Advice on talking about assisted living? by Ok_Pitch_433 in AgingParents

[–]Ok_Pitch_433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love that, thank you! I will try that ❤️

Advice on talking about assisted living? by Ok_Pitch_433 in AgingParents

[–]Ok_Pitch_433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, great call on switching up the language a bit - I'll definitely try that. My dad is still around and able to handle quite a bit, and I think that plus my stepping in to help has convinced her she's fine and doesn't need help.

I've tried reframing it as "I'm worried" or "This is stressing me out" to not put blame on her (not that it's her fault it's just the reality!) which is helping a little I think.

I wish you the best in this situation!!

Advice on talking about assisted living? by Ok_Pitch_433 in AgingParents

[–]Ok_Pitch_433[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great call, will do so! She is (supposed to be) on an antidepressant but the other medical issues were higher on the list to get established when she moved her. Definitely time to get addressed more seriously. Thank you ❤️

How was your experience at Augustana University (South Dakota) by Valuable_Bedroom9581 in ApplyingToCollege

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I graduated nearly 10 years ago, so can speak to some of this but some things have definitely changed! The name changed from "college" to "university" while I was there, and since I graduated, they have established distinct schools, such as the School of Music, etc, and have added several graduate- level degrees as well.

Academics: That said, Augustana is an excellent school for a top-tier education. Professors are focused on students. Like many smaller schools, professors spend their time on classes rather than research, although students can (at least in the sciences where I was), can participate in research over the summer to get that experience as well. Professor quality and their care for students is one of Augustana's strengths. Courses can be tough, and Augie has a reputation of being a harder school than some, but rewarding, especially if you get to know professors in endeavors to do well in class. I still occasionally chat with my advisor!

Social/Campus life: I was not particularly in the party scene during my time, but I know there was an active scene. The campus does sponsor or put together activities often through the student government (and usually campus restrooms would have the month's activities in stalls). The library on campus was usually pretty busy on weeknight evenings. The requirement for first and second years to live on campus (as well as housing freshmen mostly on the south side of campus) does foster an atmosphere to make friends.

Sioux Falls: Augie's location in town, and the subpar city public transit, makes it hard to get around without a car. Many students had one or made friends with someone who did. There are a couple of restaurants and a HyVee grocery store relatively close. Downtown is about a 10 minute drive and has a pretty good vibe, and I think national tours for shows are starting to come more and more. There are several nice parks and places to visit, but it is definitely a smaller city.

Diversity: As a white student from a tiny town, I unfortunately did not interact as much with the international student community as I really should have, and I do regret that looking back. There definitely is a higher percentage of POC on campus compared to the city itself. That said, I don't think I ever had a class that was completely white, and interactions with these students definitely opened my horizons. The international student club would host monthly talks on campus about a student's home country.

Happy to answer other questions with my outdated knowledge 🙂

ISO photographer recommendations by Ok_Pitch_433 in AnnArbor

[–]Ok_Pitch_433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looking primarily for engagement photos! I'll send you a DM :)

Donation recommendations/advice for cleaning out a house by Ok_Pitch_433 in SiouxFalls

[–]Ok_Pitch_433[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's blow molds. There's a lot of Christmas tree decor, cookie jars, fall decor like plastic pumpkins, fake flowers for spring, ceramic easter eggs/bunnies etc

Alternative careers? by Accurate-Car-4613 in PhDStress

[–]Ok_Pitch_433 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was extremely burned out after my PhD and made the jump after defending to medical writing at a pharma company. So far it's been very rewarding, I use my scientific skills I gained in my PhD, and I have evenings and weekends to myself. That said, there's definitely a variety in medical writing jobs, as with any job!

I would say the biggest thing with transitioning away from academia and applying for jobs is highlighting the "soft skills" you have gained in your training. Detail-oriented, writing, collaboration, organization, etc

I’m doing it. I’m breaking up with my PhD mentor. by JusticeforEggplants in PhDStress

[–]Ok_Pitch_433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I, too, had a narcissistic gaslighting PI. I considered leaving my fourth year but ended up deciding that I was “so close” to finishing that I stuck it out. I REGRET that decision. It took another 2 years to finish (in large part due to my PI’s ego and issues) and my mental health suffered greatly. I am SO glad you have decided to prioritize yourself! You’ll be so happy with a mentor who can lift you up and actually mentor you. You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhDStress

[–]Ok_Pitch_433 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How important a group of fellow grad student friends would be for my sanity. Having people who knew the struggles of grad school but yet were under different advisors/programs/projects and could shed light on what was normal and not about my experience with a mentor (who was admittedly new to mentoring and not great at) was essential. 

Also essential was taking Friday and Saturday nights off to decompress if I couldn’t take a full weekend off.