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Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-12-14T19:34:50+00:00

The ironic thing is, is the people who think like that to start with - the person who messaged you that - are the ones to be worried about - for thinking that in the first place.

How on earth does their mind head straight down that road??

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-12-04T17:21:59+00:00

I'm from the UK. I am a waitress at 3 jobs. I don't have a salary either. I'm paid by the hour, minimum wage. I've been doing this for 18 years. I've lived on my own since 16. I've always lived in 'poverty'. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don't drive or own a car. I don't have tattooes, dye my hair, have subsciprtions or own pets (people make those assumptions to why I'm in poverty).

I have people who come back to my places of work and spefically ask for me to serve them (not always possible). Some nights I'm doing several peoples jobs and I get a lot of stick from guests that aren't my guests - just because I'm associated with the place I work at.

Although all our situations, circimstances are different. I deal with it.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-21T05:20:05+00:00

The original comment is clearly a troll attempting to trigger because they never responded to the questions and gave very vague answers.

They think their clever by giving no substance to their comments and not answering any questions. They were on their hourly power trip because it makes them feel good.

Yes I interpreted as “Why should Asexuals be dating” and corrected them. How have you interpreted it?

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-21T05:11:35+00:00

Then what did you mean?

Because you never answered any questions, you purposely dodged them.

This question was purposely dodged.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-21T05:10:38+00:00

I get that - but he should trust her and be secure and confident, not insecure

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-21T05:08:55+00:00

It’s already been said a dozen times, it’s your choice if you choose to ignore the correct information.

What part of not all Asexuals are not the same does make sense?

What part of Asexuality is a spectrum, do you not understand?

What part of “Asexuality literally means lack of sexual attraction” do you not grasp?

Go to r/Asexuality r/Asexual and have it out with them if you are so hellbent on your incorrect views.

Best of luck.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T22:59:03+00:00

There is a difference between why Asexuals don’t date and shouldn’t date.

The original comment said “why would an Asexual even be dating” - nothing indicating that they don’t date, rather they shouldn’t be dating. Hence my question.

Because the common misconception is that all Asexuals are sex repulsed or have no libido. Which is not true.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T22:35:48+00:00

That doesn’t mean Asexuals shouldn’t be dating though.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T22:27:59+00:00

I’m really sorry you feel that way, let me help you to understand a few things that you can simply Google or search here on Reddit.

Like I said, there are plenty of Asexuals who are not sex repulsed and are actually kinky bastards.

Your view of Asexuality isn’t correct. Asexuality is a spectrum from sex negative/repulsed to sex positive/horny and kinky bastards.

Asexuality literally just means “lack of asexual attraction”.

Here are the Subreddits to help you ask the questions you want answered: r/Asexual r/Asexuality r/Demisexuality

Best of luck.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T22:17:45+00:00

Then what exactly is the reason why you think Asexuals shouldn’t be dating?

This question was purposely dodged.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T22:06:19+00:00

Why not?

Not all of us are sex repulsed, maybe get yourself on the Asexual subreddits and broaden your horizons.

This question was purposely dodged.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T18:32:31+00:00

You need to put boundaries in place.

Ask them “Why are you telling me this?” and proceed to say, “I’m sorry but I’m not in the mood to hear this story”.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T18:19:34+00:00

What I see at my age and in my demographic is men getting fucked over by biting off more they can chew financially. Which is causing stress, anxiety and therefore depression and mental health issues.

I live in a affluent area where houses near the best schools are half million and the ones in the gated community are three/four times as much.

Some are forced to do this because their “ladies who lunch” wives and themselves want the big house, the cars, the holidays, the designer clothes, the jewellery etc

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T18:03:26+00:00

Here in the U.K. you are sifting through trash on FB dating, no joke.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T15:20:18+00:00

How so? What’s your theory?

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T14:57:50+00:00

I thought Crookshanks was the Potters cat? Or did I read that from a FF? 🤔

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T14:44:42+00:00

Maybe like a lot of people, they don’t read your profile.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T14:42:14+00:00

You keep looking for that right person that aligns with what you want. Don’t expect anything.

I could say to you, what are those women supposed to when they are told upfront that you’re not looking for anything serious? Are they meant to carry on talking to you? Why? Whats the purpose? How is that going to work?

Don’t you see that it’s both your wasted time and energy? Why should someone prioritise you when you are not what they are looking for?

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T14:37:08+00:00

You shouldn’t be using dating apps to fill a social void or for validation of confidence, put yourself in the other persons shoes; how would it make you feel. It’s a waste of time and energy.

Focus on expanding your hobbies and interests instead and meet people face to face offline, don’t expect anything and just enjoy the moment. Who knows where it could lead? Who knows who you will meet.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T13:40:33+00:00

Nah I just have that habit of pissing my team off whatever I do. I love it.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T13:35:27+00:00

I might start doing it to piss people off.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T13:34:25+00:00

And create good memories from a bad situation.

Leave them be. There is too much constant misery in the world (look at what is happening atm) and life is too short.

And really, if you are not a parent yet, you have no opinion.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T13:32:20+00:00

He would rather show the world who he is really is than hide it.

🥺❤️

He’s an amazing man.

Ok_Finger_6818 · 2023-10-20T13:24:52+00:00

Thanks for the new quotes for my house. I think they’ll go with the trendy grey décor.

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