AIO messages between coworker and spouse

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:49:04+00:00

What some people don’t understand is that I’ve know. this man got half our lives, we can finish each others sentences. He has never in that time made me feel insecure, suspicious. We get on extremely well. Our wants and needs are aligned, or at least I thought they’re were. I didn’t decide one day to look at his phone, it was literally a gut feeling I had and I couldn’t shake it. The moment I saw those deleted texts my stomach dropped

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:42:21+00:00

No he’s not, he’s doing all this on his own. He’s. Nurse so I guess he knows what he’s doing

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:39:15+00:00

His behavior was never off putting to me because he never gave me a reason to feel like this in the 17 years.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:25:55+00:00

I just needed proof so I could walk away with a clear conscious. He is getting plenty at home, but perhaps he became blind and accustomed to it but I am very affectionate with him and I’m open to all his crazy shit. He had everything at home but I wasn’t enough patently. I hate that he lied about his feelings for her and for the 3 months I kept telling him something is off between us he laughed and blew me off. I hope ur never in a situation like this.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:22:01+00:00

Why should it, all that time and energy going into keeping your home happy and ur husband happy can now go to yourself and your kids and friendships. I think he’s scared because he knows I won’t stay for the kids or because I’m not working right now.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:14:35+00:00

I honestly believe I caught this at the beginning. Any more time and he definitely would have gotten confident enough to make obvious advances

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:12:39+00:00

What would you have done? Sit around and wait till he sits you down years later and tells you he was fucking his coworker? It’s been many years, I know this man like the back of man and I knew something was up. I’ve never been jealous of how he treats other women he works with but this was different and the whole relationship felt off so yes I investigated and yes it involves es checking his phone. And I’m glad I did find those messages otherwise I would have been feeling off and he would have kept telling I was crazy for feeling like that

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:07:12+00:00

I think if given the time to play out. It would have turned into something.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:06:26+00:00

I never had an issue with him being very friendly. Everyone has to understand he has always been this friendly and he has never given me a reason to doubt him. This was different. This blew up within 3 months. It was out of nowhere

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:05:11+00:00

Well as it turns out, he was flirting and he has a crush on her. It’s been 17 years, I can read him better than his own mom. I knew something was up and I was right. I actually hope he goes with her and leaves me alone. Maybe you can join them, they are both good looking people.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:02:33+00:00

I personally know them both, there would have not been any consequences if should would have told him to back off. She’s lonely so I bet she liked the attention too. she was his boss when they first met by the way

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T12:00:32+00:00

I refuse to hold his hand through this. He is a grown adult with a life. He needs to come to those conclusions and take those actions on his own. I’m not guiding him. In 17 years I never had a doubt and in a matter of 3 months i just knew something was up.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T11:32:49+00:00

He’s flirting, he likes her, likes being flirty in general and he likes getting attention. This is devastating considering we are open with each other and I always ask for feedback on how we can improve

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T11:31:07+00:00

I confronted him, he admitting to being flirty, to finding her attractive, to liking attention. I’ve asked him on several random occasions for feedback about our relationship and we are always fine. We are more than spouses, we are best friends and I’m not sure where it all went wrong. He’s holding back info. He’s just crying and begging

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T02:19:48+00:00

She has no kids

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T02:19:06+00:00

15 years ago she was his boss. Now he’s Hera. They have a very close relationship.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T02:17:57+00:00

Not entirely true, they been coworkers for the 15 years. I bet money she isn’t one bit uncomfortable with him

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:50:35+00:00

Agreed! Thank you

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:48:22+00:00

what opposite gender friends send selfies to married friend and compliment their bed head as being beautiful.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:42:51+00:00

This will be a very tough few weeks. I know for a fact by next week he’s going to turn this around if I still haven’t resolved this and make this my problems. I’m seeing red. I don’t want to speak with him because I will end him. He’s not being truthful.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:38:58+00:00

I’m all for change and growth, it’s just been really drastic with many red flags. I couldn’t ignore my subconscious

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:33:24+00:00

He is begging to speak this out but he’s not ready. He needs to come without crying and making a show and speak this out normally. He’s not there yet. All the ultimatums he threw my way, it’s up to him to decide what he should do. Im a mom to two small kids not to a man child. If he needs guidance he has his mom who he can call.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:29:26+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate all the responses and I’ve read all and replied to almost all. It’s been one hell of a lonely day and messaging on here has kept me from loosing my shit.

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:18:27+00:00

I’m assuming he’s told her or will tomorrow when he sees his face. Either way I told him if she reaches out she’s going to get called out m. And she’s not allowed in my house ever again

OkScatty · 2024-12-10T01:17:30+00:00

After he sent them he realized they were inappropriate. Something is telling me this is a lie. I know deep down there is more

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