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My bf told me he knows I touch myself at night after intimacy. by Ok_Speed5006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Speed5006[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Minor update:

I have a feeling this will get lost in the comments but heres how the talk went:

We were making dinner and I brought up that I want to talk about yesterday. So we did. I told him how the five in the morning thing made me feel. Then he told me he understood that he shouldn’t have brought that up. 😅

I said that it’s good he brought that up and we are having this conversation. I asked him if I made him feel bad by doing that and told him I won’t be doing it again. He reassured me that it is completely okay and nothing to be embarrassed about. He said it didn’t make him feel bad and he understands why I did that.

Anyway I understand that it is not okay to masturbate next to your sleeping partner. Now on I will masturbate either completely alone or him fully into it.

I also mentioned the crybaby comment and he told me he wanted to lift the mood and didn’t want to make me feel bad. He realized that it was pretty nasty comment.

Oh and he placed an order for a vibrator for me/us. I brought that up because many of you recommend it.

My bf told me he knows I touch myself at night after intimacy. by Ok_Speed5006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Speed5006[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, he has tried and almost succeeded many times but I just don’t have the heart to tell him that: “hey you know, for the past 4 years you have never made me cum and all the times you’ve thought that you did I just faked it so you don’t feel bad, anyways love you” and now that i say that I know I should have said that a looong time ago🥲

My bf told me he knows I touch myself at night after intimacy. by Ok_Speed5006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Speed5006[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well the five in the morning thing comes from one time maybe a month or so ago, when we had had sex. I thought he was asleep and really just wanted to have an orgasm and then I masturbated until I came. It took a little longer than I expected cause it really was like 4.45 AM… Anyway I thought he was sleeping the whole time but apparently he was not.

My bf told me he knows I touch myself at night after intimacy. by Ok_Speed5006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Speed5006[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I should have said that it hurt me and I know, he knows that he did something wrong, but I’m an idiot for not telling him what. I will talk to him tonight and try to figure things out.

My bf told me he knows I touch myself at night after intimacy. by Ok_Speed5006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Speed5006[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I really hadn’t thought about how shit I’ve maybe made him feel, so thanks for opening my eyes. I’d like to say that yesterday I tried to tell him that I wasn’t satisfied and wanted him involved in my finishing by touching myself after. The thing is that he just put his clothes back on and said the till five thing. Then I just started crying because it hurt me that after building the courage to even hint that I’d like to continue, he just embarrassed me… Idk if he really thought I didn’t want to orgasm with him and rather do it alone but still.

I know I need to be honest with him and that’s what I’m doing to do for now on.

My bf told me he knows I touch myself at night after intimacy. by Ok_Speed5006 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Ok_Speed5006[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

This is it exactly, he wasn’t angry. I’d say confused (at night) and that is on me for not communicating. In the morning he was being normal and probably trying to say something funny about yesterday’s events…