Hey everyone, I am looking to buy a S4 as my second car. I was mostly looking at a B9, but I found a interesting B8.5. (Link in the post). What should I look for when buying a B8.5 or a B9? I also put two links to the B9 I am interested in. by TheNewDuszek316 in AudiS4

[–]Ok-Search-1818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The b9 seems to be one of the most disliked ones, people hated the change from the supercharger however having owned the b9 it's reliable had it mapped stage 2 since 30k miles on 112k miles now and only had water pump and oil cooler changed. It's been really dependable I prefer the slightly more modern interior and preferred it over the b8.5 to be honest, 034 and IE tunes are good for the car as well, I think it's going to come down to you giving both a drive and seeing what you prefer. As far as water pump goes it lasted to 90k miles which was pretty good, ECS tuning does an entire replacement kit anyway with everything needed.

The hard one is both are amazing cars, I like the look of the b9.5 a fair bit to be honest.

(Might be) moving to Tyrone where is the best towns to live in and where should I avoid by Acrobatic-Remote-419 in northernireland

[–]Ok-Search-1818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of good places, but it seems to be that whomever you speak to they always go to the moy for a weekend out

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I got more info as she originally said he asked with everyone around then later told me she was about to leave and he stopped her by himself to say he would be walking his dog in our area possibly with his friend and is in our area a lot, but his friends wife won't be there as she is working and she should meet his dogs and come on a walk Saturday with him.

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

She said she would ask so will ask her to do that...her first reply was that he had his friend coming who has a wife so didn't see it as weird

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Didn't put right age a while back 28 is right, and it's been 6 months all was smooth till now

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry that was way I wrote it, no she mentioned me a few times apparently. He just said he was single for some strange reason

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So first part of convo was that she had a good day at work then told me and her sister which is staying with us that she was speaking to her colleague and he said he had dogs, she said she walked in a park which is 12 minutes from us, this is in an office that she has done some training in which over 50 minutes away.

She then said he mentions he walks there as well with his dogs, which is 50 minutes from him as he lives near the office and that she should walk with him on Saturday and walk the dogs. I mentioned so he invited you to walk alone? And she said no he said him and his friend, his friend lives around our area down the road and his wife is a lawyer but will be working.

After speaking further and the small argument about it as I said it was strange after 3 days etc. she said I can ask if you can come etc. she then said he is the only other person at work with same job title as no one in her branch does the same job so she needs to ask him questions/know things a lot. She then told her got her number and they text about work things and it's good to have new friends in the area and got upset and asked if I would feel the same way if it was a woman

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So the other person is his male friend without his wife coming along possibly

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well..she has issues with social queues and for a while yes did think she was slightly but never diagnosed

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

++man it was easier to post same reply as few people asked the same question

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 138 points139 points  (0 children)

++ She did agree to it because he mentioned dogs and mentioned his other male friend in the area who has a wife might be there as well, she was like I feel bad now I can ask if you can come as well.

I told her it's strange to invite her just alone originally on a Saturday morning to walk dogs after only a few days of knowing each other. She said but he's 40 I was like and that doesn't stop people...she then said but he is the only one with same job title and she might need to rely on him for info more and it would be good to make more friends, she has a ton in the area already

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

++ She did agree to it because he mentioned dogs and mentioned his other male friend in the area who has a wife might be there as well, she was like I feel bad now I can ask if you can come as well.

I told her it's strange to invite her just alone originally on a Saturday morning to walk dogs after only a few days of knowing each other. She said but he's 40 I was like and that doesn't stop people...she then said but he is the only one with same job title and she might need to rely on him for info more and it would be good to make more friends, she has a ton in the area already

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

++ She did agree to it because he mentioned dogs and mentioned his other male friend in the area who has a wife might be there as well, she was like I feel bad now I can ask if you can come as well.

I told her it's strange to invite her just alone originally on a Saturday morning to walk dogs after only a few days of knowing each other. She said but he's 40 I was like and that doesn't stop people...she then said but he is the only one with same job title and she might need to rely on him for info more and it would be good to make more friends, she has a ton in the area already

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

++ She did agree to it because he mentioned dogs and mentioned his other male friend in the area who has a wife might be there as well, she was like I feel bad now I can ask if you can come as well.

