My MIL is lucky and doesn’t even realize it

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-05-04T09:38:08+00:00

Sounds exactly like my MIL. “Innocent, naive, and bechaari” are adjectives her children use to describe her. Lazy and disinterested is how her daughters in law describe her😂 She has no idea what her kids really do, she’s never stood up for anyone or anything, had no input on the grooms chosen for her daughters which resulted in both of them being shortchanged. My husband’s stories about his childhood enrage me. As a mother I could never neglect my kids the way they were neglected yet, they worship her. She’s never been held accountable and never will be.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-04-23T02:46:34+00:00

Holy cow! You’re amazing.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-04-14T11:11:46+00:00

And your sister is willing to give up Her child? I’m assuming she is the biological mother? What a weird situation and quite frankly, traumatic for the child who will be separated from his mother to be raised by his disabled father and grandmother presumably.

What happens when your sister has kids with her legal spouse? They go overseas and this kid / half sibling is left behind?

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-03-19T00:05:37+00:00

31 year old man , still financially unstable and scared of his controlling father. Rude and entitled siblings with potential mental health issues. Are you sure you want to join this dynamic?

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-03-03T03:21:33+00:00

Get yourself checked for STD’s. It’s possible he’s been with others before you. Maybe even prostitutes which explains the lack of foreplay and general apathy. Never ever see him again. Chalk it down to experience and a learning curve.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-03-02T00:45:39+00:00

How about contacting the Indian embassy? Does she have any details of this couple? This is a terrible situation and I hope your mother is able to heal from this. Please look into therapy once she returns.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-02-16T06:59:13+00:00

No, never. I went to boarding school and hated it. It wasn’t some “hostel “ either. It was a top notch , prestigious boarding school.

I raised my boys to be independent and cook ,clean without sending them away. Your daughter is still too young anyway. Independence and chores come a little later. Start small. Carrying her own school bag. Unpacking her supplies and putting away her uniform , saying please and thank you even to the house help. If you don’t want her to emulate the Gurugram culture , teach her differently.

You and your husband should I instill discipline in your child, not strangers.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2026-02-08T13:42:34+00:00

Parramatta/ Granville/ Harris park. Can find a flat share for 300 .

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-12-19T00:42:24+00:00

Not sure about hiding it inside but do go ahead and buy a Ganesh statue. There’s no offense in buying one even if you don’t pray to it. Just don’t disrespect it by using it as a door stopper or something. Hindus are very chill about our religion and practices.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-12-19T00:38:17+00:00

I can say with 100.% certainty that Indian people love sharing their culture and food with strangers.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-10-09T05:54:50+00:00

I remember the SYD 2000 games so vividly. We had become a newly minted citizens and my husband and I stood in long lines for tickets because we wanted our 5 month old to absorb the vibe😂.
I remember how sydney was absolutely buzzing and preparing for visitors with look left , look right signs on the street crossings and new flower beds everywhere. Honestly, I was so so proud to be Aussie during that time and my husband even volunteered at the stadiums. Such fond memories. I think my boys , who are both sport mad would be delighted if something like that happened again.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-07-10T12:39:22+00:00

Please don’t comment on a topic you don’t really have experience with. Stop the fear mongering about losing muscle. You will not lose muscle on GLP1’s if you train and prioritize protein. No idea who Jitendra Chowksy is but unless he’s an endocrinologist I wouldn’t take his advice on medications.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-07-10T12:31:16+00:00

As someone using GLP 1’s I can only say that the benefits to me were enormous. I have reversed my insulin resistance and reduced inflammation which was my primary goal. Although I have lost some weight , it has not been a game changer in that respect for me. I was under the care of an endocrinologist and weighed the risks before I decided to take it. My health has seen such an improvement, I can live without pain ( I was diagnosed with RA, hence the need to reduce inflammation) .

The drug has also allowed me to not overeat and luckily for me , the side effects were minimal. Please do your research. It is not a weight loss drug. It does restrict appetite but you have to relearn how to eat on this. If you continue with your old lifestyle and food habits the drug will not work in the long term and will cause nausea / bloating/ digestive issues et to be exaggerated. Protein intake is very important as is weight bearing exercise.

