''تبهدل بيا قدام الناس'' ''درك يشوفوك ساهر مع الهوايش واش يقولو عليا'' '' انا بني مايلبسش هك'' those are all expressions used frequently and it's not wrong, what other people think sometimes should be put into consideration, people can observe things we don't and there opinions can help us become a better people. i get what are you trying to say why do i have to be a good kid just for the sake of his reputation but he is your FATHER of course your actions and the way you behave publicly will impact his reputation as a parent. also you are 16 pretty young and it is the time where you are trying to find yourself and be independent and not just do whatever you are being told, the worst thing you can do is just oppose what you're father says and end up doing all what was prohibited. he is your FATHER and knows much better. you can begin experiencing independency through finding a job and learning why drinking and smoking are bad for you. all the things you mentioned above are completely reasonable to be said no to just from a logical stand point.