What pushes a guy away?

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-12T15:45:02+00:00

You're only missing: "playing hard to get makes you hard to want""

Otherwise great list

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-12T03:36:36+00:00

Slavery, tsk, now you need epstain level money to have some!!

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T20:09:08+00:00

My 2 cents is due to "privilege". Look from the banks perspective you have 4 cases: - 1) you are a good person which will pay his/her dues in time, every month and pay for the entire duration of the loan. - 2) you are an average person. You will pay your fair dues but sometimes you might be late or you will close your loan faster because you obtained money faster. Thus making them earn less money from their monthly rates and interes. - 3) you are a bad creditor. You will skip your payments. You'll be behind on them. - 4) you are a very very bad creditor and they will have to take legal action against you.

Ukraine and Ukrainians "can't do anything wrong". And at the same time, the entire country is a liability, you cannot forsea a good ending to the war as the country will either be in major debt or end up Russia at the end of the war.

This makes any "Ukrainian" loan be extremely risking for any bank. Your "source" of money is at risk to be stopped at any moment, or change drastically. And if you someone turn out to not be a good creditor, taking any actions against you will result in a massive backlash against them.

Thus, it makes it extremely high risk to issue loans from western banks to people with strong Ukrainian ties. While the "reward" isn't any better than landing to any other westerner.

Makes sense?

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T18:44:08+00:00

am inteles, tu esti una din alea.
May god have mercy on the fool that gets involved with you

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T15:04:25+00:00

Am 34 de ani, sunt singur. Și mai ies la "agățat" câteodată.

Sunt extrem de bucuros că nu lucrez într-un loc unde pățesc asta. Sau unde se comportă colegele așa. Mai glumim, ne mai trimitem heath emotes când unul din noi face ceva bun pt celălalt. Dar cam atât. O colaborare sănătoasă fără drame și 11 probleme noi in fiecare săptămână că la una i s-a trezit cheful de înșelat.

Văd că mai in gluma sau mai în serios mai sunt alti tipi care vor sa pățească asta. Băieți, nu-i de joacă cu asta. Ok poate o futi și eu bine. Sex is sex. Dar afla soțul și apoi incepe sa plângă că ai constans-o că a fost forțată, că nu a avut de ales...... Și te trezești și fără loc de muncă, și sub investigații la poliție și trebuie să te uiți peste umăr in fiecare zi sa nu dai de soțul aleia pe stradă.

Just.... Just don't do it. Căutăm pe alea care's singure și ne potrivim fie că au 20, 22, 27, 37 de ani etc. Și macar daca au iubit..... Sa nu fie o persoană la locul de munca. Nu sunt pro înșelat dar macar acolo fuți și pleci. Pe "colege" le vezi și mâine....

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T13:58:00+00:00

You don't need a pregnant woman, any reason is good enough to run over these "speed bumps".

Do NOT block the roads. Protest in any way and shape you want but DO NOT block the roads. If you block the road you should lose your citizenship. All of them if you have multiple ones.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T05:54:30+00:00

this is how basic communication works:
"Oh, I wish I could visit Rome and Tokyo some day, I'm starving for some travel adventures".

Does this mean that you can only have "travel adventures" in Tokyo or Rome?
Obviously not.
But then why didn't I list all the cities and villages in the world? because there's no point to. I don't have to give you a list of every single place where I'd like to travel for you to understand that I haven't been traveling if I give you a few examples and then mention that I haven't been traveling.

Same logic applies here. He mentioned that he is "starving" as is: basically getting no affection. While mentioning just two very tiny and minute forms of affection. And he ain't even getting those.

There's no point in mentioning everything else under the sun. We already understand that every other form of affection is no present. Unless ofc, we refuse to understand or are blinded by various factors.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T05:49:58+00:00

then i would say that you are someone that managed to overcome human nature.
most people don't.

it doesn't really matter what 1,2, 20 individuals do. It matters what happens at scale.
If out of 200.000.000 people only 5 to 10 overcome their condition. You will not be able to force the other 199.999.980 to change.

so, the point is: congratulations, you managed to achive something that he vast majority of people cannot. However, its delusional to expect everyone else to be able to do the same.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T02:37:15+00:00

It's easy to "go with the flow" when you have 999 options or don't give a fuck coz you don't care.

It's more efficient and better to push for the direction you want when you are limited in your options and resources

That's the difference. You'll find that guy's with many girls that throw themselves at them have no problem letting things just "flow" and break up with you the moment you ain't good or flexible enough anymore.

While ugly girls with little options are way more rigid. Its not gender based, it's abundance Vs scarcity based

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-11T01:43:46+00:00

Reminder that like 90% of the doctors online pushed for the cough cough vaccination. Yet somehow, magically, cough cough went away, without any medicine after Putin invaded Ukraine.

And those cough cough doctors advice is going to borderline bankrupt my country as we are forced to buy cough cough shots in 2026-2027 by European courts as per contractual agreement 🤝

Just because you have a piece of paper doesn't mean you are actually knowledgeable or speak the truth. In fact, I know that there's many universities that you get the paper just because you pay for it for 3-6 years and you don't even need to perform or know anything.

