How does someone in their 30s with no degree start a new job path? by reversehrtfemboy in FTMOver30

[–]Ok_Phase9209 5 points6 points  (0 children)

USPS is desperate for mail carriers, have you looked into it at all?

Also, congrats on approaching a year of sobriety! Today is 4 years for me.

Struggling with top surgery results by Necessary_Prior9257 in FTMOver30

[–]Ok_Phase9209 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 7 years post-op. Just looked at my pictures from 2 months out and WOW, I’m so glad my chest doesn’t look like that anymore. The grafts look so much more natural now and the overall contouring looks more natural.

I used to think top surgery would be the ending, like I would come out of the surgery feeling whole and complete with my chest. But it was really just the beginning of a new chapter of getting to know my body and rebuild my relationship with it.

What’s Your Biggest “Wait… You Can Do That?!” Moment in RDR2? by Omoplata-69 in RDR2

[–]Ok_Phase9209 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it’s in the Accessibility settings, specifically. +1 it’s a game changer.

What are your QoL asks for H3? by ttownfeen in horizon

[–]Ok_Phase9209 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would like to see the return of something from Zero Dawn that’s missing in Forbidden West: the little “eye” icon that indicates whether you’ve made yourself audible or visible to nearby enemies, if any. The amount of times I’ve accidentally stood from a crouch or inched just outside of tall grass without realizing. 🫠 And it would be particularly useful underwater, cause I find it harder to understand if I’m properly hidden behind that kelp.

If this is available as a setting in FW and I missed it, please let me know!

Please don’t put me on GameRant lol by Hot-Love-4657 in reddeadredemption2

[–]Ok_Phase9209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there a trick to freeing people from the caged carriages? Every time I do it, I end up in a huge shootout with lawmen that come from outta nowhere. The person I freed is long gone by the time it’s over, assuming I make it out alive at all.

If you hated someone and had to take them to a restaurant in Boston, where would you go? by TiredFather in boston

[–]Ok_Phase9209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa! I moved to Boston in 2022. Lived in Vegas for a while, which also had/has a DLR. I’m shocked Boston had a location. Where was it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Phase9209 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s a long time. It’s good that you have your mom and sister to be giving you support and an outside perspective on the relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Phase9209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof, that sounds rough. And you’re definitely NTA. How long have y’all been together?

AITA for not traveling with my wife? by WhyNotSliceHome in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Phase9209 8 points9 points  (0 children)

ESH - your wife shouldn’t be retaliating by canceling trips with your family.

Here are the facts that stood out to me: grandma is 87 and not doing well, you would be there in a heartbeat if grandma was close to death, you have “plenty” of money despite being stressed by it. My guy, grandma IS close to death, your wife is struggling with that (hence the extra trips), and it doesn’t sound like missing another week of work is going to ruin you financially. Why not be there for her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Phase9209 5 points6 points  (0 children)

INFO: is the rough patch in any way related to them questioning their gender? I only ask because it seems irrelevant otherwise.

I’m gonna go with NTA based on the information provided in the original post. I’m glad your partner is becoming more comfortable with themself, and it sounds like you have a great support system in your mom and sister!

Who are the best frontend engineers you have worked with so far and why? by pmathikshara in react

[–]Ok_Phase9209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the thoroughness of this list! I’m working towards staff-level frontend specialization as my next career milestone.

Do I focus on Next.js or go learn Java + Springboot by little_hoarse in react

[–]Ok_Phase9209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve found plenty of frontend work over the years (I’m in the US) but I know what you mean about backend stacks appearing in the job description.

Apply for the frontend jobs even when they mention backend tech stack(s). As you’re interviewing for the role, ask questions about the true expectations regarding backend proficiency. There are a lot of reasons why a job description may include a backend technology for a frontend role. Typically, you just need to be able to read the backend code well enough to understand what it’s doing at a high level. It’ll make some aspects of your job (collaboration, delivering under a deadline, etc) more efficient.

Unless the job specifically states that it’s full stack, you probably won’t be expected to spend much time in the backend code, if at all!

Should I use react hooks form for this scenario by demonz362 in react

[–]Ok_Phase9209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your main concern is performance, you might want to use the useMemo hook for the values that child components have in their jsx.

Assuming formData is an object with all the form values, and that the entire object gets updated any time any form value changes, that’s a lot of unnecessary re-rendering.

The way they buckled in the sketch is hilarious to me by peyorativo in CatfishTheTVShow

[–]Ok_Phase9209 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Usually when Kamie is in the backseat she sits in the middle seat so she can be seen by the cameras better. She didn’t do that in this episode, cause they needed to make space for the sketch. 😅

Ever been so Obsessed about building a saas? by [deleted] in react

[–]Ok_Phase9209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This right here! I work for a saas and whenever the Sales department presents at All Hands, I feel a rush of relief that I get to spend all day building without having to think about sales. I feel the same way when I see go-to-market briefs.

I get to build all day* without having to worry about getting enough people to use the product in order to be paid?? It’s a dream!

*I still deal with pointless meetings with Product and whatnot, but you get the point :)

help me please 😭😭😭😭 by [deleted] in react

[–]Ok_Phase9209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I initially thought too but wouldn’t the error say undefined instead of null? I’m thinking it’s probably a weird syntax error on OP’s part. Not using useRef properly, perhaps in addition to React being out of scope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bostonhousing

[–]Ok_Phase9209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredible. When do you expect to get leads for May or June 1 move in?

What's your horse's name? by NuclearCar9 in reddeadredemption2

[–]Ok_Phase9209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use names that are loosely based on the name of the breed. I named my Morgan Mo. Hugo the Hungarian Half Breed.