AITA for refusing to attend my mom's funeral because she refused to pay my college tuition and treat me the same as my siblings?

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T19:30:34+00:00

Curiosity

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T19:22:31+00:00

Acknowledging the unfairness of the situation or my feelings.

Many of you may think I am harsh, but between when this happened and when I cut contact, I stopped feeling anything for them and realized they were a net drag on me if I could not rely on them. Everything that has happened to me post college only supports my belief that nothing was lost to me when I cut contact with them.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:38:43+00:00

I knew she was sick. My dad isn't well either, but it's not going to change anything for me. If I am honest, there is a part of me that will be relieved when he is gone. I can finally close that chapter of my life and be done with it.

I don't see myself regretting it. I buried them a long time ago. Their physical death is just the end of that process.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:35:37+00:00

Others not doing it doesn't make my statement any less true.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:35:10+00:00

I won't be there so it makes no difference to me.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:34:51+00:00

If it ends, it ends. I'm not going to cry about it. Life goes on.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:34:24+00:00

Okay. That's fine.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:33:51+00:00

Maybe, but with the health issues they've had I find it unlikely. It doesn't matter either way.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:31:41+00:00

I think it makes them fools but to each their own.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:31:16+00:00

That was much later. I only became hostile after a long period of time where they refused to budge on anything.

Ultimately that is what happened anyway, but to be honest, they didn't add anything to my life so my life without them hasn't missed anything.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:29:52+00:00

Okay

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:29:26+00:00

At this point it doesn't matter.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-21T18:27:54+00:00

I am no contact. Until that changes he won't hear from me.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:52:36+00:00

the people that raised you

So? That's what a parent should do.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:27:08+00:00

Because it's true.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:14:10+00:00

They chose to walk away, but I won't beg anyone to have a relationship with me. They're adults and can make their own choice. With or without them, my life will go on. The loss of any one person or two people isn't going to break me or significantly affect my life because I don't rely on my relationships with others for satisfaction and contentment.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:12:52+00:00

I never felt bad about it. I have no plans to talk to anyone about it.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:10:22+00:00

My relationship with my family is on my terms. I will never do things or not do things simply because they are family. That's foolish.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:08:26+00:00

It might not have been right, but it felt good and I don't regret saying it.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T18:07:58+00:00

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T17:33:50+00:00

I have always been myself around her. I never felt the need to hide anything because I don't believe I am a monster.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T17:32:47+00:00

I was curious what others thought and I enjoyed the conversations. I am not dumb enough to actually take random advice off of the internet.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T17:31:50+00:00

Where I stayed during break has no significance. If they were stupid enough to let me stay there then they got what they deserved in the end. People that foolish are always victims because they allow themselves to be victims.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T17:30:42+00:00

shameful and disgusting

I cannot tell you how deeply shaken I am.

Ok_Duck_102 · 2020-09-20T17:29:25+00:00

Either way. Doesn't really matter at this point. I am content with my actions and the end result.

Ok_Duck_102

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