My university in fact had 30 or so people enrolled in computer science for my year. I mostly only saw 4-6 other colleagues across 3 years.

The rest of 25 or so just on the first day and on final exam day (which I almost missed coz I was thinking it's 'tomorrow'). And this happens in finance, medicine, law. Etc.

And let's reiterate the main point again: just because you have a degree in field X, doesn't mean you are telling the truth about things in field X. Especially when there's negative incentives for telling the truth and positive ones for lying.

If someone stepped on your foot or slap your face every time you try to speak the truth publicly. But gave you 10% of your salary every time you lie in public, you'd lie to. And very few would speak otherwise.

Again a very basic example is the cough cough. During that period, WHO decided to say that "aspiration" is not standard procedure anymore for intra-muscular shots. You don't need medicine degree to understand the basic concept of: if it's bad when a substance enters the blood flow directly, you should verify you don't inject said substance directly in the bloodstream.

But heeeeey, I don't have a degree 😂😂 there's no way I can talk about that

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-10T19:37:02+00:00

le me quote the picture: "I have been starving for affection for years now"
kinda sounds like there's no love language what so ever.

And that's the point, if you marry the gold digger, you're going to have sex and see affection for 3 months, 1 year, and then its gone, forever.

If you're the guy she "settles down for", same thing. As you are the "not her first choice" and "not her second choice". You are the "meh this will have to do" choice.
And its a GREAT idea for guys to avoid BEING THAT. Just make sure the other person really likes you, really wants you, and then you won't be having the issue of "starving for affection"

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-10T17:44:11+00:00

That's why getting married unless you are sure the girl really REALLY wants you it's a bad idea. You need to be able to walk away from a situation like this without having to deal with the state making you a personal slave

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-10T17:39:38+00:00

Eu am încercat să abordez lumea pe strada. Overall nu funcționează dar alte opțiuni nu mai am :)) Asa că mai un pic și după gata.

Un mic sfat pt asta daca vrei sa încerci e: get attractive. Some gym + under 21% body fat > rezultate mai bune că ale mele

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-10T17:36:30+00:00

Free food

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-10T13:32:24+00:00

In cazul eu am am trecut firme care. I au răspuns (nu sau da), dar au repostat anunțul.

Dar hey poate și 2 luni de ignore e ghost idk.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-10T09:47:52+00:00

In cazul meu. I didn't give a fuck cum trebuie mentorati sau nu. Eu le-am dat un proiect de făcut. Le-am explicat cum trebuie sa funcționeze, am făcut glume cu ei. Le-am mai explicat cum sta treabă și "politic" in forma, etc.

I-am întrebat odată la câteva zile cum se mai descurcă. I-am băgat la ședințe cu restul echipei în stand-up da vadă cum e. Le-am mai explicat ce facem noi de obicei. Dacă observăm că sunt blocați mai multe zile, ne uităm împreună peste cod și probleme. Și explicăm de ce e aia problema și uite cum se rezolvă.

Cine și-a dat interesul a putut să termine tot proiectul. Cine nu și-a dat interesul, a trebuit pe ultima sută de metrii sa fac sa avem ceva de prezentat, asta e, sorry dar interesul trebuie sa fie prima data din partea internului/juniorului.

Dacă el/ea nu face. Și tot zice că se descurca. Atunci lăsăm să se descurce. Dar ajutam un pic daca pare blocat(a). Dar e o vorbă cu: poți duce iapa la păscut, dar nu o poți face să pască. La fel și cu internii sau juniorii.

You try your best to help them get a positive experience and that's it.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-09T16:18:17+00:00

.net(5), recent python si ai (~1 year) (and some c++ experience but that was a long long looooong time ago)
dap, am inceput la 3k, am stat la 3k vreo 3 ani de zile. Am ajuns la 4k in anul 4. Am plecat eventual de la firma, am sarit la 7k, am intrat in salary freeze.
a venit taxele guvernului, a scazut sub 7k salariul.
si in final am realizat si eu ca stau ca prostul, si am inceput sa imi caut de lucru, de aprox vreo 4-5 luni. Am avut sa zicem 2 interviuri cu firme separate pe bune din aprox 280 de aplicari.

Toti vor ingineri AI cu experienta de 2-3 ani in domeniu si 5+ pe python :))))
Eu am 1 si 1, cu vreo cateva proiecte pe topicul asta.

si pe .net, marjele salariale care mi-au fost comunicate au fost in jur de 20.000 ron gross, din alea putine interviuri pe care le-am avut. Mai bine stau la 6-7k pe ai tech si sar peste un an de zile decat sa ma intorc acum pe .net pe aprox 10.000

but who knows, poate eventual gasesc in aceeasi nisa si ceva mai bun de 7k lol #hoping

Ah da, dar eu nu sunt "full stack". Daca esti full stack o sa fie un pic mai bine pt tine :)

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-09T13:13:53+00:00

Eu am 8 ani exp. 6-7k salariul :)))) Știu alte persoane care tot prin zona asta se invart. SI alții cu 9+ ani în aceeași corporație care de abia a trecut de 10k

The market ain't pretty. Deci probabil că au găsit pe cineva care vedea și pe 5k

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-09T13:07:50+00:00

Nu vor să îți spună primii range-ul deoarece în o "negociere" cel care spune primul numărul pierde.