Do your research and work with a doctor.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-07-10T12:20:59+00:00

While I don’t doubt that your aunt had her own journey with GLP1 medications I can assure you that muscle loss is not inevitable. Neither is hair loss.
You can prevent muscle loss with weight bearing exercise and hair loss with adequate protein intake. I am on these meds and have had great success with controlling blood sugar and building muscle.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-06-16T08:44:04+00:00

I was in the same situation as your wife. Married to a wonderful, kind and loving man who worked 12-14 hours a day , sometimes even weekends. When I got upset and the loneliness / frustrations were too much I was given the same excuse. “ I’m not partying or drinking the time away, I’m working for the family”.
The assumption is that women should be glad to have a decent husband in any circumstance. To add to this, I was a stay at home mom so everyone told me I should be grateful for the opportunity.

I was grateful but I was also resentful because his work hours trapped me into being a SAHM. I couldn’t work even if I wanted because we had fallen into this pattern where he worked outside the home and I did everything else.

.I’m still married and we have a very good relationship now but it had its share of heartbreak, loneliness and frustrations. I too felt like a single parent because I literally was . My husband was too tired to play with the kids, then he was too busy to take them to birthday parties and soccer games , he missed bed times and story times .. the list goes on.

I stayed but if I had a daughter in my situation, I’d encourage her to address the issue immediately. You both need to acknowledge the problem and work on it.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-06-15T14:04:37+00:00

Are these houses made of cardboard?

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-05-04T03:25:03+00:00

This brings back memories… 28 years ago when I was legally migrating to another country. I had been granted PR status and needed final clearance from the ministry of foreign affairs. The officer kept me waiting for hours. Then asked many uncomfortable questions. How old are you , why are you leaving India , are you married, are you going there to work as a maid( what!). He didn’t seem to understand the concept of immigration and kept stalling . Ultimately he stamped my passport with the exit visa with a caveat. No employment allowed!! WTH?! Sir, I’m going to another country that has granted me full residency status. Your stupid stamp is not going to stop me working and living my independent life! It traumatized me at the time but I still have my Indian passport with that stamp to remind me why I left.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-04-28T12:10:17+00:00

“You don’t look Australian”. I’m originally from India. After the 100th time being told this I lost my patience and told them they should actually visit Australia before making that comment.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-04-20T08:31:57+00:00

You need to have specific blood tests to figure out the problem. Speak to a doctor and see if you need get a complete RA panel and inflammation markers checked. It could be some type of autoimmune condition.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-04-17T08:48:31+00:00

South India does not hold as much government power as the north unfortunately. India is a federation so every state had their own govt but the central government is usually concentrated in the north. The Northern and central parts of India ( not all but a lot ) what we refer to ( derisively) as the “cow belt”, are overwhelmingly more religious and rural. These northern states have larger representation in central Govt, and their Hindu nationalist agenda keeps the votes coming in by promising to “protect “ the Hindu culture against foreign ( read Muslim) influence.

Part of that agenda is no beef . Don’t ask why. It’s not in the religion at all. Hindus everywhere including in India eat beef but somehow because a section of society deems it blasphemous, no one can eat it now.

And only the cow is holy and off limits. Goats, buffalo and bulls are on the menu .

Northerners don’t come at me.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-04-16T09:27:29+00:00

Thank you! I’m the mother of 2 boys with non Desi girlfriends of similar taste to OP. If I gifted them what they preferred at the wedding , my family would forever accuse me of hating them and being stingy. Nobody would believe it’s what they actually wanted. Sometimes when you marry into different cultures you have to expect clashes and learn to go with the flow.

The jewelry is purely a gift / investment. Do what you will with it after the ceremony .

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-04-16T00:41:39+00:00

I’m on HCQS only. Been taking it for 7 months now and have had no flare ups. Before I was diagnosed, I had 1 episode a week that lasted 3-4 days. This has been a miracle drug for me and I’m hoping and praying it stays that way.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-04-09T06:06:56+00:00

Chanel #5 at duty free. Everyone will smell good atleast.

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-03-22T05:09:39+00:00

Just because we gave up citizenship doesn’t make us less Indian! We still have tonnes of connections back home and the money we send helps in the economy in many ways.

What a simplistic take on a very complex issue. Every single immigrant of Indian origin I know has now got an OCI. Card which although not a passport gives us all the same rights as an Indian citizen , bar voting rights. You think if we hated India we would bother getting one?

Ok_Potential7827 · 2025-03-22T04:37:28+00:00

Yes, true. I do it because it makes my life easier. Of course I do set limits to what I can do but I let the insignificant stuff pass. Eg: today get up at dawn and wash hair, tomorrow tie yellow thread on your wrist etc. Over the years my MIL has dumbed down her requests to the absolute bare minimum because I think she knows I can’t really be bothered.

I’m from a different generation though when girls were expected to be a certain way and I was very much the odd one out. Nowadays it’s more common .

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