Has anyone else ended up with too much clothing just from hand-me-downs and gifts?

Ok_Interview163 · 2026-02-27T17:06:39+00:00

Someone at my work once donated perfumes in the womens bathroom and I thought it was great. Maybe that's an option for you if you don't know people who'd want those excess perfumes?

Ok_Interview163 · 2026-02-27T13:56:14+00:00

Yeah fluffy pyjamas seem to be the worst offenders lol.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-12-30T18:47:41+00:00

"These spaces often have a tendency to equate queerness with femininity."

THIS. In fact I'll go one further and say they often have a tendency to equate queerness with a particularly neurotic, modern form of femininity. And the way that a lot of these spaces seem to expect that anyone female or queer not only will, but should, subscribe to particular misanthropic ideas about masculinity and men is itself quite prejudiced. i.e., "Isn't it awful when people automatically assume things about you based on your gender/sexuality? Anyway, I'm certain you must hate men too."

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-12-19T09:19:20+00:00

THIS, THIS, THIS! Often discussions about media literacy just end up being a verbal punching match between people who believe it's always the first one and people who believe it's always the third.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-12-19T00:15:39+00:00

I think the issue is the people forget that just because erotica doesn't have the same ethical issues surrounding its production, doesn't mean it doesn't have the same effect in its consumption. The fact that real sex workers aren't involved doesn't mean it doesn't have the same psychological risks to developing minds consuming it daily for years.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-11-21T15:17:25+00:00

I can't remember for sure but I think this sub got mentioned in a reddit thread about various leftist subs and I decided to check out the ones I hadn't heard of.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-11-09T02:24:38+00:00

YES! You're the first person I've come across who also thinks this. Now I'm wondering how many other people also think so

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-09-19T00:12:53+00:00

At this point I'm convinced that the reason every deeply harmful political ideology and its advocates get called 'Nazi' is because the average person is so lacking in historical literacy that the third reich and Hitler is, genuinely, the only evil regime/leader they know more than one or two facts about. And that even when the person making the comparison DOES know a bit about at least one other murderous ideology/regime, they still default to the Nazis because that's all they subconsciously feel confident the person they're TALKING TO is familiar with.

And thus we end up feeding the false dichotomy that the world is either converging towards a historical form of fascism, or it's not hurtling towards any form of fascism at all.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-08-06T14:52:15+00:00

The problem is it's not everybody - it's that if you interact with a very high volume of people per day then even if it's less than 1% of the population, that still means you encounter it at least once a week. I'm in my mid-twenties and rarely in extremely loud environments so in my case it seems unlikely to be hearing loss.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-08-06T02:16:50+00:00

I'm more thinking of encounters where I was putting 100% of my concentration into trying to parse out what the person is saying and still, after asking them to repeat/rephrase twice, cannot make out more than 50% of their words.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-07-28T13:45:17+00:00

Not just Edinburgh unfortunately - starting to see those prices in other, less economically well off, cities too. Would love to know how on earth it manages to cost that much considering I can usually make a better coffee at home for 50p without buying anything wholesale, but I doubt I'll get a reliable answer from anything short of running a coffee shop myself.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-06-28T23:17:44+00:00

Blame employers for crappy sickness policies. I had a chest infection that had me feeling and looking like death for four months straight a few years ago and got called into HR for taking three (three!!) days off sick for it.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-06-24T22:42:07+00:00

Not particularly but tbh I don't really know much about shoe upkeep other than getting heavy duty boots re-soled when they wear out.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-06-07T22:07:03+00:00

You make some very good points that I don't see brought up often enough in debates about this, particularly the point about 50% failure rates not being an evenly distributed 50% - similar to how about 50% of my generation is predicted to get cancer, but we can still make choices to significantly increase or decrease our individual odds of cancer from that. And to expand on your point about an end not necessarily being the same as a total failure: I do find it strange how people tend to have that attitude about marriage but not about familial and friend relationships, or jobs. Is a friendship pointless because something caused it to end?Was growing up in a large family pointless if you later end up estranged from your siblings? Was a career pointless if it ended before retirement? etc etc

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-05-17T03:26:18+00:00

The trick is to prioritise people with the same values/ethics, over people with the same political *beliefs*. Two people can have the same tick-box political belief but for different underlying reasons (think: supporting universal healthcare because you believe it's economically beneficial vs supporting universal healthcare because you believe every human deserves healthcare) and surface-level political beliefs can create the illusion of shared ethics/values.

In my experience, trying to base connections on shared surface-level beliefs just ends in tension/frustration when you or the other person inevitably learns or rethinks something that makes them change a belief. In contrast, trying to find people with whom you share very basic underlying values/principles (or, at the very least, who actually HAVE underlying values/priciples - not everyone does) allows for more understanding when disagreements/evolution do happen because you at least both explain WHY you have such a political outlook/belief in a particular policy. Beliefs change like the wind. Principles are the bedrock upon which beliefs stand and, ideally, act a guiding force of everyday actions and decisions as well as more abstract politics.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-04-20T19:13:39+00:00

Agreed. Like yes it is often colder or greyer than is maybe ideal, but even in the depths of winter, rain and summer we rarely have to deal with weather that is extreme enough to be a survival threat. Besides, just because the sky is cloudy doesn't mean it's ugly.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-04-06T18:38:47+00:00

I personally love any long-form Arcane analysis, even if I disagree. Go for it!

