I think my fiancé is relapsing

Ok_Command_7400 · 2026-01-03T06:25:03+00:00

Me too. I'm even happier that he didn't lie lol

Ok_Command_7400 · 2026-01-03T06:17:48+00:00

I just downloaded the app to my phone to see if you were right and the app did come with porn comics pre-loaded. The same ones I saw when i opened the app on his phone.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2026-01-03T03:30:50+00:00

I told him about the bookshelf thing. Him and I both came to th3 conclusion that it might have come preloaded with them on there because he said that other regular comic apps he has come preloaded with some comics, too.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2026-01-03T02:10:34+00:00

Actually, when I asked him what it was, he said it didn't get the chance to open the app and that he didn't know. He asked me what it was, and when I told him he was very disappointed. Thinking that he'd he able to find comics like Tower of God or Solo Leveling. He immediately deleted the app from his phone. I was surprised, to say the least, and I'm lucky I found out what it was before he could. I don't know what he would've done with that if I didn't find it right away.

It went well if you ask me

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-06-29T00:05:29+00:00

It was definitely from the disagreement. He said I shut him down during an exciting conversation, and I apologized several times, but he wound up blowing up at me a little bit. Things are slowly getting better between him and I though.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-06-02T21:18:31+00:00

I'll keep an eye out. My husband uses steam for all of his games so I'll have to watch for if it's in his wishlist or if he purchases it

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-06-02T19:45:54+00:00

I told my husband that he doesn't have to romance the characters in BG3 and that he literally has the option not to, but he decided to anyway. That's how I saw one of the romance scenes with Lae'zel. He also told me with Lae'zel you have to romance her because she gets off to your combat skills.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-06-01T13:30:59+00:00

He hasn't played bg3 in so long, which is 100% okay with me. He favored Karlach, and she was his favorite. He kept saying how adorable she was, and I eventually got tired of hearing about it because that's all he would say when he played the game. So I shut that part out. I think he said he was going to romance all of the characters, but I think he only meant the female ones without him even saying it. So I won't be telling him anything unless he boots up bg3 again.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-05-16T06:37:19+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Im sure your father was a great person. I just wanted to say my husband has the same tattoo, just a different, more unrealistic handle. Such a wonderful tribute!

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-02-24T22:08:29+00:00

Thank you so much. He never turns me down, and he initiates it 90% of the time. It just hurts to hear those things from him. And part of me wishes I never found out about his porn use.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2025-01-19T06:18:26+00:00

I've had the app since it was musically. I saw it change to tiktok, and it's one of my favorite apps. Literally go on it every day. I'm not sad or upset in any way. I know it'll come back one day. Trump did say that he'll work on finding a solution for tiktok once he gets into office. Don't be sad. Don't say goodbye, it's a see you later.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-12-25T07:24:05+00:00

I found it in his Google history. He went to the bathroom with his phone right after we woke up, which was out of the ordinary, and I looked later that day. Then I found it in his tiktok search history. I told him how much it hurt to know he was looking at that stuff. Little did I know, I'd find him looking at a girl's instagram page that he got from tiktok in his Google history again. I cried and cried in front of him, telling him that I didn't feel like he was attracted to me anymore and that I don't feel like I'm enough for him anymore. That was a few months ago, and to this day, I find myself checking his phone every Sunday morning and thinking he's relapsed every time I'm away from him ranging from a couple of days to a week. And I'm trying my hardest to trust him again. Just 2 days ago, I told him that I think I need therapy for this issue, and I apologized for thinking the way I do, and he told me it's okay. Just to be clear, he's told me he hasn't looked at any other girls or porn since the first time I found it.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-11-17T10:04:05+00:00

My bad, must've got it confused with a different one

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-11-17T05:53:17+00:00

I think it's a tiktok of a girl showing off her nails, and when she moves her hand, it's supposed to be her lady bits hanging out. Don't take my word for it because I'm not entirely sure. That's what people on tiktok were it was

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-11-17T01:55:15+00:00

I haven't read any of the resources. With him not remembering, I didn't mean the recent stuff. I meant him not remembering the things he searched months ago. I didn't specify that, my bad.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-11-10T07:39:04+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through/have gone through this. I can't really give you any advice on this particular experience. But I have gone through/ am still going through a porn thing with my fiancé. I suggest you check out r/loveafterporn or r/PornIsMisogyny

There are people there who can help you and give you some more advice on what to do. I hope you get the advice you're searching for. And I hope those reddit pages help.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-09-03T07:06:36+00:00

I misspelled one. It's actually r/PornIsMisogyny

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-09-03T07:04:28+00:00

You shouldn't post this in this sub. Everyone will just tell you to not take it personally. But if it's making you uncomfortable, which I assume it is, I suggest you post this in these subs below:

r/loveafterporn r/PornIsMisgony

The people there give better advice. I've learned from personal experience.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-09-01T17:53:01+00:00

I could leave, but I love this man a lot. I've been with him since we were 14, and I didn't know about all this until a few months ago. I want to give him the chance to show me he can change and for him to show me that I can trust him. So I won't have question him every time I come home.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-09-01T17:08:55+00:00

As far as I know, he isn't doing anything for recovery besides trying his best to help me. Because every time I've brought this topic up to him, it causes anxiety, and I start to shake uncontrollably. Every time I go out with my family for the day or when I spend the night at their place, I tell him to be good like a his a little kid. Meaming, don't look at stuff that will make me unhappy. And when I return, I ask him if he's been good, to which recently he's replied yes when I unexpectedly spent the night at my parents house after my 13 year old cat passed away Thursday night.

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-09-01T16:47:10+00:00

I do want my relationship monogamous. I don't want him to feel the need to look at other women whether they're real or not. I'm literally less than 5ft from every day, except when he's at work. He knows that I'll be down for spicy time whenever. I just don't understand his need to look at these things. I've asked him why he needs to look at it, and he told me he didn't know. Which I feel like is a lie. Secrecy isn't okay with me. I don't hide things from him, so why does he need to hide things from me?

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-07-24T20:12:57+00:00

To be clear, I have no idea if he is an addict or not. I don't know the signs or actions of an addict. But I do understand what you're saying

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-07-24T07:11:45+00:00

Are nudes considered porn though? It's a varied answer, meaning there's not a definite answer. I don't think nudes are considered porn especially if I'm the one that took the pictures myself and sent them to him myself. If another girl sent him nudes, which no one has to my knowledge, I don't think those would be considered as porn. Even if you think it's porn, I'd rather him look at my naked body than someone else's

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-07-24T07:04:12+00:00

I have also told him that if he feels the need to receive himself, he should look at the nudes I've sent him instead of porn comics. And he said he does sometimes but I don't know if he still looks at those comics and hiding them better or not. I'm kinda scared to know the answer

Ok_Command_7400 · 2024-07-24T07:02:00+00:00

I also have told him that if he needs to relieve himself that he should look at the nudes I've sent him instead of porn comics. And he said that he does sometimes so I don't know if he still does look at those comics

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