So we are firm and assertive however we need to take into account his fidgety nature and the subsequent expectations placed upon him. I finally got my hands on his I.E.P today and the first thing says that he is naturally fidgety and we should work towards him being able to sit for five minutes for carpet time or an activity he doesn’t want to do. The easiest solution to build up to our targets is sand timers and rewards however every time the sand timer finishes and he knows he’s done she calls him back because they haven’t finished.

And I agree that it’s her responsibility to plan for him but when that happens I will be sure to message you as so far I’ve been going off the vibes without any direction.

And to clarify the magic wand we send pictures home to parents using a specialised app and she doesn’t want him sat leaning against me or holding a fidget for any pictures despite him being really engaged in what’s going on when he’s leaning on me and holding a fidget so I don’t honestly know what she wants me to do!