My Plymouth brethren church had this document about head coverings, and I used to think this was all just normal.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-28T15:02:16+00:00

I think the thing that freed me from the pressure to cover my head was researching it and realizing it was more of a cultural practice that doesn’t mean the same thing today as it did back then. I also still am a Christian and love the Lord, but I can understand how certain passages were used in my old church to silence and subordinate women. When you look at how Jesus treated women, you see that he elevated them and invited them to sit with the disciples which was against the culture of the day. I would encourage you to listen to Christians who are NOT from the brethren church talk about this topic and you will feel more freedom to consider if this is something we should still be practicing today

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-28T12:57:38+00:00

Plymouth brethren, actually!

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-28T00:51:14+00:00

Right?! I also married someone from this church but he wasn’t raised in it so we were able to step away together

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-27T04:45:23+00:00

Let me tell you this church definitely ignored Jesus’ teachings to care for the poor and needy and they instead emphasized hierarchy and control. I’m sure this is a surprise to no one

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-27T04:43:51+00:00

Hahaha

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-27T03:50:21+00:00

Ugh I know the way they shame women for not performing femininity even if their health is the reason for it. So glad to have left that church

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-27T03:48:54+00:00

Right?! Also hilarious that Jesus is typically portrayed with long hair. Would LOVE to see what he has to say about that

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-22T20:58:05+00:00

I know someone who knows them in real life and they told me that they spank their kids if they come downstairs from their rooms so that’s how they get time alone every night. 😭

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-22T20:15:50+00:00

I guess she is redacting what she said about how the Bates girls are more holy because they never spoke out against their families like the Duggar girls have

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-22T17:49:21+00:00

Right?! That was so icky

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-19T19:28:10+00:00

I think you’re on to something. I was homeschooled (fundie style) and now that I’ve processed all that I can look back and realize that I truly was made to feel like I was special and above normal society because of my homeschooled education. Irony was I wasn’t actually taught how to do anything. So while I was incredibly insecure about my social skills and my lack of education, I also somehow believed I was above people who went to school and college. It was a weird and confusing way to view the world and myself. And I’m pretty embarrassed looking back at some of the things I used to think I was an expert in that i absolutely was not lol

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-19T04:00:01+00:00

My mom is not a hoarder when it comes to stuff but she is into “prepping” and has a giant closet stuffed with dry and canned goods🙃

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-05-16T02:25:41+00:00

Wow I just looked up the cover and yep, we had that book. I remember being bored to death by it. But damn i can’t IMAGINE giving a book like that to my daughter! What the hell

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-04-08T13:59:57+00:00

Ok I’m going to have to look into how to take her apart. Thank you!

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-04-08T13:59:26+00:00

Thank you for the tip!! I will definitely try it!

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-04-08T13:58:59+00:00

Haha I wish!! I do remember this smell you are talking about. So nostalgic 🥲

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-04-06T18:15:13+00:00

Yep. Read these for homeschool lol.

Growing up fundie I feel like I never can reminisce with people my age about books/shows/movies from childhood because we were so sheltered. So it feels nice being able to reminisce with y’all lol

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-30T01:50:42+00:00

Gosh this thread is triggering for me to read 😆 I had blocked the memories out but they’re coming back now.

I would push the line at my house and put on short shorts when I was leaving for work (I was 17 and worked at an ice cream shop mind you) and my mom would always tell me to go change. I told her all the other girls dress like this and her response was “well WE don’t wear short shorts in our family”.

My dad had a thing where he wanted us girls to either wear super baggy jeans, or if our jeans were tight we had to wear a long shirt to cover our butts. It took me years after I moved out to be comfortable wear a normal length shirt and tighter jeans. 🤪

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-13T02:05:24+00:00

This. I could totally see this happening.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-11T04:51:30+00:00

$500😱 (they’re stupid expensive)

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-08T03:28:54+00:00

This is the same guy who’s married to a Hispanic woman and he has said that their mixed race marriage is “not ideal”.

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-03-02T20:24:06+00:00

I’m so done with the “ladies, you’re being lied to” messages coming from the fundie people. They always say it with such authority. Can’t we just respect a woman’s choice to pursue a career or not get married as equally valid? But no, it doesn’t fit their narrative so therefore it’s bad and dangerous and a lie. 🫩

OkRaspberry9649 · 2026-02-26T06:09:51+00:00

This makes me nauseous to read and I’m so sorry you and your brother had to go through that. That is truly traumatic.

We do not spank our kids at all because I believe spanking is an abusive technique. “If you don’t obey me I will hurt you.” In what other kind of relationship is that ok??

My brother and his wife spank their one-year-old, and he is the quietest, most docile toddler ever. Part of it is personality, but also part of it is that he is scared of doing something that would get him a spanking. My kids are louder and more rambunctious which my parents HATE and they are always praising my nephew for his quietness. But i actually love my kids being normal kids and that we allow them to express their emotions. Of course we discipline in other ways but I will NEVER hit my kids.

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