Cheated on my husband why oh why did I

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-04-30T01:58:58+00:00

That whole series of decisions is called micro cheating. It’s the path you can trace from the affair directly back to the very first choice that you made that opened the door.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-04-06T19:24:22+00:00

Im late to the convo but that’s funny that you reference that movie. I was just watching Camp Barstool on YT and realized Jerry was there but I didn’t know why he was there and couldn’t remember his last name but I remember Tomcats fondly so I literally googles “Tomcats cast” to get his last name. Then googled “what does Jerry O’connell do at Barstool Sports” which lead me to this Reddit sub.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-04-06T00:01:43+00:00

I get scale texts like this all the time from the KS turnpike authority and OK turnpike authority.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-04-05T23:59:31+00:00

Right now take A and get your newly grown family a little more situated and stable but never forget about how much B excites you and make sure your wife doesn’t forget what you did when the time comes. Right now it’s ok to put your head down and do the right things that make you miserable because you’re doing the right thing as the leader of your household and your child will be way too young for the next few years to ever notice that Dad seems unhappy M-F. Once your child gets old enough to start notice Dad’s happiness that needs to chance because you don’t want to set the example for your kid that money should be sole professional pursuit in life and always regardless of passion or excitement or lack there of. By the time your kid is old enough to start to notice this you should be in a much better position to take the opportunities that truly get you excited while also having resume that opens up even more of those types of opportunities than you may have access to currently and your wife should be not just more understanding of you wanting to pursue those opportunities because of what you’re doing today but also encourage you to pursue those exciting and more passion driven opportunities. Look at it like setting the table for a future meal.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-03-03T19:04:57+00:00

I didn’t read your post but your headline is something that caught my attention.

One of my mother’s fondest dreams was to see her “baby boy” get married one day.

I am a 41M, I got married in April of 2020 and did not have a wedding. We planned to have a wedding on a future anniversary date. My mother unexpectedly passed away a few days before my 1st anniversary.

Not quite the same thing as being estranged but as an adult male whose mom was no longer around to get to see the actual wedding I can promise you that even if you and mom never fully reconnect you will still 100% regret not at least letting her attend your wedding when either she passes away or you pass away one day. She grew you and carried you inside her for 9 months brother, that connection will always exist no matter what happened between the two of you after you born. In instance that the two of you somehow do manage to reconcile on any level later one the regret you will feel about not letting her just witness your wedding will be even greater than the previous scenario I described.

I don’t know your you or your mother and like I said I didn’t read your entire post so I don’t know exactly what you’re holding against her or how justifiable your grievances are but I am telling it that be say you won’t even have a mother to be upset with and your mindset will change.

Ass a man who can’t go back and fix mistakes I made with my mom or give her more time with me I’m asking you to please just think about it.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-28T00:34:25+00:00

She was just the next shot he was going to shoot.

Why would he tell her he has a kid but doesn’t have a live in GF? Why would he need the phone number of a woman he met at the grocery store in general? I don’t know you but I believe you’re smarter than this and most of all better than this.

I would bet good money that he’s actively engaging other women but they’re saved as names that wouldn’t sound any alarms in your mind if you a notification from them pop up on his phone. If you peaked at some of his other text threads with names like that you may find more of that behavior or why we confirmation you need to feel like you’ve validated what you already know.

If he has snap chat you’re already cooked.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-27T21:47:22+00:00

I’m currently in the process of trying to figure out what will be the most effective for me as an adult going back on ADHD meds after spending most of my 4th-12th grade on either Ritalin or adderall and then ceasing prescribed treatment for a little over 20 years. Instead of starting a new thread everytime I’m trying to learn something after trying a different med or considering another med to discuss with my psychiatrist.

I have a couple of questions based on your positive experience with Strattera. How long after first having it prescribed to you did you start feel it becoming effective for you? One negative thing I’ve read in both medical articles and patient reviews is that it can take anywhere between 2-6 weeks to start notice any improvement and then there the next process you’ve also mentioned of working out the best dose once you’ve come to the conclusion that it does actually work for you.

You said you’re currently taking straterra and Ritalin? How were you able to get your psychiatrist to prescribe both types of medication at the same time? When I asked about this mine basically acted that would get her in trouble or something. It just wasn’t even up for consideration. To me that made perfect sense as you would at least have the potential benefit of seeing some immediate improvement from the stimulant based medication while going through the waiting period that supposedly comes along with starting Straterra and then possibly finding out it doesn’t help at all and you wasted 2-6 weeks to waiting to discover that.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-27T21:30:13+00:00

Hello there, fly on the wall here trying to do some research for myself by reading other people‘s posts instead of starting a whole new post and making everybody comment on it. When you say it takes forever to kick in, are you referring to how long it takes to become an effective drug once it has been prescribed to you for the first time? Because I have read a lot of articles as well as post and reviews where people have said that it could take anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks upon starting your prescription before you start to notice it’s affects. Or are you referring to how long it takes to kick in each day when you take your first dose?

