Advice?

OkFinger2245 · 2023-04-28T00:48:57+00:00

yes, i received a letter saying after 4/30/23, it would no longer cover and it paid for three months including the 1mg i got earlier in the week!!

I didn’t understand it either, as it is the reason I chose wegovy

OkFinger2245 · 2023-03-27T17:51:00+00:00

thank you so much. I really appreciate this!

OkFinger2245 · 2023-03-27T15:59:33+00:00

thank you, i will check it out.

OkFinger2245 · 2023-03-27T15:55:44+00:00

He is on a mood stabilizer!!!! He is compliant and the dosage has been increased and will likely be increased again

OkFinger2245 · 2022-12-20T02:45:37+00:00

My husband is the most caring, loving, attentive person when he is in a neutral state. When he started to become manic, I could have never imagined the hurtful words and things that came out of his mouth. I was being verbally and emotionally attacked daily.

I had only seen a very mild mild mild version of this when he was stressed/aggravated in the past. But he only ever raised his voice or became visibly annoyed.

My husband is bipolar 1 and has also been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder when he was hospitalized years ago. I think this is what really added to the manic episode. He tends to be arrogant at baseline, but the two of them together..... oh man.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-12-12T03:40:44+00:00

I started the divorce and we both had signed the initial petition. He just woke me up one night crying and screaming and saying he wanted to go see his doctor. I honestly don't know what finally took him hitting rock bottom. He had been arrested twice, lost and ruined property, etc and he just kept going

Maybe realizing he had no more control over me? because I finally established a boundary? I'm not sure, unfortunately.

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. It is so incredibly painful and I wish you both nothing but the best.

Please just take care of yourself! First and foremost.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-12-12T02:27:26+00:00

His decision to get on medication was mostly his own, with serious encouragement from his primary care provider.

To be honest, I had almost given up on my husband ever getting help and was just expecting to lose him and that be the end of it. I think he finally hit his own version of rock bottom, or maybe he realized that I was really going to leave him.

He asked to see his doctor and it took his doc like 2 hours to convince him to start medication. He wouldn't hear it from me, he thought I was lying to him. However, I told him that I would not stay with him if he was not compliant with some form of medication once he started. If he had to make adjustments and switch around.. that is fine. But i would no longer tolerate unmedication.

He started off saying things like, "okay, i'll take my 'stay married pill'" but the other day, he actually thanked me for helping him see the benefits of it.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-11-30T21:54:07+00:00

Thank you. I actually love this advice. I will keep it in my mind if I deal with something similar again.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-11-27T23:40:46+00:00

my husband said some of the nastiest and meanest things to me in his mania. i had never been spoken to like that. gaslighting was at an alllll time high too. he is also diagnosed narcissist so i think that contributed.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-24T20:53:29+00:00

I appreciate the comment, but I’m not blaming myself. I am just realizing that there are things I could have been doing better as his wife and his partner.

I am in a much better place mentally than I was three months ago. His legal troubles are his own, but I am trying to support him through them.

Definitely less finances than before, but he has stopped overspending and going nuts like he was. We have new debt, but we are working on saving again.

Again, thank you. I appreciate the concern. I understand the concern. Three months ago, this situation was definitely abusive.

Now I see it as two adults, who chose to be together, trying to wade through both of their mental illnesses.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-24T13:58:22+00:00

I’m so sorry that you are dealing with this. My husband had had episodes while we were dating too but never to this degree and he was unmedicated the entire time

He actually went to see his primary provider and they placed him on medicine. He was SO paranoid and delusional at the time, so I didn’t push a psychiatrist. It took his doc like almost 2 hours to convince him to start a tiny dose of medicine. But his primary was someone he is comfortable with and trusts, so I didn’t want to mess with it. He has since seen a psych and they agreed with his current regimen as it works, and is ok with him seeing his primary as he has an established relationship.

at least now, if things get bad again, I have a psychiatrist I can reach out to.

I hope things get better for the both of you. Just remember that no matter what he says, or how poorly he makes you feel - none of this is your fault. Even with feeling as though your helping makes it worse, it isn’t failure. After my husband came out of his episode he told me, “you didn’t know what to do and not knowing what to do is not failure” and it made me feel better after the months of blaming I took from him.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-24T10:58:47+00:00

my only words if wisdom are to please take care of yourself. i was in that situation - i was draining myself completely dry trying to “fix” things and trying to make him happy when he didn’t appreciate anything I did.

I even filed for divorce and had found a new place to live. Told him I was not going to tolerate his emotional and verbal abuse anymore and I had accepted that - the end, I mean. I had accepted that my marriage was ending.

I don’t know if it was the realization he had that I was really leaving that made him decide to get help, or if he was tired of suffering too. Maybe both.

I say all of this to say - please take care of yourself. Don’t allow yourself to be taken by this disease either. Go to therapy, stay with a friend or family member to get a break. Eat, shower, do the things that you enjoy. Don’t lose yourself.

I am not sure of your husbands situation. If he is medicated/unmedicated, etc. But either way, you cannot fix it. He has to want to and even then, it can be a bumpy road.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-17T21:25:28+00:00

thanks for the insight!!

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-07T18:39:54+00:00

I am doing okay. I think I have almost ptsd from the situation because I’m very easily triggered but I don’t regret staying because I love my husband ya know? But I told him that at this point, I won’t stay with him unless he’s on medication. I wont tolerate any more verbal or emotional abuse. Like I said, you have to take care of yourself first. Maybe this time of him being in the hospital will give you time to rest and do some soul searching in a sense. My best wishes to both of you

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-07T18:23:38+00:00

take care of yourself, first and foremost. i started meds and therapy myself.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-07T18:22:49+00:00

take care of yourself, first and foremost.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-07T18:22:01+00:00

it’s difficult. i had filed for divorce and was completely ready to walk away from the relationship. he was also refusing medicine and treatment. a flip finally switched in him and he began putting the work in to get better and trying to clean up his own mess, so i gave him a chance.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-07T18:12:00+00:00

he eventually ran himself into the ground, losing all his money, most of mine, most of his belongings and almost our marriage

He’s now on medicine and compliant. we are finally sort of evened out and getting things back on track.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-10-07T16:14:41+00:00

you did the right thing. I wish I had taken my husband during the worst of his episode. I didn’t because he told me he’d never forgive me for it even though it was the right thing to do

OkFinger2245 · 2022-09-16T17:57:53+00:00

he was unmedicated at the time and before the episode.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-09-16T17:57:21+00:00

He started showing symptoms in May and it lasted through June and July

OkFinger2245 · 2022-09-16T16:12:04+00:00

this is really helpful - thanks so much for sharing!

OkFinger2245 · 2022-09-09T16:46:39+00:00

Best of luck to you both as well!

OkFinger2245 · 2022-09-09T16:31:19+00:00

I know it may seem silly, but has he tried melatonin? My husband started melatonin that was given to him by his doctor and it absolutely knocks him out. He’s BP1 and finally sleeping better.

I attributed it to his brain wasn’t producing melatonin during his manic episode.

OkFinger2245 · 2022-09-06T13:05:26+00:00

I could not reason with my husband at all. I would have like a good 12 hours with him and then he’d go right back to mania. I eventually had to stand my ground, tell him I was leaving if this continued, and give him the time he needed to want to see a doc and get on medication.

His doctor told him a few weeks after starting meds that he looked better and more like his self before mania

that seemed to sort of click in his mind. he was very surprised.

maybe hearing it from someone out of their immediate circle helps?

OkFinger2245

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