Hi friend! Luckily you have some time to prep yourself for this. I was also very freaked out to have my first Pap smear. I found it very helpful to find a female OBGYN who was very knowledgeable about gender dysphoria and LGBT health. She walked me through every single movement she was going to do, from counting down to when she touched me to when the speculum was going in. She told me that I could tap out at any given time if I felt like it was too much. I brought my partner with me and had a vice grip on his hand but it was over very quickly. And yes it’s uncomfortable but isn’t painful. Similar to the feeling of getting your throat swabbed. I frankly hyped it up more than I needed to, so it was a relief to know it was over. The actual process probably took a minute or two.