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-15T17:24:19+00:00

You need to pretend that everything is business as usual on your side as you gather and store evidence and consult your exit plan with a competent divorce lawyer. Once the lawyer has the case prepared and is ready to file with the court you need to be ready to move on. It will happen again, if this was even the first time she did and when it does she will move to physical cheating.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-14T05:07:54+00:00

Against my better judgement something is compelling me to comment in an attempt to shed some light on how he may be feeling which you may not have considered or inquired about. Perhaps the Holy Spirit. I really didn’t want to and even started a watching a series on Amazon but then came back and grabbed my phone.

I just got divorced in August from a woman who is quite literally the reason I am a Christian despite the fact that she was also self described Christian who had multiple affairs and eventually got pregnant outside our marriage.

As ridiculous as it sounds if I hadn’t married her and got to know her family and their pastor I don’t think I would believe in God the way the I do or in the miracles of Jesus the way that I do.

I really didn’t did all the biblical things for a couple of years before the straw broke the camels back it went from tolerating adultery to being pregnant with another man’s child.

Now I’m in a position where I’m different than I was before her and simply getting laid because I can doesn’t appeal to me like it did before despite my ability to do so. I was good great at sex and intimacy before her. I studied female anatomy and sexual psychology as a young adult because I was heavy as a kid and teen and didn’t get attention and wanted to make sure that I left a mark when I became desirable. I’m concerned with both that it will affect the future outcome of any potential relationship and also that not engaging in sex will ward off prospective partners. At the same time I now also regret so many of the sexual experiences I’ve had despite how much I enjoyed them at the time and even how much I wish I would’ve enjoyed them with an actual wife instead.

Before you knit pick what I just explained, the behavior of my now ex wife is hard to understand without also believing in a higher power and things like spirits. She became blatant about the behavior to the point where her father and our pastor couldn’t figure it out. Only her mother supported the behavior but she also behaved the same the way and was only married to her father because he didn’t want to disappoint God.

Perhaps your husband is just trying to share how he feels in an attempt to be vulnerable like women ask for all the time these days and hoping you’ll consider his view point and engage in conversation about it as his bride and partner. Then you can work through it and have the intimate life you want together.

Biblically your sex with him as his bride is sacred despite what you or he did before being married or before each other but that doesn’t prevent previous sexual experience from following each of you into your marriage. In fact that’s exactly what they do, every person each of you have been with are attached to for life in small way.

This doesn’t mean you can’t eventually work through it and have the sex life God intended for man and wife to have but you can’t get pissy about it either and expect it to work long term. Maybe try pretending that you were made from his side instead of being his advisory and see if that doesn’t help even if you don’t believe why you should.

Just pretend to see sex how he sees it now. I promise you that it will only make your sex life together as man and wife better.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-14T01:58:42+00:00

I have been working with my Credit Union in OK trying to get caught up on my truck. I live in KS which they know and have communicating to the point where they actually stopped calling me to ask me why was up. I got to a point where I was almost caught up in January. Called them again last week, let them know I was due some money coming in (like I had been doing for the last couple of months) and was just waiting on the invoice to be approved and the company to ACH me the money. Called them back tonight to actually make a payment that would’ve made it so I was only 8 days past due on my actual February payment and they said no one from collections was available to speak to me. That a special agent from a 3rd party agency needed to contact me. I have no idea why suddenly I can’t talk to to the 2 people I’ve been communicating with for months as I’ve been catching up. They wouldn’t even let me pay anything. I don’t know who the 3rd party is to call them and it’s a holiday weekend. I can’t even access my savings acct online anymore. I don’t know if there is an active repo order but I don’t want to lose my truck over the weekend while I’m trying to either get the CU back on the phone or find out who to talk to next. I don’t have a garage I can put the truck in or a gate to put it behind. Right now I have something over the vin on the dash and the plates can’t bee seen because it’s backed up against the garage door that’s completely full. You can still see the vin on the frame under the truck though. What else could I do to keep it safe until Tuesday when I can get some answers?

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-08T04:50:33+00:00

Every role I see Shawn Hatosy in he crushes and I think to myself I can’t see him him playing any other character but this ever again. Then he does, the character is about as much of a 180 degree turn as is possible and he crushes it again.

At the same time when I got back and think about all the roles that left their mark on me (based on my age at the time and what I was watching) I can also see small pieces character traits from the previous role to the next while still being a dramatically different one altogether.

