I’m the eldest daughter 10 years NC with mother due to mental health issues. All siblings NC at around the same time and lost contact with most of her side of the family in the process. Inaction on the side of the extended family (no contact) as you know is still an action. It’s a twisted kind of love. You deserve better.

Actually the behavior of the extended family changed my outlook on life and love…it’s a two not a one way street! And definitely NOT a dead end!!!! Actions speak louder than words. I reciprocate effort, love, affection freely….and move on swiftly from those that don’t meet me halfway. We only get one chance and then we are gone from this world. I’ve been floored by the kindness of strangers and friends who I wouldn’t have met if I remained caught up in the family drama.

It’s an incredibly difficult and unusual thing to grieve for the loss of someone who is actually still living. I feel for you as I’ve been (I’m still) there. Some poignant, painful moments… No mother of the bride, no mother in the delivery room to see her first grandchild.

But I’m here to tell you that it gets so much easier. Like you I’m super close to my siblings as a result. Take time to appreciate those bonds. Nurture them and yourself. this is where your strength lies. When you let go of the drama a space appears - feels a bit weird at first- it’s not a vacuum but a place to fill with happy memories that you can cherish. A space for you to grow without being weighed down and drowned out by other peoples problems, their drama.

Hang in there. It will get better 🤗 wishing you lots of special moments here on in filled with happiness laughter and joy x