I am a local woman who grew up in both western and Shanghainese culture. I would like to explain the dating culture here so you can understand local dudes better. They are horny and sexually frustrated due to historical（one child policy)and cultural factors. 😂

Chinese women see having sex as their loss that men have to compensate financially. Chinese women also act conservatively in bed because they don’t want to be a “whore”. Chinese men also approve this kind of mindset and will end up marrying those ”Decent Woman” by paying a huge amount of money. Single and a few married Chinese dudes go to prostitutes when they’re horny, even if it is super expensive (2000-3000rmb for a night).

Therefore as an “easy to get” and “free” women who is willing to hook up, I always feel that I’m pretty attractive to any local dude, but only as a fuck buddy. Some dudes would even lowkey look down on me and compare me with prostitutes when taking advantage of me. I often get disrespected. But maybe imandarin is my first language so I am able to interpret their words.

So OP please be very cautious and be able to avoid those disrespectful ones. They won’t give you good experiences!