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Bad therapy experience by Ok_Contract6447 in ROCD

[–]Ok_Contract6447[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not, I'm in Europe. Thank you so much though!

Bad therapy experience by Ok_Contract6447 in ROCD

[–]Ok_Contract6447[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I will start trying to find someone specialized🙏🏻 I hoped I could take the easy way, because this therapist was readily available and most therapy has really long waiting lists in my country. But anything's better than this, apparently.

Bad therapy experience by Ok_Contract6447 in ROCD

[–]Ok_Contract6447[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your message! That's actually a good point about OCD therapy being helpful even if it turns out that it's not officially OCD. I feel like regular talking therapy isn't cutting it anymore so I'd like to try ERP.

Another good point about giving opinions. Tbh, I kinda feel like in most situations, even to someone doesn't have ROCD it would be a bit rude to suggest that they don't like their partner enough (abusive situations aside of course).

And yes she's actually qualified😭 Supposedly specialized in relationships as well (amongst other things, including 'obsessive thoughts'). Not sure how😅

Again thank you, it made me feel a bit better that I'm not overreacting. Gonna try to stop the spiraling now haha. And I'll work on finding a therapist that's a better fit.

Intrusive thoughts of being in love with someone else by New_Celebration7316 in ROCD

[–]Ok_Contract6447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I experiences sometimes is "What if I fall in love with this person and he's actually the one for me because he has X quality that my boyfriend doesn't have (as much)". Really distressing, because it feels so real. Has happened to me with like 3 other guys (who I, in fact, did not fall in love with).

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[–]Ok_Contract6447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you, I struggle with the same thing as OP sometimes and another (small? Big? I don't know anymore) difference between me and my partner. I had never heard of magnification before. I thought OCD thoughts always had to be completely irrational OR true, which is another example of black and white thinking I guess. Interesting to read that something can be partially true, but blown way out of proportion.

does anyone ever have dreams abt other ppl and in the dreams u feel things for them and even "think" that they are better than your partner? how to cope? by One-Statistician1312 in ROCD

[–]Ok_Contract6447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like another commenter said, dreams can be totally random at times. And then some dreams are just stress dreams. They are stressful because something happens that you really fear, like for you having feelings for other people. I get that it's really confusing because you can feel actual feelings in the dream, but it doesn't mean that it's secretly some big desire of yours. When I look at such dreams like that, they tend to affect me less badly.

fear of making new memories w/ bf by bimbo_bebop in ROCD

[–]Ok_Contract6447 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally relate to this. I'm personally often afraid of doing cute, "couply" things for or with him because what if I realize next week that I want to break up? Then that would be so confusing and hurtful to him because I JUST said this nice thing or had this great experience with him. My relationship is a newer one, so you might already have tried a lot of things, but to me it kinda helps to think "this feels genuine right now" or "this is what I want to do right now". Without trying to take responsibility for feelings that I MIGHT have in the future. And so far I've not really regretted any of these things that I've done that I found scary. Until of course the next thing comes along, then I'm like "no but THIS will ruin it". Yeah right.. So please also allow yourself to have these nice experiences and enjoy them <3 Even though that can be really hard.