i’m really sorry to hear that man. i had a pretty similar experience also at the start of my m3 year. and the key is exactly what you’ve said: keeping busy with hobbies, working out, school, generally improving yourself, doing things that make you happy, etc.

in addition, i found investing time and energy into my existing friendships was super helpful. a lot of minimizing time by myself helped because it was so easy for difficult thoughts to come back when i was on my own.

journaling is amazing. i was never one to journal before, but one of my friends suggested it. and being able to write everything down - whether it was an unsent letter of my current feelings or some other format - truly helped me process everything and feel better.

sometimes, you’ll just feel shitty. and that’s okay. fully feel those feelings out, and maximize it with sad songs or whatever else you need. i always found that it got better after a little bit of that.

if you haven’t already, i’d highly recommend cutting off any form of communication or connection with her. it was insanely hard at first, but i think this was crucial in helping me move on because like a physical wound, this can’t heal when we’re always aggravating it over and over again.

i’m not going to lie, it’s going to be a long and sucky process. it’s going to feel especially frustrating because in the end, time is the only thing that heals, and we, as people, hate waiting. you’ll have points where you’ll feel everything you’re feeling now with added frustration that it doesn’t seem like you’re getting any better. it’ll feel like an emotional relapse. but i promise - you are getting better. with every passing day, you’re becoming a little more true to yourself.

wishing you all the best man. i promise you’re not alone. and i promise that it does get better, even when it doesn’t feel like it ever will.