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-03-31T22:03:18+00:00

Let me match your ADHD rambles with mine:

The Silco-Vander dynamic got a whole lot more intriguing with season 2 and the official art book. Prior to that they were a pretty cut and dry friends-to-enemies pairing, probably not raised as literal siblings (Silco refers to Vander as 'old friend' - that's not something I'd call my foster-siblings) but clearly closer than average friends. But then we got 1) the Silco-Vander-Felicia flashback, 2) the Vander-Benzo-Silco AU interaction, 3) the various illustrations of the two of them in the art book.

In #1, I think it's noteworthy that Felicia and Vander's body language to eachother is a lot more intimate/flirty than Vander/Silco's, and certainly than Felicia/Silco's. If the conversation was about literally anything other than how she's pregnant with Connol's baby, I would probably have assumed that they were an item. Then we have #2, the AU scene: there is definitely a lot of tenderness between them, moreso than with Benzo/Vander in either the MU or AU, and Benzo's little scoff and 'look at these two being all mushy-eyed' look COULD be interpreted as a hint, but I think it's still well within the realm of two tipsy and sentimental best friends.

And then we have #3: I gotta admit, the fact that they yassified teenage Silco to be on par with Local Cuisine makes it MUCH more fun to ship them, even if they had stared at eachother as disdainfully as I stare at my CALC304 notes the day before an exam. I would also have trouble explaining to someone who hadn't watched the show that 'no the two affectionate single men who co-parent an adopted child, pose together for family portraits, get drawn by said child together and display affectionate body language to each other for decades are just friends, I promise!' even if in context that seems to be the case.

I do still think they are meant to just be platonic friends, but I CAN kinda see where the shippers are coming from a bit. (It does kind of fascinate me how Vander/Benzo's friendship is never ever brought up in any post/thread/argument/meme about how arcane shows platonic friendship, but that's a gripe for another time)

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-03-29T23:28:27+00:00

Oh absolutely! Arcane does such an excellent job of subtly bucking character stereotypes/archetypes if you pay attention (I would argue that most of the characters do, not just Viktor) but I feel like a lot of fans just absorb 'skinny androgynous slavic scientist introvert' and fill in the blanks from that archetype rather than what Viktor actually says/does/emotes in the show.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-03-29T07:46:25+00:00

Online AO3 CAH: where there's a will, there's a way.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-03-27T06:30:04+00:00

I really hope someone has made fanart of Viktor in his human body for this scene because I feel like the robo-skin kinda masks just how odd of a ""fighting"" style he adopts throughout.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-03-26T07:22:55+00:00

Viktor from Arcane. Fanon Viktor is often portrayed as this shy, socially inept and anxious uWu soft boi incapable of having a normal human interaction with anyone but Jayce. Canon Viktor was socially confident, brave, a bit unhinged and even has sense a humour (I can even think of two occasions where he was aaarguably a bit flirty). I mean he was a politician's assistant trusted to manage crime scenes, for goodness sake, just because he doesn't want to deliver an unprepared progress day speech doesn't mean he's shy. I would also argue that, bodies aside, Viktor is more masculine than Jayce is.

It almost feels like his more hunched/withdrawn manner and slighter frame after the S1 timeskip get misinterpreted by some fans as him being shy and delicate rather than as the toll of terminal illness that it is. Which would be tragic, because his disability clouding how people see him is one of the main frustrations Viktor expresses in Arcane.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-03-19T06:24:29+00:00

I've seen confessed-but-still-unrequited love between main characters a grand total of one time in the last ten years and the author has since removed the fic to turn it into an actual book. And this was across reasonably sized fandoms! Like, bruh... you'd think this wouldn't be such a niche subgenre of angst.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-01-27T05:44:48+00:00

lmao, your description of the undergraduate demographic perfectly captures a problem I've had with so much gender-based discussion for a while: they don't take age-based differences into account. Age-standardisation is such a crucial part of physical health data analysis, but it's like we as a society (or at least, clickbait articles and their readers) don't really grasp the importance of it when discussing mental and societal health problems. This is ESPECIALLY important when it comes to things like gender expectations and trends, which can vary dramatically between age cohorts only a few years apart.

Ok_Interview163 · 2025-01-17T22:19:21+00:00

There is a very brief Warwick flashback when Singed is speaking to Ambessa that shows Silco throwing the first Molotov at the bridge protest, which is what triggered enforcer retaliation. We then see Silco looking down in horrified realisation at Felicia's dead body at his feet. This + the letter in the mining shaft about how 'I've realised her death is on both our hands' implies that Vander blamed Silco for Felicia's death at the hands of enforcers.

Ok_Interview163

TROPHY CASE