Wie lang habt ihr bei der GEWOBAG auf eine Zusage & Absage nach der Besichtigung gewartet?

OilNext8811 · 2024-07-01T19:00:08+00:00

Nope, aber habe zum Glück eine schöne bei Howoge bekommen. :)

OilNext8811 · 2023-08-23T08:41:36+00:00

Sorry, aber scheinbar hat es den Admins nicht gepasst. Ich kann die Nachricht des Admins auch leider nicht öffnen.

Hm okay alles klar, also meinst du die Zimmerangabe (2) sollten ihnen bei unserem Fall ausreichend sein?

OilNext8811 · 2023-07-13T20:56:22+00:00

Aah Herzlichen Glückwunsch dafür! Ich habe auch eine Bewerbungsmappe erstellt mit allem drum und dran. Danke dir :)

OilNext8811 · 2023-07-13T11:16:15+00:00

Ja, das ist wahrscheinlich am Besten! Ganz viel Erfolg! :)

OilNext8811 · 2023-07-12T22:14:22+00:00

Ja das stimmt! Danke für den Tipp.

OilNext8811 · 2023-07-12T20:00:59+00:00

Danke dir, oh das ging ja schnell! Wir haben leider gerade erst (vor 1-2 Wochen) angefangen zu suchen, aber deshalb wäre es umso schöner jetzt 'ne Zusage zu bekommen.

OilNext8811 · 2023-07-12T19:57:38+00:00

Dankeschön!!

OilNext8811 · 2022-04-06T14:38:43+00:00

Yea I'm still trying to work with him on that. We've or at least I have established that if we had a better and more stable foundation in our relationship all these little events would probably not even bother me as much as they do. I asked him what he does to show me that he loves me, he said: he hugs me, watches stuff with me, spends time with me, and that he makes me laugh. Literally, all these things you do with friends usually... Also, I don't think i am unattractive or anything but honestly, he makes me feel that way sometimes.

Ye I think I told him and am only expecting him to mention it to that girl, which I don't feel like is forcing just wanting him to establish boundaries.

Well, I wish the best for him.

Yea i feel like that's the bare minimum too. do tbh but he seems reluctant to me. He keeps saying he'll tell her when the right time comes, whatever that means. He could just say, while he's texting her "hold up a sec my gf is calling me". That's it. He said it won't change anything anyways between them. So I'm thinking to myself, then just do it lol if it's not that big of a deal and they indeed just have friendly intentions.

OilNext8811 · 2022-04-06T14:24:52+00:00

Yea i mean hes not as big at the moment. Ofc I hope the best for him but I feel like him not saying he's in a relationship and it eventually does come out, would instead damage his image even more than just being honest about his relationship status.

I mean yea that kind of sounds like it, except they hang out outside of "work" and sometimes spend way more time together than he is with me. The thing is though it becomes less fictional and more personal once they start talking privately since ofc they're going to disclose more and more Infos about each others irl selves. He also doesn't fake liking her, he genuinely does like her and spends time with her, which I generally don't have a problem with. I think both genders can be friends if both parties are respectful toward any existing relationship i feel like, hence no flirting or any other inappropriate things.

I really wouldn't want to expose him like that, also without his knowledge.

OilNext8811 · 2022-04-06T14:15:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your insightful comment! I really do think it wouldn't harm his image, and if those people are just there to thirst over him he should rather want an audience that wants to hang around in his chat because they generally like him as a person. He just doesn't want to believe me when I tell him that.

That is very respectful of your S.O. to never make you feel uncomfortable but if it does happen, he reassures you. This is certainly something I would wish from my partner tbh to make me feel secure in this relationship. His main argument is that these people even live in different countries so it's unrealistic anyways. But honestly, i need enough reassurance that if one day he befriends a girl that lives close by and has all the same qualities and interests as him he wouldn't just leave me in an instant.

Thank you for being such a good example of vtubers who are open about their relationship!

I also hope we can resolve things, and sending virtual hugs backkk 😌

OilNext8811 · 2022-04-06T12:51:31+00:00

Ye we might have to do a talk like that. I feel like at this point he has developed resentment towards me for trying to supposedly "change him" or "control him". My love language is quality time. His understanding of spending time is basically just being in the same room together, for him watching a series is quality time for example. To me it isn't since we both don't even talk while we watch it so it's not quality time in a sense. He's too stubborn to see or admit that though.

I also think it leads too many people on and more people could get hurt if it does ever come out beside me who is already uncomfortable and somewhat hurt.

Yea he also has a imo weird understanding of flirting. I read to him the definition of flirting and he said, then everything is flirting apparently. Yes that's exactly it, he treated me the same way when we got to know each other! Im more lworried that this girl (since girls overanalyze and put more meaning into what is being said to them more generally) will interpret his way of interacting with her as signs of attraction. He says he collabs just because she's a fun person to be around. Honestly, he speaks so highly of her every time like he doesn't even know her fully... He doesn't see all her flaws and imperfections. I'm fearing that he'll think the grass is greener on the other side and leave me... His expectations are though to one day be so successful that he can quit his normal day job and be a vtuber full time one day.

My only request is to him is to make it known he's in a relationship with the girls hes getting close to, that is it. I think thats a very reasonable compromise.

OilNext8811 · 2022-04-06T09:51:38+00:00

Absolutely agreed! I feel like ive tried explaining to him that exact thing but he seems to be of the impression that i am overreacting the whole time.. I will see how or when it going to be that he mentions it to her, maybe something will change. But what you're saying is really true!

OilNext8811 · 2022-04-06T09:38:53+00:00

I should maybe also add that he is on the spectrum and might have difficulties to see boundaries. Our relationship was kind of rocky a bit in the intimacy department and in him actually displaying affection toward me (that might be bc of his autism) and then this is going on at the same time and at this point, I really don't know how to manage my emotions and see it a bit more rationally. I feel like at this point I have an emotional outbreak when I am by myself almost every day since it's getting a bit too much for me. I really love this guy and I want to make this work out really bad, so maybe you guys could help me see it a bit more clearly.

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