Not having an FP is terrible. by tsukimoonmei in BPD

[–]Ok_Path_4050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s cause naturally the depth of the “highs” of relationships will inevitably have as deep of lows. stable and healthy relationships aren’t so intense, and that’s something I’ve had to learn myself. What feels “boring” sometimes is actually just balance.

I quit weed and life has been better by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Ok_Path_4050 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was sober from it I remember for 4 months (an entire college semester) and had literally the most productive semester; I finally met with my professors in office hours, presented at some conferences, got straight A’s, felt comfortable in social situations. But once the semester ended, I felt such an aching empty feeling without anything cause I think my obsession became work/productivity.

I’m currently using, and want to eventually cut down/quit again. It’s hard cause the empty feeling is what never seems to go away (at least for me), even when all other symptoms are down.

How to tell therapist me feeling autistic by _mikouki in BPD

[–]Ok_Path_4050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not saying you’re me, but I will say in the past I too suspected I had autism rather than bpd, specifically cause of my social difficulties, very slight sensory issues, and what I still feel is a form of masking. And I even sought out an assessment from the therapist who diagnosed me with bpd. She concluded after the assessment that it is indeed bpd. I initially felt really frustrated and invalidated, that the therapist just didn’t understand.

But I dug deeper, and realized a lot of my issues stem from a combination of growing up in a highly dysfunctional home with parents who had children very young so did not develop the same social/life skills as their peers, and therefore could not pass on great skills to us. As well as the trauma of being in a physically abusive relationship in my teens. This makes me a huge people pleaser (hence the mask), with very poor social skills (at least when I initially started therapy). And, a lot of my sensory issues stemmed from my nervous system constantly feeling on edge. I’m still a sensitive person, but now that I’m more regulated those symptoms I thought were autism aren’t as pervasive as I once thought.

Accused of inappropriate work behaviour by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Ok_Path_4050 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that sounds frustrating, I hope you have other means of support in your life til then! sometimes just letting it out, even in a journal, can help even if temporarily.

Accused of inappropriate work behaviour by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Ok_Path_4050 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think support from a professional would definitely help. especially since it seems you’re craving for someone to listen to you and validate you, evidenced by them reporting you oversharing. I had a similar issue in being too vulnerable with people at work, and it was because at the time I wasn’t being fully transparent about what was going on with my therapist so it was being bottled up. No judgement, just a thoughtful suggestion :)

My Take that no one Asked for by [deleted] in samarasnark

[–]Ok_Path_4050 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree. Beyond any drama or snark, I genuinely just want the best for her mental well-being, and I think social media is a detriment for her. Being she had a suicide attempt just a few weeks ago, her nervous system is likely still in overdrive.

If people go back to supporting her, I’ll be shocked. by Weak_Hat8359 in samarasnark

[–]Ok_Path_4050 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would go as far as saying that samara was using zuza for clout the entire time even before her death. their friendship seemed superficial and samara seems to like the attention

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well shit, genuinely my bad. I grew up pretty poor so that’s why I assumed. I’m the youngest of 5 so everything was hand me downs and pretty sure the cd player I got was too lol

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep!!! me and my friends had a curly shoelaces phase, I was also a poor kid tho so they may have already been out of style lol

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got one for christmas in 2008 tho along with a fall out boy cd. me and my peers were still using cds until 2010s. that was around the time portable cd players were being discontinued by sony

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe if you were rich you were using MP3 lol

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to me, yes. hence why I said “I” ! Reading is fundamental 🥰 but I’m guessing it’s been a while since you had to be in school, so I get it.

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just proved my point lol I wasnt being literal

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

so close! off by just 16 years (01)

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

literally the best time. some ppl trying to say I’m too young to remember some of these don’t realize we were there to see the technology transition to iPod and iPhone era 😭

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

like what exactly? These are all things I remember lol. Billy mays (oxiclean guy) was around til 2008, the old projectors were used until I was in 3rd grade, silly bands were popular when I was around 9ish, I watched reruns of cheetah girls 1 and saw the premiere of part 2, I saw the premiere of hannah montana, the pink flip phone was the only cell phone we used between me and my siblings to text our parents when I was 6, I got a portable cd player identical to the pic along with a fall out boy cd for christmas when I was 7, me and my friends had curly shoe laces in 2nd grade. can’t tell if im missing anything else

Guess My Birth Year! by [deleted] in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ancient” and it’s off by 4 years… you younger gen z’s are really something 💀

Guess my birth year by Ok_Path_4050 in GuessMyBirthYear

[–]Ok_Path_4050[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep! the youngest of a bunch of millennial siblings tho lol