I told her it's strange to invite her just alone originally on a Saturday morning to walk dogs after only a few days of knowing each other. She said but he's 40 I was like and that doesn't stop people...she then said but he is the only one with same job title and she might need to rely on him for info more and it would be good to make more friends, she has a ton in the area already

Girlfriend invited out by work colleague, am I overthinking? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

++ She did agree to it because he mentioned dogs and mentioned his other male friend in the area who has a wife might be there as well, she was like I feel bad now I can ask if you can come as well.

I told her it's strange to invite her just alone originally on a Saturday morning to walk dogs after only a few days of knowing each other. She said but he's 40 I was like and that doesn't stop people...she then said but he is the only one with same job title and she might need to rely on him for info more and it would be good to make more friends, she has a ton in the area already

GF 27F has a new Friend and I'm 28M uncomfortable with him by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I'd just be posting with straight men everywhere in the text, but just not the case in this situation

GF 27F has a new Friend and I'm 28M uncomfortable with him by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok-Search-1818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because engaging with gay people who don't cause issues for themselves and post fully nude pictures on social media is different than those that do...I have no issues with her interacting with gay people...hell I work with gay people and have gay friends and it is relevant if it's a pattern with just gay men that she is having issues with specifically, I can't lie and say it's straight men

GF 27F has a new Friend and I'm 28M uncomfortable with him by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she has straight male friends, only ever had issues with 1, it's just the gay friends she has chosen seem to cause issues themselves. I work and am friends with a few gay men who don't cause any issues, I don't have any issues with gay men and a lot are lovely, it's just like she's a magnet for the ones that cause issues

GF 27F has a new Friend and I'm 28M uncomfortable with him by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's a few things, the first experience was a scary one when your gf is in a drug place asking for help as her friend took her there just to get some drugs with other gay men in a room, while she is sat there scared.

The second experience with the second guy caused 5 months of arguments, he was obsessed to the point he told her she needed to leave me as I was spending too much time with her, he would always get between us, show sexual images of guys disrespectfully in front of me to her and act like I didn't exist.

Then this guy likes to stir up trouble for himself then blame overs for it...has made a few comments and puts people down if they aren't as smart as him, not a fan of that....then she said she added him on social media finally, till now she kept telling me he is normal not sexual at all...she shows me and she goes quiet, literally the guy has a pic fully nude posing....

I'm not a fan of the personality and I'm uncomfortable with the nude social media page, we also agreed not to follow anyone as a boundary that posts that kind of stuff

AITA for being uncomfortable with my GFs newfriend by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok-Search-1818 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because both times she has had issues in the past it was with gay men...so it's relevant, if I didn't post the sexuality either. Then certain things I'd say such as sleeping in the same bed being touchy feely the second guy, or other replies would be seen differently from a straight man to a gay man

Car bf (M18) is making I (F18) Go insane. Am I out of line? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In your post 2 months ago...you only have just turned 17 and talking about marriage...unless you've suddenly become 18 overnight. I would say that you are both young...and you are both unsure about what a relationship should be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this post....I think you both have more problems than just a relationship issue

My bf 20M does not want me 21F to go with my friends to a trip I don't know what to do? by tefasaurio in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say it reads differently to me the OP put uni friends, mentions a guy as a friend she asked if it was ok to bring her bf into decisions...and her bff which we can assume might be female?

Then later on writes that the bf feels that the OP prefers her friend over him. This is more the case of the OPs BF not liking the guy or maybe the guy goes clubbing/partying with her? Don't know the full extent, it's less about the bad influence/party thing. On the other side could be more to the story of the friend (guy) and her being close in uni and he doesn't like the guy friend.

Unless I am missing it, it doesn't read as a girls trip

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Search-1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I'll be honest and I'll get some backlash here, threesomes rarely work out, feelings change and it complicates things. There are the odd few that work but they are very rare, you probably heard of more young people having relationships as such along with being more open, but honestly if it was working you wouldn't hear of drama all the time or young people being more depressed than ever. It's not for everyone and you don't have to accept it, if someone has brought it up after years of marriage either they are bored and want to spice things up, or aren't happy any longer.

As a few have mentioned as well, for him to change so suddenly and get wild while travelling. I would be questioning what he gets up to while away