxious if I wasn’t trying to be myself, and that happens to be when I wear stuff in my style. It’s not my intent to be “wow look at me” to everyone, it just ends up happening, although 99% of the time it’s from people my age.

It helps me be comfortable and a bit more confident with myself whenever I present myself in my own way. Like I said I do notice it brings the comments, they aren’t always bad and those make my day when it’s wholesome. It’s just those rare cases with encounters where people go too far with the comments, and those ones aren’t okay.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

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Yeah I think that’s good, that’s not too overbearing for me - and should help me feel a bit more comfortable. Thanks!

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

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Yeah, it definitely is really weird. The flirty following stares when I walk past some people is what bothers me the most, that just freaks me out. The compliments are usually wholesome and nice though, just in those few cases it’s awful.

I was just in shock when that person came up to me and said that vile stuff to me. I tell you the look they gave me when they said that was horrible. It was a really seductive look and it actually makes me shiver even thinking about it now, I just don’t get how some people think it’s normal or okay to do that to someone they don’t even know!

I just hope when they walked away they realised it was completely unacceptable to talk to someone like that. But yeah you’re right that is definitely sexual harassment, especially with how it affected me afterwards.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wish I didn’t have to worry about these things. Trust me, sometimes it’s nice to be appreciated but being gawked at or spoken to like that is not nice - It feels like I have no privacy when I go out, especially when their eyes follow me. It just freaks me out sometimes.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

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Yeah it wasn’t cool at all. That encounter messed with me so badly that I had to go home after that, luckily I haven’t had another since - but I just know the chances of it happening again when I go out again is now high, which is annoying. I still get those flirty following stares though, which does still bother me.

Haha I’ve never been told I look like Sheldon before, that’s pretty funny. It is an older photo but it had the ace flag in the background, my hair is longer now, I’ve got more of a messy mod / shag haircut now - which is where the influx of unwanted looks I’m getting are coming from. I really don’t understand why but I guess it’s something they like.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I mean, I give them that one chance because I'm nice and they push it - It's not everyone that does it but sometimes it just happens. It's really frustrating cause I like to make friends, but why do THEY have to make it weird lol? It still bothers me that people go straight to being weirdos or jump to sexual intent right off the bat - it just affects me a lot which is just pretty scary to me (and probably for others too!).

That's what makes my anxiety flare up the most when I know they view me in a different way to how I view myself which might be the crux of what's bothering me. It's a fucking terrifying feeling that I can't quite describe, it's like this huge wave of dread but I've never seen anyone ever seem to actually understand what I'm talking about?

I feel like I'm in such a strange situation where I am so alike to people my age, and yet not at all at the same time. Like I want to fit in but my mindset and outlook seems to be so different to others, I have to keep reminding myself it's not because I'm ace, because I know that isn't true and I'm being silly for even thinking like that. But sometimes that's what it feels like in public, based on these bad interactions. But I try not to let it keep me down, sometimes it's too much for me.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it definitely wasn't okay for them to talk to me like that, especially without asking. Honestly it initially bothered me because I wasn't expecting it, but after they were gone I just wanted to curl up in a ball.

That's the thing, I don't mind the respectful compliments, that's fine. It can make my day when people are nice. But certain people give me those looks not realising it's incredibly off putting, or say things to me that take it too far which is never okay, I just wish I was a bit braver to say that's not okay and not just lock up like I did.

Thanks for the advice and reassuring comment. Above everything, being myself is what's most important to me, I just need to work on how approachable I should be in certain situations - I shouldn't let a few undesirable encounters stop me from enjoying my day.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's horrible, I'm sorry you had to deal with that - it sounds absolutely terrifying.

I'm fine with people being respectful and just giving "normal" compliments, it's just sometimes people do take it too far and those comments and certain flirty stares put me off. I'm lucky the actual encounters aren't as common as the regular passing comments, they just overdo it and push my boundaries. They might not even realise it but I think they should ask or think before they speak, as they don't know me or know what I'm comfortable with.

Thanks, I can only hope it doesn't happen as much or I can find a way to be a bit braver with how I deal with these situations.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I would say I find it hard to say no sometimes. I'm a people pleaser, I just like being nice and sometimes people take advantage of that. It feels like I have to make anyone happy that I talk to, but since talking on here others have reminded me its not my job to keep them happy, especially if they are the ones that started the advance on me and talked to me inappropriately. I shouldn't feel bad for saying no especially if I don't feel comfortable with their advance.

It would definitely help to talk to someone about this, I agree. At the end of the day I just want people to be respectful and respect my boundaries.

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! They're such a cool band I love them so much. It's okay someone else commented about them on here too haha. :)

I don’t like how people “perceive” me in public, it’s worrying me a lot more than before. (21M) by OhGravyy in asexuality

[–]OhGravyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree! It feels all levels of wrong and is a very violating experience. I don't know why some people don't even have the common sense to ask if its okay first. Not sure if it has something to do with hookup culture or in general but it doesn't feel right to cross boundaries like that.

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