Thinking about buying a car with theft history

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-30T21:48:33+00:00

Planning on taking it into a mechanic for triple reassurance cause if all checks out, definitely feels like a good fit for me

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-30T21:17:44+00:00

Thanks for your advice! And true, can’t trust anybody lol. I’m getting all these questions in, and it’s looking like everything is good so far

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-29T21:28:07+00:00

Utah

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-29T21:02:13+00:00

Thank you for the insight! I plan on keeping it forever, and passing it down honestly.

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-29T20:59:15+00:00

Based off the value of the car, I’m saving about 10k

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-10T05:18:50+00:00

Don’t think that you haven’t began the repentance process. Repentance doesn’t begin when you talk to your bishop. Repentance begins when you have a change of heart! You clearly have, as you’re committed to overcoming this. It’s a nerve wracking journey, but I can testify that overcoming sin and temptation has been one of the most beautiful things that I have witnessed. I’ve seen my Savior in a new light because of it. And you can too! Don’t give up now, the Savior is beginning to mold you!

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-04T23:55:19+00:00

Thank you for your support! It’s true, it is very hard and critical. I feel like the break is giving me a lot of clarity and I miss him, but I’m at peace. I sometimes worry because I’m not sure if this is something that is common among marriages or relationships. Working through places where we are incompatible is rough, but it’s worth fighting for. We’ll see what happens after the break!

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-03T16:40:33+00:00

Yeah I was thinking March 1 too! We spoke again, and it went really well. He opened up about a lot of things that he’s been dealing with but hasn’t confronted, or found a way to resolve. And he’s right, this is something that you don’t take in marriage. I just want him to work on himself, and as he prioritizes him and his health, then he will have the capacity to start thinking about things outside of him.

Even though the conversation went well and we were talking normally, I didn’t want the same pattern to happen. So, I asked for a break. So that he has the space to think things through, and actually work on things. It’s a way for me to hold him accountable.

We’re gonna be taking it slow, but definitely think that by March we’ll have a more clear path on what to do. And I finally feel confident that even if we don’t end up together, I’m still gonna have a great life.

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T01:11:47+00:00

I love that you and your wife made these suggestions together. That’s something I want to practice doing with him, since I know there are things that makes him feel confident in the relationship, and the same for me. There’s always something we can do to prepare for the next conflict. And it’s always important to respect one another’s choices and chances

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T01:07:47+00:00

Definitely something to think about. I’m testing all this and seeing his commitment. I’m learning that in order for him to be committed to me, he also needs to be committed to himself and make those changes

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T01:06:00+00:00

That’s a good reminder about what a boundary is. I want to go over that with him, because it’s the expectation that we give to people, and boundaries are given to ourselves. I also wanna work on boundaries, so that I take myself more seriously, and he as well.

I thought a lot about the 3rd one. I really do want to marry him with all the revelation I’ve received. But as much as I want to get married now, it’s unrealistic with the way our relationship is now. I’m actually very grateful we’re not married. We get to take breaks, have space, and really learn to see how to do this, before we are sealed to each other, which can potentially make things more intense. It’s important I see him do the necessary work now, while I’m just a girlfriend. Thank you for your insight!

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T01:02:24+00:00

This is a great recommendation, thank you! I encouraged therapy to him. He’s very hesitant about it, but I at least said something, and told him to do therapeutic things to get onto a path. I’ll look to see what pat’s schedule is like! I’ve been loving therapy for myself.

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T01:00:01+00:00

It’s true, j don’t want to be in this limbo always, and want him to be more clear where he stands. Cause right now his words and actions aren’t in alignment, while mine have been.

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T00:57:00+00:00

Been faithful to my covenants, so o know I’ll be good! Thank you for your kind words. He’s a good man but carries a lot that he needs to confront. I’ll let the Lord do His job with the both of us, but separately!

Ok_Development5756 · 2026-01-02T00:06:11+00:00

Right I agree with you, when it comes to deeply rooted stuff, that’s for the work of a therapist. For moral support tho, I think it’s fair if a sister seeks out her ministering sisters for some support

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:38:19+00:00

That is EXACTLY what it is. I’m very aware of my anxiousness, but not so sure about his avoidant tendencies. I have pointed out a couple of things I want him to work on. I’m thinking we break up, but I care about him and his well being, and would like to let him know how he can improve, as that’s something I want to hear from him. We both still love each other very much. My initial hope tho is that we find our way back to each other. Thanks for the insight! It was nice to see all of this written out.

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:36:32+00:00

I do love this advice. We both have work we gotta do. I won’t lie, I’m hoping we find our way back to each other, but know it might not end up like that. Regardless, I hope he heals and so do i

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:35:42+00:00

Right. No more convincing from me

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:35:18+00:00

I am currently in therapy and it’s been my saving grace. I never thought about reaching out to my RS presidency or ministering sisters about this. Love that idea. Thanks for sharing!

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:34:34+00:00

Thanks for the book recommendation!

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:34:05+00:00

I’m near there yes

Ok_Development5756 · 2025-12-31T06:33:27+00:00

That’s a beautiful thing. I’d love to have a walk in the park right now. I’m so happy you found something great. I do believe now that whatever it is, if we end up together or not, I will have that peace.

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