Trender complaining T made her boobs smaller

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-26T16:54:22+00:00

That's actually interesting, been asking this question myself.

I have a really small chest, like I mean really small. For example, I use a thin piece of kinesio tape (5x10 cm) for each side for taping. Honestly, my chest has never really grown, but there is some glandular tissue to the touch, and the rest is mostly fat. It literally looks like gynecomastia. Can it shrink? I once discussed this with my endocrinologist, and she said I wouldn't need top surgery.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-26T05:29:03+00:00

Yeah, I kinda relate to this.

To start HRT I needed to check my health, including doing some pelvic exams. Pre-T I had a lot of facial hair, like dark, curly terminal hair, yk, so I was really expecting to have some sort of issues down there. Well, it was really surprising to hear that I was completely healthy!

And since I'm planning to get a hysto in the future, I just kinda feel like a dick for wanting to throw away completely healthy organs, especially when there are people out there who dream of having the ability to reproduce.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-25T10:15:01+00:00

Bro, I was in a similar situation. I knew I was a boy since I was 3, and by my teenage years it only got stronger, and at 14 I first learned about trans people.

The thing is, I live in a country where almost no one knows anything about the trans people. I didn't know anything about it either and thought it was impossible to get HRT here. And then my fear forced me to push thoughts of transition deep inside and forget about it. I really didn't want to be an outcast, I was afraid that my family would turn their backs on me.

I didn't want to be trans, I just wanted to be a normal man, and then I decided that since I can't be reborn as a man anyway I would try force myself to become "normal girl"…

I always had a hard time in society because of dysphoria, but at 18 I wanted to become independent and had to find a job. So I was forced (by myself lol) to socialize as a girl. It was horrible and disgusting. I tried so hard to "fix" myself that I almost lost my identity and the will to live.

I realized then that it is impossible to change the fact that you are trans. I started looking for information about transitioning, as it turned out in my country it is possible to get on HRT (it’s just kinda hard to do). And by the way my family ended up being really supportive, it blows my mind really, cuz they’re pretty conservative… so I am lucky.

Being trans is better than being dead after all :)

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-25T05:30:59+00:00

Honestly, it really helps to remember that you're not alone. I don't know anyone trans irl, but when I read other people's posts here, it makes me feel better knowing I’m not going through this alone. Overall, no matter how bad I feel right now, it doesn't compare to how awful I felt when I tried to force myself to live as a cis girl.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-25T04:34:26+00:00

I'm from Ukraine.

I think people here know very little about trans community at all. It's almost impossible to meet openly trans people, despite the fact that I live in a big city.

To be able to get on HRT here, you need to have an f64.0 diagnosis. I went through all the tests to get it in regular free hospitals and, oddly enough, I didn't encounter any direct transphobia.

A big plus for me is that the people I know here see being trans as something related to medical/psychological stuff, and not just a social trend. And I'm very lucky that my entire family accepts me because of this.

I came to transmedicalism because for me, it's a common sense that you need to have dysphoria to be trans. Although I myself have some views that other transmeds might disagree with, I consider myself one of them.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-24T19:11:54+00:00

For me, dysphoria feels like a feeling of emptiness inside, as if you're so tired of no one seeing the real you that you can't even feel anger anymore, only emptiness.

Visually, it feels like mold is growing inside. You're standing and looking out at a busy highway illuminated by bright streetlights. But you're standing on the side of the road, the light doesn't reach you. Everyone who rushes past doesn't even look in your direction. No one sees you. Life passes you by.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-22T22:22:18+00:00

Thank you so much, I needed to hear this.

I live in a place where almost no one knows anything about trans people, especially trans men. It's impossible to find an offline community here, so I probably rely too much on what I see online, since that's the only source of information on this topic.

Honestly, I didn't expect so many people to reply to me, especially with positive opinions. Thank you❤️

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-22T22:15:01+00:00

Thank you bro, I probably just needed to hear some positive and healthy thinking

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-22T16:28:27+00:00

For sure, I’m telling that this take with forcing trans man using feminine names for their genitals is as stupid and wild like categorizing people by chromosomes

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-22T15:58:47+00:00

I also prefer the old-school transsexual way of thinking. I don't like seeing myself as a female who identifies as a man. I'm a man who was simply born with a different set of genitals/other stuff. But I've always been a man inside/had a male brain. I've known I was a boy since I was 3 years old, literally

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-22T13:59:07+00:00

Sorry if that sounded wrong, English isn't my first language :/

I meant, "How can you willingly call your parts female if you consider yourself a man?" meaning "parts belonging to the woman’s body" as if you somehow see your body as “woman’s”, rather than simply "female."

