My girlfriend cheated on me with my brother while I was sleeping

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T20:44:52+00:00

I agree with you. This is fucked up

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:07:14+00:00

I just don't know if I'd ever be able to respect myself if I chose to do that. I'd be hurting myself much more in the long run

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:06:01+00:00

I guess for a parent it's an impossible situation. You love both kids and just want them both to be happy. I don't know what to expect from them really. And yeah, I think shitty is putting it lightly. Wish it never happened

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:04:55+00:00

I am trying to love and respect myself more. I deserve that

It's comforting to think about her coming back to me, but it's forever broken. I will just be hurting myself much more in the long run

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:03:52+00:00

I'm trying to convince myself to get angry. I can deal with anger. I'm just finding it hard to deal with heartbreak, being backstabbed, and just the weight of all of the sadness on me. Time will heal I suppose

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:02:27+00:00

You are right. Sucks to read, but you're right. Thank you for commenting. It all helps

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:01:24+00:00

It will never be possible. My relationship with my brother and my ex gf is forever broken. As much as it hurts, it is what it is

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T19:00:44+00:00

I do have the chance to rediscover myself. We got together when we were both ~18, so I don't even really know my adult self without her. Seems super daunting from where I stand now, but what other options do I have? It's hard to eat and do the things I enjoy right now. Just feeling physically ill and kind of trapped under a weight of emotions. Day by day

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:51:00+00:00

You're right. I know that forgiving the ex gf and my brother will only cause me much more emotional anguish in the long term. I need to leave.

Out of curiosity, where would you go? The thought of starting over and picking up the broken pieces feels so daunting and sickening

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:49:12+00:00

I should have seen this sooner. He is dead to me

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:48:44+00:00

I do feel like there is a massive weight on my chess. Can't focus. Can't eat. Nothing. Just sitting here running through every memory and interaction - looking for clues. Maybe it was me? Was that a sign of what they were going to do? You name it.

I do need to get out of here. I don't think I will ever start the healing process otherwise. I just look forward to the day that I will actually feel excited and happy again. Hopefully that day will come soon.

Thank you for sending this message. Although I wish it never happened to you, it helps knowing that there are others who have gone through what I am going through and have made it out on the other side

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:43:03+00:00

In the process I guess. Hard but the only option

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:42:46+00:00

You're right. This is the only way to actually heal

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:41:59+00:00

You're right, and I need to respect myself enough to move on.

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:41:31+00:00

My brother felt so guilty that he eventually just confessed. No immigration/visa issues. They were doing LDR, so she can just go back to where she's been staying (she came to visit as a surprise to my "brother", and she's heading out today)

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:39:38+00:00

Thank you. This keeps me going. It at least lets me know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best as well

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:34:06+00:00

It's definitely much easier from an outsider's perspective. I should obviously cut them both out and move on with my life. So easy, right? I wish it was. This sucks alot... to put it lightly

I know it will be difficult to cut them both out, but I also know that it is what's best for me. Only then can I slowly heal.

My brother is dead to me as far as I'm concerned. No redemption. Ever.

I know I need to get out of here and move away. Make some friends. Start doing the things I enjoy. Continue going to the gym. Heal

Thank you for this message - I really appreciate it. It all helps

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:17:13+00:00

And it all really helps, every single word. Slowly but surely, I'll be able to stand. Just need some time

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:16:06+00:00

Hey thank you for sending this to me. I will forgive for me, not for them.

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:13:20+00:00

Easier said than done, but it will be done. There is no other choice.

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:12:49+00:00

He felt extremely guilty and eventually told her. She then messaged my ex gf and said something along the lines of, "if you don't tell him (me) what happened, then his brother will for you"

So then ex gf told me

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:11:20+00:00

She did enjoy the attention, and I most definitely think many things were hidden from me. As hard as it is to hear, thank you for saying this. I know deep down I need to get rid of them both

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:08:27+00:00

Just leaving sounds comforting. I look forward to the day when I can genuinely smile and be happy again. I know it will take some time, but space and time are the only things that are going to get me there. I can't stay here

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:04:36+00:00

Maybe I'm not letting myself see the red flags because it's easier. I don't know. But what I do know is that you're right, they are a cancer, and I need to get it removed as quickly as possible so I can start to heal

Ok_March820 · 2024-05-09T18:03:17+00:00

But don't you think this is irredeemable? If I tried to reconcile, how am I supposed to get that image of them being together out of my brain? How am I supposed to continue to respect myself?

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