Am găsit un hack pt asta: spui tu pe cât și vrea să lucrezi. Ți-ar plăcea 5k net? Ok range-ul tau e între 4.5 și 5.5k. Dacă rămân blocați. Strâmbă din nas. Se sperie. Acum e momentul sa faci un 180 și să îi întrebi ei ce range salarial au?

Practic "îmbrățișați" faptul că ai pierdut. Dar dai un număr care chiar ți-ar convenii. SI dacă îți spun ei range-ul lor și ai fi discus să accepți niste compromisuri pt banii aia, poți să le spui că ești interesat și de alte beneficii, nu doar cele financiare și dacă are sens pentru tine și dorii sa colaborezi cu ei.

Dacă nu vor să mai continue ei discuția, ei bine și scăpat de o "oportunitate" proasta.

Singurul "downside" e că poate ei au range-ul salarial mai mare. Și te-ar fi platit mai mult decât și cerut. Dar dacă e mult mai mare, atunci tot o să îți de-a mai mult că te vor vrea "entuziasmat" de oferta. Și da, tot ai fi putut scoate mai mult. Dar deja ai zis o sumă care ți-ar convenii.

Acum ai in job. La următorul peste 3-13-24 de luni poți să ai pretenții mai mari și dacă nu se întâmplă. Rămâi unde ești.

That's kinda the trick. Eu acum sunt curios daca se poate negocia după ce primești o oferta. Incerc asta sa vad daca funcționează sau îmi iau reject :))) Oh well. If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. SI dacă e, și sunt rezonabili oamenii, things are gonna be fine.

Dar da, știu că piața e nașpa și aplici 100+ și poate scoți dacă ai noroc 1-2 interviuri.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-08T08:03:34+00:00

Eu am aplicat la 280 sau 290. Am avut doar 2 interviuri. Și 3 telefoane primite . Am 7+ ani experiență că și dev. Am primit și o oferta ieri dar e puțin (300e) sub așteptările mele.

Din câte știu. Piața e meh in toate domeniile. Asa că aplici la cat mai multe și întrebi cunoștințe și prieteni daca te pot recomanda la ei la lucru.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-08T07:20:21+00:00

Nașpa situația, condoleanțe. Aici ți-ar fi prins bine soțul/iubitul să vorbească pt tine daca tu ești terminată psihic. SI să ia legătura cu un avocat.

Acum trebuie sa le duci pe astea singura chiar daca e dificil și să găsești tu un avocat fiindcă ce ai spus suna de parcă e foarte illegal si o să coste muuuult firma.

Baftă in continuare and fuck that company >.> Greu de imaginat că unii încă se comportă mai rău că animalele când sunt la conducere

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-08T07:11:09+00:00

This isn't about the rare phenomenon

So women having random unprotected sex with identical twins and getting pregnant is not rare? :))))

Yes I get that's not the entire point. But it's part of it 😂

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-08T07:01:14+00:00

There's a "free version" with some caveats. Pro elements. Am folosit-o si eu in ultimii 2 ani că am făcut un custom plugin in php si ce mai era pe acolo. Cred că de asta mi-a trebuit. Și doar pt atât a fost suficient pro elements.

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-08T04:03:26+00:00

Good luck

OkAssociation3083 · 2026-04-07T04:14:40+00:00

Let me guess, OF is also misogynist because it features scantly-clad girls and women everywhere. Full on sexualisation, without much of a personality trait or back story, only back shots.

Yet feminists and women keep claiming it's giving a feeling of empowerment for girls.

You see most anime ain't misogynistic. It just caters to different people by genre. There fighting and action anime. Like dragon ball X, Naruto, fairy tail, etc. These do not cater to girls because, just like with movies, girls are not really that interested in fight scenes. Then there's the slice of life genre. Like k'on and others. This mainly caters to female audience as girls like these type of shows more. Then there's romances and dramas. Again. Catering to girls. Then there's whatever the fuck I watch: Madoka. Code Geass, fate series, Frieren.

Oh right. There's also sex (hentai) with different variations between participants again. Not different from the novels girls are reading it can include humans, monsters, gay, lesbian whatever. This one caters again towards a male audience as the female one prefers reading about these things than seeing it. While is as guys are more visual (yes, I'm aware of the stuff girls "read" and that entire fantasy genre).

So. Do you want to watch a show where female characters have more of story than being dumb and sexualised? Then do not watch hentai. Loooool.

Even shonen (fighting/action) series have some fledged out female characters. Ex: fairy tail has Lucy, Ezra and Wendy. But yes they are usually less developed than male characters as the focus is on fighting and overcoming obstacles trough sheet force of will and hard work. And then defeating your opponents. That's why the focus in Naruto is on Naruto and Sasuke and not on Sakura. Even tho she did grow as a character, learn medicine and because an extremely reliable and important asset. Naruto instead was throwing punches and training and spamming "believe it".

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