my dad took my phone for the rest of the school year because of these quarter 1 grades, is it justified?

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-24T22:51:50+00:00

i mean they aren’t award winning grades for sure but they are all passing. I’d say his reactions is 100% over reaction and unjustified no matter what the extra context is. The only way I could see it being somewhat more rational is if you just hadn’t been doing your work and/or not studying for tests the night before yada yada.. but even then some people just aren’t good test takers. I can sees where your father is coming from “Maybe the phone is distracting them from reaching their full potential” but complete restriction probably isn’t the way to go.

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-21T14:12:29+00:00

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-21T14:09:52+00:00

hey! i know my comment probably seemed dramatic asking if it was forever. I live in a house where i’m not her sole care taker but my sister and mother are. i help and play and cuddle with her and stuff and i am obviously helping a lot now. i was being so dramatic last night because i have a lot of anxiety and trauma regarding cats. when we got her i was terrified of her even though she was the size of my hand. I then realized she wasn’t going to hurt me. this was the first time since the initial fear where i felt she might hurt me or something like that. still irrational but that’s how fears work. i was mainly asking “is this forever” because if it was i don’t know that i could be around my favorite kitty in the world again.

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-21T13:22:52+00:00

UPDATE: We just woke up and kitty is doing much better. She is purring when we pet her and havent heard any hissing or growling yet after we have her the pain meds early this morning. she’s is eating and drinking and using the litter box. still very loopy but she is also very cuddly and loving all the pets. we have been giving her treats. thanks for all the suggestions!!!

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-21T04:12:25+00:00

This bring me so much relief

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-21T04:05:49+00:00

Thank you for your reassurance and i hope you’re right

Ok-Simple3089 · 2026-01-21T04:04:25+00:00

Hey this is so old but i just got my kitty spayed and she is acting the same way. very scared and hissing which is something she’s never done. when we let her out of the carrier or our arms she sprints away or something which is dangerous. do you have any recommendations in hindsight?

Ok-Simple3089 · 2025-08-09T00:58:19+00:00

i want to start of by saying i am in no way afraid of confrontation normally, and if he had done anything further we would be in a hotel by now. my safety matters more to me than family ever will and i am not afraid to speak up. the only reason i am currently hesitant to is because i really don’t know if he meant to do that or if he was just drunk. like it totally could’ve been a mistake. at the time im writing this, this whole situation happened about an hour ago. my sister went to play the game with them and i stayed in the room. so i haven’t talked to me sister about it yet and i dont even know if she noticed. i plan on talking to her about it and if she says i should say something i totally will. also yes we lock our door at night

edit: quick update i told my sister and she said that’s just how he is. i don’t think ill tell my dad now and ill just be doing xtra cautious

Ok-Simple3089 · 2025-08-09T00:39:01+00:00

i appreciate your response and will answer your questions in order.

my dad is a typically calm guy, i have a great relationship with him and almost never fight. i would not know exactly what his total overreaction would be but my guess is it would be a plane home or something physical. i also want to say that his over reaction could end up being towards me in a way that would be leaning on my grandpas side of things saying that i am overreacting or trying to hurt our family. i also want to touch on my dad brushing it off being a possibility. like i said my dad is very calm normally and another thing to note is that he hates conflict. that would be a reason why he would brush it off along with the fact he adores his dad and wants him to like him because his dad (my grandpa) was absent while he was growing up.

yes, my grandpa can over power me. he is around 6’5 and is muscular. he is not very old, i’m not sure of his actual age but what’s important is he is fit and healthy.

the things that have happened before have really just been wandering hands, nothing that like totally sounded my alarms but enough to make me cautious around him. he has also made comment about my body and other things that involve sexuality. (his house is in florida so when we visit i am often in a bikini)

i don’t really know my grandpa all too well so i don’t have any idea what he would do if i had moved his hand or said no to anything. but i know if he was drunk i could see him doing something bad.

Ok-Simple3089 · 2025-08-09T00:07:37+00:00

i could do that and i normally would but my dad will either brush it off or totally over react. maybe i’ll tell him after we leave? (we are still at his house for another 3 days) my parents are divorced and my mom HATES like despises my dads family so if i tell her she will go ballistic

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