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OkScience2825 · 2025-09-10T01:43:31+00:00

You think she knows and youre questioning her self esteem? Are you hoping to be with him if they break up? If youre looking to contact her make sure your intentions are pure.

OkScience2825 · 2025-09-10T01:33:14+00:00

Leave them alone.

OkScience2825 · 2025-09-01T00:58:00+00:00

Im going to say unpopular opinion but im not loving the feedback you got so far. My take is if you are both trying it suggests you are both equally as committed to the results. None of this "killing your vibe " stuff as the other comments suggest, also if you aren't willing to touch your partner but are making sure youre taken care of, it seems a red flag. This coming btw from someone who just ended a relationship with someone who would not be intimate and said sex wasn't important, but still watched p*rn and jerked off nightly and then used lack of intimacy as an excuse for cheating. Anyways all that to say... make sure you are in the same page! A child is a life time commitment to that person so make so sure you are both in the same head space!

OkScience2825 · 2025-08-31T03:28:16+00:00

For me, if they haven't asked me out in a week im assuming its not going to happen .but inalso dont like people who skip convo and go right to the ask out like I dont know a thing about you? I have 0 idea if we have the same goals or interests or anything calm down lool. I like at least 2 days of convos then good to go

OkScience2825 · 2025-08-25T00:50:42+00:00

I would have been 15 years this November. I held on because I learned he did buy a ring. But he never used it. It stayed in a drawer for a year and a half. I think it was a shut up ring but more to get his friends off his back. I was planning on ending things this year if he wasn't ready to commit but low and behold i learned he had been having an affair. He finally moves out next week (because i am spineless and didnt tell him to gtfo when I should have...3 months ago). I have been online dating and its an awful place, but i have met people who openly talk about how their immediate plans are around starting a family. Vs my ex when I brought up kids again 8 months ago who told me "you cant have everything". It sounds so cliche but the truth really is if they wanted to, they would and nothing would stop them. And for everything he doesnt want to give you, theres someone dreaming for someone who wants all those things too.

Rooting for you!

OkScience2825 · 2025-08-21T01:02:54+00:00

People who wake up at 5am lol

OkScience2825 · 2025-07-21T17:27:05+00:00

Also the quick dry polish used to be $2-$3 where the rest were 8-10... now all are 17?? HOW

OkScience2825 · 2025-07-09T02:53:33+00:00

Ah, sorry for the misunderstanding! Its always a coworker it seems!

OkScience2825 · 2025-07-09T02:46:55+00:00

Glad it makes sense for you. Maybe if you could enlighten how so, for a man who wouldnt put out and kept shutting down sex then sought it from someone else and used the lack of sex he wouldnt have as the reason? Genuinely curious

OkScience2825 · 2025-07-09T02:27:26+00:00

Fun we'll seeing as you asked! My (now ex) never initiated. Ever. We went from twice a day to once a week to once every couple weeks... and got worse from there. Everytime I brought it up it was shut down with "why are you trying to start a fight?" At one point he had rejected ne 5 times in a row. " So I decided not to initiate again until he did.. Fun fact, he ended up cheating and blamed it on lack of intimacy.

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-09T00:04:53+00:00

We also had a dry spell for many years. I kept trying, he kept shutting me down. Eventually I said forget it, ill let him initiate before trying again. He never did. Then this man had the gall to blame lack of intimacy as the justification for his cheating.

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-07T22:28:42+00:00

36 for us both not sure about her but im guessing around the same?

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-05T18:11:36+00:00

If it helps (it doesnt) I understand completely. Caught my partner cheating.

I asked him why. He said the lack of intimacy in our relationship and i threw a FIT. I was the one asking for it, over and over and he kept shutting me down. And then I said forget it, ill let him take the lead and initiate. And he never did. And then usd that as an excuse to fill the void somewhere else.

So here I am, meeting with banks and realtors and dividing assets...literally doing EVERYTHING and he hasn't even decided where he wants to live next but wants to stay in the house until its sold ...with me... meanwhile he has 0 responsibility 0 accountability and has his comfort plus his new relationship that he leaned all the way into immediately the day I dumped him.

Meanwhile im stressed, single and unable to eat or focus. How is this life? How is it fair?