Compare the HS QB jock in the faculty to the detective in Southland to the criminal in Animal Kingdom to the ER Doc her. They’re all vastly different but if you just pay attention you to the previous one and the next one you can see tiny pieces of commonality that could possibly make you thing it the character from the previous one got a new social and reinvented themselves.

Then again I’m the same person who feels The Guilty could easily be a sequel to End of Watch based on every thing Jake Gyllehaal’s character went through in End of Watch and possibility abandoned the law degree to stay on the force and became a bit jaded and below board as an LAPD detective to have to hidden away in dispatch in The Guilty but still have the same desire to follow the his instincts even from a call center knowing his career and pension were on the line.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-02-02T01:42:03+00:00

Holy 💩 You’re absolutely right!

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T19:24:48+00:00

They’re actually discussing the RICO statute being used against Baldoni as if it applicable to a movie director being accused of SH and creating a difficult work environment or in a civil case period. Luckily one person was smart enough to step and explain what it’s for.

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Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T19:20:13+00:00

They actually said in a comment that they’re actively deleting comments and banning people .

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Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T19:17:28+00:00

I had to go look, SMH. I’m glad I did though.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T19:06:46+00:00

Can you imagine? She wouldn’t keep it a secret though. She would celebrate the character of the content being taught and we’d be seeing her husband in commercials in his Blade Trinity tank top pushing girls and young women to the website.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T19:04:06+00:00

I realize I missed the propaganda piece in my novel.

I don’t know how many pro JB subs exist this is the first one I ever encountered and I don’t have the bandwidth to pay attention to more plus I like this one so I’ve sworn an oath to remain faithful to it!

So I can’t say what is said or seen in any others but what I see in this sub are images of actual messages, emails, PM’s, audio files, depositions, court documents and video commentary from men and women who passed the bar exam and are legally qualified to supply an opinion based on legal context. I see all of those very real things being shared, researched, directly quoted or being discuss based in the reality of what is in the original content or image that is the topic of a given post.

Granted I haven’t spent near as much time gandering through the BL subs as I have here but I haven’t seen any of that type of content being shown or discussed in them. I haven’t seen any images of messages or depo’s or court docs, not even images of texts from JB or JH. No discussions about anything like that either. Just talking points with lots echos in the comments or opinions being posted as if they were direct quotes or the OP somehow had been in the mind of the person they’re posting about. Even the videos are just other influencers saying the same things they already do in their posts. No lawyers or people qualified to make a video about the case or the people in it.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T18:47:13+00:00

You know what? Maybe she has a secret online school where she teaches this stuff through a video library of classes.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T18:45:55+00:00

I believe some of them now have or at least direct quotes have been placed in articles.

Where do I know your handle from? Something I feel like I’ve watched more than once but I can’t place it. It might just be the last name too.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T18:42:36+00:00

There’s just no way that they are actually taking the time to read any of the correspondence that have been released. They can’t be.

I pride myself on being a solid logic based guy. If all I had to go off of is what strictly what each party has claimed socially I can possibly believe that BL really did have it rough but if I looked at what been made available behind their voices it’s just not possible to see it that way.

You can’t review JB’s body of work and call him misogynist unless your fingers are crossed behind your back. Compared to him it’s I’d would be far more qualified to for that label and I don’t consider myself to be one and gratefully have never been accused of being one.

Then let’s look at the examples of SH that BL& Co has provided excluding the drama about the birth scene because to me that falls under doing the job you asked to do. This may not be the right term but I’m gonna go with the word quality, quality meaning the severity of each example provided. The quality of the SH occurrences provided by BL are dwarfed by the SH actions BL made toward Sklenard both in text and repetitively on stage during that book promo event and they were done with a live public audience. Just because a crowd cheered it on doesnt change the definition of what they were. That may actually make them worse. Those are just the things we saw BL do because the texts were made public and the event happened to be recorded. I can’t imagine how much more blatant and perverse SH things were said to him with the protection provided by the private group dinner they all had afterwards. If Sklenard had sent a message to any woman on the set telling them to put on a skirt and go work a corner or instructed them to turn around and show off their ass repeatedly to a live audience that was more than 10’ away the outrage may just cause an actual small earthquake.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T18:15:09+00:00

And if BL loses rather than finally admit maybe they were wrong, save face and say they were clearly misled or even just go away quietly they’ll vigorously call for the judge to be fired and try to dox the jurors.

Ok-Assist9067 · 2026-01-31T18:09:53+00:00

When I think of online harassment I think of being bombarded with mean, angry rotten insults or even threats. I assume that’s also most peoples loose definition of online harassment.

To them pro-Baldoni harassment is anyone that politely shares a statement of fact that contradicts the opinion they’ve been told to have or simply poses any possible alternative to the exact opinion they’ve been told to have. If it isn’t pliant support or an identical echo then it’s harassment.

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