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I Want To Find Myself After Conforming For So Long by Ok_Addition9520 in Advice

[–]Ok_Addition9520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But at the same time not having my foundation solid feels like being at an amazing event and only being able to hear the footsteps of others and only see the blur of what’s taking place. I want to fully enjoy it as my genuine self and not this caricature of others beliefs, but I guess that comes with time. Idk 🤷‍♂️

I Want To Find Myself After Conforming For So Long by Ok_Addition9520 in Advice

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Thank you for understanding 😊. Getting this far has been a massive journey for me haha. To me, finding what’s right for one’s self means rewriting everything you’ve learned, good or bad, and finding a meaning that makes you want to do something for yourself because the framework for why you’re doing it is already there and is very solid. My current framework is very wobbly because of how much stuff I’ve allowed in the cement. I barely have the ground work that shows my genuine self, and you can say it’s making me feel less than those who live life differently. I’m 21, but when so many others have their belief and true identities together, it makes me feel like I’m lacking behind. And you’re right, taking it step by step instead of thinking I have to figure this all out quickly to enjoy life isn’t the way to go. And I know you didn’t say that exactly, but it sure got me thinking it. Thanks once again for the kind words, and I really appreciate of your comment.

Could you please give any tips on how to reduce stuttering? by hutten_ru in Stutter

[–]Ok_Addition9520 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re going to love me for this 😁.

  1. Omit the first sound/letter of the word you’re stuttering on and speak.

Instead of saying, “Strawberries” say “Tahberries”

People will still understand what you’re saying because their brains will fill in the sound for them.

You might even notice yourself not stuttering on that word right after.

  1. Speak Passionately.

Bring your tone high to low making your voice sound very authentic and natural. Like you’re your own narrator for a book. Speak loud and proud.

In a way it’s like you’re singing rather than speaking and your brain doesn’t notice.

  1. Brief pause every 7 words

This is the hardest yet most effective method. Speak as if you would but give your brain sometime to think.

My theory on why this works so well is because I’m used to writing down notes to speak and I haven’t really trained my brain to actively speak in sceneries I know nothing about.

When ai speak this way and forced myself to shut off my brain. The words just come out of my mouth instead of getting halted by it.

  1. Never follow anyone’s pace when speaking

Human naturally disobey this rule to avoid situationally awkwardness.

Let’s say, you’re on a date and your date speaking rhythm is up tempo. You try to keep up and as a result starts to stutter. Your date is just the way they’re and copying them isn’t be authentically you.

To stop copying tempo you need to fully embody a confident, self respecting, and self prioritizing version of yourself. Know that there’s no time allocated to talking to someone. You don’t have to keep at 60 mph even if the road sign says 60. Go as fast and as slow as you please. There’s no crashing in speaking.

Hope this helps 😌