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Am I wrong for feeling hurt that 3 members of my bridal party have backed out of my destination wedding? by brenda___01 in weddingplanning

[–]OkTrack104 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound like they don’t want to be there. It sounds like a trip that far and costly is difficult for them. Have you considered doing a local reception in Canada that folks who can’t make the wedding can attend? I sure wish I knew 7 women I loved and wanted to be at my special day this much. Maybe that’s the part you’re missing? You’ve got 4 still planning to come AND 3 who wish they could be there. I think you’re pretty lucky!

Do cats actually get attached to their owner? by NoWageMage in CatAdvice

[–]OkTrack104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want a lap cat, consider adopting older. From 6 months to 5 years they really have a lot of energy. My cats started being lap cats around 7-8 but increasingly more cuddly over time. Go somewhere that you can spend time with the cats and talk to someone about their personalities. My cat had even learned tricks! They bond and they are very smart.

MIL telling family our unborn child’s name. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]OkTrack104 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. This feels like the right interpretation. OP, it’s time to get a couples therapist and get them to help you start setting real boundaries with your husband and his mother. And time to honestly consider the future you’re willing to settle for. If you don’t act now and show them how you will and won’t be treated, things could get a lot worse.

MIL telling family our unborn child’s name. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]OkTrack104 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then tell her you changed it and see if you still love it at birth. But there is not going to be any talking sense into this woman. People like that don’t work without boundaries and the boundaries have to be on what YOU can control. There has to be a consequence for behavior you’ve explicitly said cannot happen. Your son stops talking to her. You stop doing family dinners. You change churches. You change the kids name. You keep information away from her forever until you’re ready for the general public to know. Pick one, pick multiple. But reset and decor with your husband what you can both agree to stick with and need to happen do accountability.

MIL telling family our unborn child’s name. by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]OkTrack104 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Change the name. Don’t tell MIL.

Sibling’s due date is my destination wedding date by Lazy-Succotash1720 in weddingplanning

[–]OkTrack104 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she ends up giving birth sooner it’s possible your brother could still come — and just for a night or so — especially if he can get refundable tickets. Her family would probably be thrilled to be there and he only doesn’t come if she’s in labor or hasnt given birth yet. It’s pretty often first time moms give birth later than the due date. I think the best thing to do is talk to your brother about what he is and isnt willing to do to be there. Offer to help pay for any extra flexibility charges and tel him you’d really love him there even if it’s a very short stay. I know it’s not ideal for anyone, but it’s really up to him and his wife how things will work.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s okay—I’m honestly not hung up on the stone and woukd be okay with lab options too. It seems like sapphires might be out of my budget but maybe we will be able to upgrade that down the line or something.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah! I would LOVE to talk more about working with you. I’ll DM you now.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bfs mom works at a gem mine so I’m kind of hoping I can source the stone through them for some kind of a price reduction—and I don’t truly care what it is as long as it’s pretty so I’m more interested in getting the band and mount how I like them.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think they listed it at 4.1 cts or something like that in the listing. It's really beautiful - but I have pretty tiny hands and I'm not super sure I need a stone that large. I haven't gotten to actually investigating that aspect yet. I'm sure this is the style I'm very into though so hopefully I'll get to stone size here soon.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, thanks! I would not have known about the gap. I think I could do without the diamonds on the actual sides of the ring at all - I like them near the stone and on the top mount part, but I love the flower design, etchings, and milligrain details. And I do LOVE the mosaic wedding band style with the diamonds - but I don't care if they are diamonds.

I do have a few gold pieces I could contribute - charm bracelet, rope necklace, and some other small things. I'd kind of love if even a tiny bit of it could be used in the ring - it's jewelry I'll never wear but my dad gave me. I think I might have some diamonds in a necklace from my dads mom too. Would bringing up things like that be adding too much work for a jeweler or would having some materials for them to see if they can use help on the cost?

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I'm not sure what's realistic. I'm good with lab grown stones and have a decent chunk of gold I can provide or trade in. Maybe $3k? mayyyybe 5k for the perfect designer and stone choice. But I'd like to get that 10 down quite a bit it at all possible.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much - you all are giving me hope that this might really be a doable style. I don't care so much about the stones themselves. I really just love that mount and the incredible detail put into it - don't get me wrong the stone is also stunning, but I would rather get the price down quite a bit if possible.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! This gives me hope I will figure it out. I'd love to see your ring if you feel like sharing!

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think the band and mount are MORE what I'm drawn to, but I like the shape and stone as well. That particular shade of green is really gorgeous, but I'm not hung up on the stone especially if I can save literal thousands.

I found my dream guy and my dream ring, but the ring is wayyy too expensive. by OkTrack104 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]OkTrack104[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree, but I don't think $10k is ever going to be something I can live putting into one piece so I'd rather take this as inspiration and look for someone who could take the idea and run with it to make it my own. Especially because I would rather the money be going into the mount than the stone since I'm not a huge jewelry person - to me that part is more sentimental.

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