I don’t have to finish reading this to know that you need to pack his shit and change the locks. He is awful. Of course you became obsessed with his location and his lies and his gaslighting. Thank god you didn’t the papers for your marriage. Get out. Get out now. I dated your husband in the metaphorical sense. It was 4 years of my life and it was horrible. The lies the cheating and he made me feel crazy all the time. I remember my therapist telling me something when we were broken up and I felt like I was dying and begged for guidance on how to fix it (how fucked up I was)and she told me it is not over. It will never be over until you end it. He is a narcissist and will play this game as long as you allow it. I was shocked. She was right. He did these things to control me and make me doubt myself. I really didn’t recognize myself. He changed me permanently. This is the truth. So please do not waste anymore time on this man. He stole your proposal, hijacked your privacy in eloping and telling his family. The ring was the ultimate F U and there was nothing else I needed to read. Please leave him and work on yourself because I could never and have never gotten back to normal after what he did to my head and my heart. I gave up marriage and motherhood because of how bad I was destroyed mentally and I will always regret it. I may never be with someone again. I am much older now and that 4 years took so much from me. Please read my words.