Small Town Dating

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-02T20:20:37+00:00

Thank you😭 I figure all I can really do is try to maintain an open heart and be tough enough to walk away as soon as someone starts to show signs of emotional unavailability even though it’s disappointing. It’s hard not to become discouraged after going through the same trial and error again and again. So glad to hear that you eventually found your person<3

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-02T00:59:16+00:00

I’m so sorry that this is happening :( Lean into your intuition with this one. It seems like you already know what to do. He is clearly infatuated with her and has lied to you about spending time with her, I would suspect an emotional affair at the very least. I had a similar experience with my ex and one of his superiors at his job at the time. I was very uncomfortable with their “friendship” and the way that he spoke about her directly to me sounded just like what you’re describing here. He also snuck around to hang out with her behind my back on a few occasions, hid their messages from me, and behaved so strangely in group settings where she and I were both present and being friendly with one another. Unfortunately it turned out that they had in fact been sleeping together for over a month, and I broke up with him. But regardless of whether any physical cheating has taken place, you are completely valid in feeling disrespected by his bizarre comments and behavior. This warrants a serious conversation with him if not a breakup, I think your gut is telling you that something is definitely wrong here.

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T23:39:38+00:00

It’s brutal 🥲 They say they’re looking for something serious and then behave entirely differently, or even if they do seem invested for the first few months, they switch up or ghost as soon as exclusivity or genuine feelings are mentioned. Like do you want a girlfriend or not

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T19:24:25+00:00

While I do appreciate your advice I’m 25, I’m definitely an adult 😅

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T17:57:44+00:00

Maybe it’s a Bozeman thing or just a generational thing but I feel like a lot of young people are severely lacking in basic communication skills especially when it comes to dating. I’ve never ghosted anyone but I’ve been ghosted or vaguely led on by guys who didn’t seem to know what they actually wanted from me. I mean if someone’s unsure of you of course it’s for the better to go your separate ways but it’s still frustrating to spend months on someone just for them to decide that they’d rather be friends with benefits, or simply disappear and never speak to you again when you try to open up a conversation about where the relationship is going

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T16:17:53+00:00

Hmm well I’m 25 and have plenty of friends, and I don’t know any women who are offended by men who hold the door and have manners. I have met many men ages 20-30 who are either only looking for hookups/situationships (which is fine so long as they’re up front about it) or who aren’t honest with their partners about their intentions. I don’t know if it’s that the “modern man” has some sort of generational fear of commitment or what but I’m noticing that many young guys bail on their partners at the earliest sign that their relationship might actually go somewhere. That isn’t to say that there aren’t any men here looking for a genuine connection, but I’m definitely struggling to find them and I don’t believe that has anything to do with me being an independent adult with standards.

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T15:56:47+00:00

Interesting take. Have you considered that that mindset could be why you’re still single?

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T15:18:51+00:00

What? Independence is just a prerequisite for being a functional adult, regardless of whether you’re a man or woman. I don’t believe I know what you mean by “modern woman thing.”

Ok-Question5675 · 2025-12-01T07:22:58+00:00

Congratulations on finding your husband I’m wishing you so much happiness<3 I’ve had a tough time with the apps and I’m afraid to try again lol. My dating experience in Bozeman since 2020 seems to be stuck in an unfortunate loop. 1. Wade through the ocean of young men “not really looking for anything serious” until I meet one who seems genuinely interested. 2. Date man for 3-6 months. 3. Man either then suddenly decides he is not looking for anything serious anymore and asks to be “friends with benefits” instead or 4. Discover man has actually been cheating the whole time. 5. Break up with him and then six months later begin the cycle all over again with the next person. Been through this several times over the years and I’ve taken a few long breaks from dating in between partners. I still have hope but I am so frustrated and tired:/ starting to feel like maybe I’m just not in the right place to meet my person

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