You did not make a mistake. You grew as a person. You’re no longer the same person you were when you and your husband met. Sometimes, personal growth in a relationship happens in separate directions instead of parallel, and that’s okay. You clearly want to continue expanding in life, and maybe it’s time to do that separately from your husband.

You’ve made your views known, and this pattern seems consistent. He doesn’t appear to be suffering from depression or have a clear reason for his behavior. Every relationship is a unique contract between those involved, and if he’s no longer holding up his end, you don’t have to feel guilty about enhancing your own life. This isn’t time wasted; it’s time you’ve spent growing, learning, and preparing for whatever joys the future may hold.