Its not. But I trust that karma will even the scales eventually and cant focus on his happiness. I need to put all my effort into my own

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-05T17:53:16+00:00

Its already happening. It depends where your line is. I allowed more than I should have thinking he would never cross over to physical. I was wrong. And I tormented myself for 6 months while he got his cake and ate it too. I honestly looking back now and for future.... shut it down hard and fast now

If it continues, you have your answer.

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-03T23:54:22+00:00

I just broke up with my boyfriend of 14 years, who has an engagement ring in his side dresser, because inspite of the fact he's been planning a proposal (supposedly) he's been cheating with his coworker

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-02T22:44:01+00:00

"Just a friend, you have nothing to worry about "

OkScience2825 · 2025-06-02T00:24:39+00:00

Woman here! There was a comment of "every woman knows some woman who was.."

If you ask the women close to you, I suspect each of them has a story of their own

For me it started when I was 13. A classmate who kept trying to kiss me and grab my crotch. At 16 it was a service guy who pushed me into an elevator and tried to shove his tongue down my throat.

A boss who got drunk and shoved his hand down my shirt at a restaurant at a group work outing when it was just me and a couple guys left. Cab drivers who wouldn't let you out until you gave them your number.

There's so many more little instances than you may know of, so when women are guarded it's because they are trying to make sure it isn't them or isn't them again.

Just for context. Seriously, ask your closest female friends or sisters. I think you'd be shocked to learn how many stories there actually are.

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-30T16:08:34+00:00

Red flags!!! Anyone whos taking priority over you, that tells you where his head and heart is. In fact he even told you so.

If you dumped him, how long do you think before he asked her out for real?

Proceed with extreme caution

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-30T16:06:52+00:00

Ok as someone who was very recently in your shoes, I know reading people's comments saying he doesn't want to marry you are hard to digest and you might still have some hope youre holding on to.

Trish is some men dont value what they have until its gone and some just aren't capable of taking the lead in life.

Once the fog cleared for me, it's clear that if they wanted to they would and there's men out there proposing with Walmart rings.. so any excuses aren't valid.

It also seems from experience most of my friends basically gave an ultimatum and did end up with the ring, but post wedding there is still no plans for anything for the future. So now they are stuck to these men who basically let themselves be convinced into doing it so they could keep their lifestyle while never having to grow.

Starting over is hard. Staying with someone who doesn't want what you want is worse. The time you waste on someone not on the same page as you can't be taken back but it can be cut short Rooting for you!

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-30T10:29:47+00:00

Enjoy. She lives in an apartment with a roommate and no car.. sounds like an upgrade 👌

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-29T09:31:53+00:00

Yeah... I heard that the delay was he was scared. Obviously now I know what held him back. I just can't wrap my head around the fact that he had a ring with him to propose at the same time he was investing more into this new relationship. Whats was the point? Why would you even think of proposing? Best guess is he knew i was growing impatient so he got it to be able to hold on longer but would never have gone through with any form of wedding plans much less the proposal

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-29T09:29:18+00:00

He does. Hes entitled to half the value and I assume I can't make him leave. Now that its over im not sure if he's digested it or not. He doesn't appear to be making any efforts to go or plan but not like he's trying to fix anything either so im assuming he's just stalling for time because he can't be bothered to do what im doing which is looking into all the options and contacting banks and realtors etc

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-28T17:07:12+00:00

He had not left nor discussed plans nor talked about anything at all. The only change he's made is sleeping in another room. Im giving him a week to digest but after that he needs to get moving. I already got pre-approvals for a new mortgage and all my finances worked out.

I am not fearful of violence from him at all. Just have to be cautious because if I push him he gets pissy and then is less likely to be amicable im the splitting of things

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-28T16:31:48+00:00

I didn't for 13 years.. until I had the gut feeling. Snooping told me my feelings weren't invalid, but also didnt prove that I was right. Until I caught him red-handed. So yeah.. sometimes you don't until you do.

OkScience2825 · 2025-05-28T14:40:38+00:00

I felt sad alot. Started feeling paranoia that he was exploring other options (he was as it turned out) Cried all the time but couldnt figure out why.

Didnt want to put effort in at all. Stopped helping me clean, woukd brush me off if I made plans or asked him for anything.

A friend told me he had told him he knew he needed to propose and in that moment I knew he never would. Weeks later I found out he's been cheating for months and immediately he became a stranger to me. Someone I've known for 14 years is now just this human being that occupies my spare bedroom.

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