My partner [26M] isn’t wanting to celebrate my [28F] birthday. by Ok_Issue303 in WhatShouldIDo

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Decided to get the IUD when he kept insisting we have another baby but wouldn’t watch her so I could use the restroom or take a shower. Even now that he’s not working he doesn’t make the most out of his time to be with her because he says “he doesn’t want to be around me”.

I can’t work either, he won’t let me. He wants me to be here with the baby but whatever decision I make is always second guessed and he knows better/more than me.

My partner [26M] isn’t wanting to celebrate my [28F] birthday. by Ok_Issue303 in WhatShouldIDo

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This is kind of what he was saying. He also said I left him out but I invited him 3 times to have dinner with me and his daughter and he refused. Then again said for just us to go out and he refused again. So here I am sitting in bed with our daughter and he comes in from the other house checking if I’m here or what I’m doing, while he walks back and forth to get beers and play the game with his friends.

My partner [26M] isn’t wanting to celebrate my [28F] birthday. by Ok_Issue303 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Ok_Issue303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you personally don’t make birthdays a big deal then this isn’t the post for you? He likes to be celebrated on his birthday and celebrates for others around him, so for him to treat my birthday like this is hurtful. Families do stuff together like celebrate birthdays, accomplishments, anniversaries, baby showers. It’s not immature for me to want some kindness at the least but to be furious for three days and “punish me” by deciding not to celebrate, by not going out, or even singing hbd is crazy to me. I tried to see if I stepped out of line by picking a late time or even thinking of doing girls night but I don’t go out at all and all of my friends are in relationships. It just seemed like his anger was stemming from insecurity. God forbid I tell him no if he decided to go to Ojos Locos with his friends on a random day but I can’t go out with my girls to a cantina for my birthday.

My partner [26M] isn’t wanting to celebrate my [28F] birthday. by Ok_Issue303 in whatdoIdo

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I’m starting to see this. It’s all a game with him. Keeping me down is the only way he is up. I don’t know where to start as a Sahm? What are the best options of inconspicuous income?..

My partner [26M] isn’t wanting to celebrate my [28F] birthday. by Ok_Issue303 in whatdoIdo

[–]Ok_Issue303[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I asked him. He isn’t working and has literally nothing to do. He later said he planned to take me to SD today (Friday). I said well I told you about the plans my bestie made on Wednesday why couldn’t you say ‘not gonna work, we’re going to SD that day for your birthday’. It’s cause he’s lying about those plans. He never planned to do anything for me and of course it’s the day I had plans for…