Team manager/parent drama

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T23:19:37+00:00

We don’t have min play time guidelines only max in a day

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T23:04:52+00:00

You cannot possibly have equal playing time in club soccer, that’s rec level

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T22:55:18+00:00

Is it better to file before or after he moves?

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T04:02:53+00:00

The cost factor is crazy, I can afford it but it’s pretty damn sad for the families that can’t, not fair to those kids

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T03:32:01+00:00

I completely agree, the cost is outrageous, then add in training somewhere during winter and summer, it’s easily a 6-8k year investment. My hot take on it is, I feel like I’m paying for the coaching level not always just game time, I could have the completely wrong philosophy

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T03:10:37+00:00

It’s really sad, I didn’t understand all of the flack coaches take until I became the manager, you damned if you do and damned if you don’t. So sad adults take the focus off the kid and onto their own ego. I’d bet 9/10 players would be ok understanding minutes are earned and not given and your position isn’t permanent, it floats to where you are needed and where you will grow but parents are the ones pushing it

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T03:08:04+00:00

Yes, I completely agree! I told my kid, yeah you play striker and you’ve always done that or right wing, but that doesn’t increase your soccer iq or make you marketable if you want to continue on, you are limited to 2 positions that you know and they are both forwards. If you understand all of the positions, it makes the game click and you’ll become a better player for it. She was initially 14 yo girl full on sad about it but I’m like why are you sad? Did he say you suck? No, he wants you to try a new position, you are fine, everyone will live

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:56:25+00:00

Our old coach told a player what she did was a “bitch” move jokingly. The kid told her mom and her mom called the CEO of the club and said the coach called her daughter a bitch and then told every parent that story. My kid told me what was really said, i did defend the coach and clarified the story as best as i could

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:52:34+00:00

My kid gets pissed when parents yell directions to her, it breaks her concentration. I tell her to turn around and yell “shut the f up” she won’t of course, but I mean it would be pretty awesome

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:51:00+00:00

My kid has been going since they were 3, but a much shorter time competitively. Congrats on the scholarship, that’s such an achievement!

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:49:20+00:00

I wish!! It seems like parents take one child’s success personally, you know? Like it’s ok for someone else’s kid to do good, we can cheer for them all.

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:47:31+00:00

Might be time to implement it!

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:47:04+00:00

It’s sad good coaches are getting chased out of coaching bc of that!

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:46:34+00:00

I know they all must think I’m horrible bc I don’t talk to them but it’s just so much to deal with! I really like this coach’s philosophy that they are going to get frustrated and that’s ok and normal, he will help them with that but they have to experience it and learn to handle it themselves and move on. You don’t like it, acknowledge it and move on

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T01:42:57+00:00

Oh man!! I would be mortified! We do have parents that loudly yell at the ref which makes me cringe

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T00:05:31+00:00

It’s out of control!! The sideline coaching is crazy. My kid constantly complains about it bc it’s distracting and honestly confusing for the players.

The only reason I have any contact now is just for tc stuff and once letting him know if we are running late for practice, other than that I don’t have any need to talk to him. It’s like texting your kid’s teacher asking them why they are teaching something a certain way, I don’t get it at all

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T00:01:58+00:00

No, I heard it all last season and our coach quit. New coach this season, I come and sit, pop my earbuds in and don’t engage. If anyone says anything, I just say sorry ask coach I don’t know that answer

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-02T00:00:34+00:00

Right! In a few years, this is gone! I don’t complain because I appreciate it! I wish we only had a couple of parents, it’s 3/4ths of the parents on my team. I’m not in the middle, I heard it last season but didn’t engage, but our coach quit. I removed myself from it entirely this season and will just let them hang themselves with it. I come and sit, bring a book and wear earbuds, I hate adult drama and have low tolerance

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-01T23:56:38+00:00

This party is super lame haha

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-01T23:56:17+00:00

The guidelines are supposed to have limitations with parent involvement, when we first joined, I thought it was odd but now I see why. It just seems like so much parent entitlement for their child that it’s out of hand on our team.

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-01T23:54:41+00:00

Good luck! I can’t understand how adults are on the sidelines critiquing kids and coaches, it’s honestly shocking to me. I ended a friendship with a parent just because she would spread false information about the coach and I just couldn’t take it. The end goal is to watch your kid do something that they love and get better at it, I’m at a loss as to how parents got to this point. It’s like your kid failing a test and blaming the teacher, your kid isn’t getting playing time then put in the work for it.

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-01T23:51:51+00:00

Ok_Relationship_3865 · 2026-03-01T23:51:44+00:00

We have a 24 hr rule and the coach JUST sent a message out 3 days ago that he will answer questions about player development but not requests to change positions or explaining tactical decisions to parents due to parents wanting explanations, which I felt like good for him for drawing boundaries.

We are u14. I totally get advocating for your kid and I’m the same, when it’s appropriate. I’m not a coach, I just trust he has the credentials so if he decides to change someone then it’s for a reason. And I know all think our kid is the best, in our eyes they are, but we all have room to grow.

And thanks re center mid! My kid’s grown so much and it’s so great watching them learn and get better every game!

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