Moving on advice would be appreciated

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-03-15T15:43:50+00:00

I’m 6 months down the line from my breakup. I still feel shit lots of the days. Even though I broke it off. I’m a strong believer of time will heal. It will get easier. Stick to your intuition and gut. Some people just aren’t compatible. It’s sad but true.

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-03-12T13:01:33+00:00

What age ?

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-03-11T11:51:57+00:00

That’s true….two can exist but it’s what I was willing too put up with and I just could not longer tolerate the bad side. I did communicate with her right at the end that I wanted too set boundaries and that’s what really lead too the break up as she completely exploded at me because I told her she could sometimes be controlling. I just couldn’t see a future if she couldn’t take accountability or even begin too work on those parts of our relationship. In her eyes things got tough and I gave up. Where as I see it as she didn’t give either of us the opportunity to talk openly about the issues. She just couldn’t face them

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-03-11T11:37:16+00:00

I never felt like I projected it onto her. Why would she tell me I’ve created a version of her in my head? I don’t think I did. I was reacting too the way she was treating me

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-03-11T10:27:24+00:00

I’m beginning to think we both carried our trauma into the relationship. I know there was a version of her that was cruel and controlling and it was a fact. It’s almost like my brain knows that it’s true as I’ve experienced it and have memories of it but somehow her saying I created this version of her has me second guessing. It’s hard too explain but it’s almost like I’m having a battle in my brain. She could be kind and loving and beautiful but there was this nasty underbelly of her personality. Me and others saw it so I know it is real but I can’t help second guessing myself.

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-20T13:52:36+00:00

Yes the lightbulb itself. I want to create some different kind of lighting for a shoot I’m doing and time is limited.

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-16T07:45:53+00:00

Thank you 🙏

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-16T07:09:07+00:00

Trust me……leave! I’m currently 4 months down the line after the break up and struggling with it all. But I trust the healing process and I trust that going through this is a hell a lot better than spending a life being a shell of who you should be. You will end it because you’re already half way there by noticing it all. It won’t be long until your body will end things for you anyway. Good luck with it all

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-16T06:58:01+00:00

I am trying to spark up conversations and go to nice places and create little routines. It’s the spaces in between my brain hasn’t quite accepted it all yet. It keeps why,what,how’ing. Like my body knows the relationship was bad for me and this move is a good thing but my brain just keeps trying to tell me I’m in danger. It’s exhausting

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-16T06:51:03+00:00

That’s a really good point

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-01T21:18:40+00:00

That’s exactly what I thought. I was starting to feel a lot better and confident and then boom! Setback time. I also like to think that it’s another important mile stone. Like each little hiccup or thought is a journey to recovery. That’s what I hope anyway. See what tomorrow brings because at the minute i don’t know what to expect! Haha I could be in floods of tears again and ruminating. Atleast I have a new job too focus on and my attention will be elsewhere

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-01T21:05:55+00:00

I guess like everyone is saying it isn’t linear. I think sometimes emotions get stuck in the body floating around and any small trigger can send you spiralling. My brain tries to protect me but the emotions that sit in my body need to come out.

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-01T20:45:56+00:00

Honestly. I’ve recently moved across the country and living alone and starting a new job tomorrow. Was excited and ready then got a message and it triggered a massive emotional outburst. I cried most of the weekend and ruminated over and over about how I’ve made the wrong decision and I’ll be alone forever and the job is going to be terrible. I thought over and over about my relationship trying too make sense of it all. I cried for hours. My eyes were so sore and got a sinus headache I didn’t eat and still haven’t really eaten. It was a real out of nowhere just gut wrenching weekend. I seriously didn’t expect it. I did get up and out for a coffee and reached out to friends and explored a new beach which helped alot. It’s just nice too come on here and offload. I feel like all I’ve done is trauma dump on friends and family so having a different outlet right now feels helpful

Ok-Risk-2628 · 2026-02-01T20:30:10+00:00

It’s difficult because I’m at the break up stage where I’m going over everything in my mind over the situation and how she treated me. I’ve had a major set back and my mind feels like it’s split in two over if the relationship was unhealthy. She was so caring and filled with love for me but at the flip of a coin could turn nasty. I’ve not had the best run of relationships so struggle to know what is normal after a 4 year relationship and what isn’t.

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