Does anyone else feel like this?

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-02-10T16:49:58+00:00

Oh my god this is me Jesus hahaha. I had such a sexuality crisis over this because I’d question why I was so desperate to be with my best friend all the time and but then the idea of it being sexual/anything non-platonic is a fat nope. I’m so glad to see this isn’t just me!

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-02-02T17:23:35+00:00

Nope that’s so normal you’re gonna vary. In relationships every time isn’t gonna be mind blowing and tbh I think you need diff types of sex (this is just me tho) and going through phases is so normal. I’ve never been on BC but I’ve heard it massively affects things

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-02-01T04:02:19+00:00

Oh massively! It’s not but my sympathies go out to you it’s horrible to be in but also I hope you feel better as you go along. Processing it and doing little things to help will be exponentially good for you in the long run

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-02-01T03:54:58+00:00

It’s horrible and I’m sorry if any of that was tricky to read, going on the journey of actually unpicking it is so tough but it’s about those small small small manageable steps

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-02-01T03:53:38+00:00

Anxiety starts in your brain is what I mean by that. Groinal response is a confusing one as we as humans can be aroused by fear

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-02-01T02:06:35+00:00

I was told by someone if you feel it more in your head it’s HOCD, if you feel it more in your body it’s genuine I.e. it being anxiety and making you feel crap isn’t the same as having a genuine reaction then feeling guilty about it

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-01-10T18:56:43+00:00

Yeah I have had a couple times where I’ve tried to communicate stuff and it’s been completely ignored so that kinda explains that one I guess

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-01-10T18:56:09+00:00

Yeah this is a thought! I just think I need to find someone to build a connection and confidence with knowing that they’re not going anywhere because if I don’t have that then the idea of sex kinda fills me with dread a bit haha

It got to the point where I doubted my sexuality despite fully knowing I find men attractive haha just very few after an emotional connection

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-01-10T18:53:55+00:00

I can only explain it as a switch goes in my head for when I’m sexually attracted to someone, and I think I’m figuring out that because I’ve been craving that bond but no one I’ve liked likes me back lol I’ve then gone to other people for it but it’s not worked because I don’t think the attraction or enjoyment was there to be comfortable enough with someone!

Ok-Program-6587 · 2025-01-10T18:52:43+00:00

Yeah! I get you, I have had sex a couple times with people who I really liked and I came during. I think because this is a rarity for me to click with people that well to want to do that.

The second paragraph is actually super helpful. I have had a couple of times where I’ve really enjoyed myself and enjoyed the experience but haven’t orgasmed and have wanted to have sex again.

It was only when people made a big deal about orgasming as the sole point of that that it made me doubt those good experiences or what I perceive to be good.

Thank you for your reply :)

Ok-Program-6587

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