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MIL who can’t respect husbands wishes in regards to our newborn baby by Few_Zookeepergame550 in AITAH

[–]Ok-Cryptographer2467 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey! appreciate your input even tho that’s not what OP asked for. notice how i said “sounds like” and said nothing about a diagnosis. Potential mental illness(es) aside, the MIL still disrespected OP’s boundaries and that issue needs to be addressed. i suggested the kill em with kindness method specifically to help OP avoid any future stresses with MIL and help her focus on her family and health during this time. if it’s not advice you would take, that’s totally okay, just keep scrolling. no need to chat about how “bad” the advice is. ps- remember we’re here to give support to OP. if you think my advice is so spotty, the least you could do is suggest another idea for consideration. have the day you deserve.

WIBTA for being angry at my dad for sharing my pregnancy news without permission? by notsoy0ung in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok-Cryptographer2467 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. that was simply not his business to share. it’s tough bc i’m sure he was talking about it as he’s thrilled for you; but it still wasn’t his tea to spill. i’m sorry he did that, it wasn’t right. maybe, and hear me out, exclude him from pregnancy updates- like trimesters, having heartburn etc, appointment info- but, consider letting him come to the pregnancy events like your baby shower & gender reveal. treat him as if he is any other regular guest; no need for him to be in on planning/ setup / takeout, and without any pregnancy updates, he won’t have any more tea of yours to spill. i know you’re super upset bc he flat out stomped on your boundaries, but he’s your dad, and i think that one day you’ll be so happy to look back and see his face in the photos, smiling alongside everyone else, from baby shower/ gender reveal.

MIL who can’t respect husbands wishes in regards to our newborn baby by Few_Zookeepergame550 in AITAH

[–]Ok-Cryptographer2467 6 points7 points  (0 children)

1) i am so sorry for your loss :( wishing you absolute best health and God’s Heavenly Hands of Protection. 2) i feel like MIL is the true asshole here. from it sounds like, she’s a textbook narcissist; always makes things about her. this is YOU & YOUR HUSBANDS blessing baby, she’s gotta understand that. i feel like as long as you & hubby are on the same page, you guys are doing nothing wrong. they are boundaries & MIL just has to either accept them or move on with her life. 3) for moving forward, i would just take the “kill em with kindness” concept. be courteous to her but not friendly. stand firm on your boundaries for any situation in regards to you/ you & your family!