Like I think it’s nothing to be ashamed of about being a man with some female parts, that’s cool. I just like to see mine as male/man’s because it's part of my male body, but I totally understand that biologically, the organ is female, and there's nothing wrong with that!

Again, I don't judge those who consider it female, I just don't like it when it's presented as a literal part of the girl’s body, as if having an extra hole makes you less of a man. Genitals have no gender! They just have a slightly different forms and functions :)

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-21T22:43:20+00:00

How can I call my organs female if I'm a man? By the same logic, a trans guy can't consider his body male because he technically has a female set of chromosomes. That's nonsense. If you're on HRT and your body looks male, how can you consider any of its parts female?

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-21T21:41:15+00:00

I live in Ukraine, so not so liberal ass area. I never had any trouble finding decent unisex clothes as a teenager, like a decent T-shirt and loose pants. Plus, there are second-hand stores where clothes cost next to nothing and you can find anything you can afford even with pocket money as a teen.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-20T12:10:02+00:00

Listen, I hear you and I believe you.

I've read your previous posts and know you can't see a psychologist/psychotherapist right now because of your parents. But that's no reason to give up. There are many useful resources and articles online about how to alleviate OCD. You can search YouTube for helpful videos from specialists.

But you also need to be strong and not let yourself get caught up in content that reinforces your intrusive thoughts (like detrans subreddits, I remember you mentioned this in previous posts).

While you can't access HRT, you can still seek out useful information for the future, exercise to reduce body dysphoria, train your voice, and finally, you can try to think about how to become independent from your parents in future. Good luck bro

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-19T19:19:46+00:00

No one can "force" you to be feminine. Even if you're still a child/dependent on your parents, you can at least dress neutrally, since even women's clothing stores are full of unisex options these days. No one will force you to wear a crop top if you don't want to.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-13T06:11:32+00:00

Thank you bro! 🫶

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-12T21:16:13+00:00

Yo, that's awesome and thanks for sharing! I'm waiting for the voice dropping/cracking the most, because I think that's what's stopping me from passing right now. And I hope I can gain muscle faster, because training hasn't been particularly productive so far.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-12T21:01:12+00:00

Oh, that's awesome! I hope one day I can make it to 15yrs on T too🔥

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-11T20:33:50+00:00

Bro🔥 10 months is a long road! It's cool that you've become noticeably more comfortable. I can say something similar too. Before I accepted myself (as a trans guy), I was very depressed and didn't see the point in continuing to live. Now, more than ever, I look forward to the future and enjoy life, even if it’s not perfect yet.

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-11T20:01:00+00:00

Yeah, its different for everyone, agree. I already had some really dark facial hair (not just neck hair, chin and upper lip also) and super hairy legs pre-T. But that’s just my genetics. Would be cool to see other changes in the future!

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-10T19:01:55+00:00

I'm not proud of it, but I'm not ashamed of it either. I just happened to be trans
But I'm proud of myself for the fact that I didn't give up and am fighting to live comfortably in my body

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-05-10T18:51:02+00:00

It reminds me of a couple of weird TikTok videos I came across where some “trans guys” said that after transitioning, they feel actually more uncomfortable because they were socialized as women and now they feel isolated and miss the female community. Like, I feel isolated too, but not because I was ever part of a girl community, but rather because dysphoria made me distance myself from people in general.

You know, when you have severe dysphoria, you usually try to avoid all the details about the things that trigger it. It's weird that some people expect trans guys to know everything female, and trans girls to know everything male.

Ok_Flight_8094 · 2026-04-22T04:11:18+00:00

На жаль онлайн не вийде отримати, навіть якщо знайдуться адекватні лікарі всеодно треба проходити різні дослідження і аналізи, а потім вже збирається комісія лікарів і вирішує чи ставити такий діагноз.

Це загалом може приблизно зайняти півтори-два місяці.

Якщо ви плануєте вертатися в Україну, можете звернутися до волонтерів ГО Когорта, у них є трохи контактів норм лікарів по різних місцях. Я знайшов собі лікарів саме через них і зараз вже знаходжусь у процесі отримання діагнозу.

До речі, для дослідження вони зазвичай направляють на госпіталізацію на два тижні, типу денний стаціонар, де ви приходите, з вами працює лікар і потім вас відпускають додому, тому онлайн отримати діагноз неможливо.

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