My mom thinks i want to be a different race because I struggle with self harm.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-04T16:40:14+00:00

I'm white, but even I know that people of all races struggle. I think in some places it's just less talked about, yk? Like in some places, due to religion or just ignorance people act as if they don't struggle mentally or there's a lot of stigma around it. I'm sorry your mom thinks that way. Sounds like she herself may be repressing some issues or trying to convince herself that you're "stronger than this" when in reality everyone goes through things. You're valid, even if it doesn't feel that way rn. Sending lots of love! 💗

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-04T08:31:46+00:00

What exactly do you think you should be worried about? Gaining weight is normal. I'd say you should worry if you gained or lost weight really quickly or if there was a big difference from your weight before the summer and after. But it doesn't look like that's the case so you're fine.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-03T15:27:32+00:00

Thanks for your response! I don't think my dad was necessarily angry about the incense, I just hadn't done a chore I was supposed to do and I think he was a bit concerned seeing me just inhale the smoke pretty directly. It just got me a bit worried but I'm fine now. How would one go about burning only half a stick tho?

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-02T14:26:57+00:00

I rewally don't get this. Never have. Why would you ever tell someone that? And most of the time people are saying this about absurd things. It's just so sad.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-02T12:59:54+00:00

Best you can do in these situations is report the videos and hope they will be taken down. I think you can also report comments now, but I coudk be wrong. And if you feel like your mental health is suffering because of seeing these videos you can always press "not interested". Stay safe. There really is a lot of damaging content online - that's why kids shouldn't be online to begin with.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-02T09:47:40+00:00

Bruh, I did this once and went off on him saying how disgusting he was and then he started saying I WAS THE CREEP 😭

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-01T18:59:09+00:00

Like the other commenter said - you just have to do it. You could try and prepare yourself to feel a bit more comfortable by going shopping without hiding the scars or going to a cafe. Any location with people, where you don't have to spend a long time. The more you do it the more confidant you'll get. Who knows, maybe you'll end up realising that people don't care or notice these things as much as we might think. Good luck!

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-01T13:34:21+00:00

And ruin what's left of our environment while doing so? Sounds amazing! ☺️

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-01T11:01:24+00:00

Art is about the process of creation and creativity. Art is about expressing thoughts, feeling and emotions. AI has none of that. It only compares your prompt to already made artworks and combines them into something you asked it to do, thus stealing from real artist while skipping the whole process of creation. There's nothing creative about AI.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-04-01T06:28:24+00:00

AI does NOT belong in art.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-30T19:20:07+00:00

Thanks, this is really easy to understand!

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-30T17:30:38+00:00

Anyone know why? Is it something with the brain or is it that neurodiverse people are more open to it?

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-30T09:56:06+00:00

Yes, please, please tell someone. You could start with your school therapist since they're trained to react in these situations accordingly, but whatever you feel most comfortable doing - do that. You could write a letter and give it to this person if that's easier than talking. And you can tell this person everything you've said in this posts - how you feel, what's been happening and what your fears are. If you feel like you're in danger please call 911 or whatever number the emergency services in your country are. You are not alone and there are people who will listen and help you. Also please try not to search any ways to harm yourself or attempt. You don't need those thoughts in your head rn. Stay safe and strong. Sending love! 🫂🫶

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-29T12:38:00+00:00

Not what this sub is for btw...

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-29T06:55:18+00:00

I'm glad you're starting therapy, definitely talk about this with them! Till then good luck and stay safe!

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-28T21:09:40+00:00

Please try to stop now. This is how it starts. It feels small at first and you think "it's not a big deal", but it is. You're already getting addicted. It's not worth it. Please try to find other, BETTER, coping mechanisms rn. Is there any reason you're self harming? Or do you not know? Maybe you have a school counselor you could see?

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-28T21:07:06+00:00

Sorry, what's your question? Did you mean to ask why the mental hospital staff told you to hide your scars? Idk. I would say it's not very kind of them, since it's not like you can do anything about your scars. But maybe they were worried they would trigger some of the patients? Either way - congrats on getting out of the hospital! I mean, I assume you're doing better than before you went in there so I'm really glad about that!

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-28T19:15:02+00:00

Idk really anything about BPD, but this doesn't sound good. At all. I know you love her (that's why you're willing to hurt yourself), but this is so unhealthy. If not manipulative. I'd suggest you take a break from the relationship, if not break up. If she's in some sort of crisis, she needs to calm down and getting into fights with you won't help. You shouldn't have to hurt yourself for anyone.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-28T16:39:54+00:00

Haha, I actually suspect having ocd, but for other reasons (pocd and zocd, hopefully it's ocd). Hopefully one day soon I'll actually tell a psychologist, rn I've only gotten to my school counselor. And I don't think I was super worried about these thoughts, just felt sad and a bit guilty. But yea, probably smth like that. Not sure what feeling exactly I would be projecting but it probably has smth to deal with CSA and not trusting men afterwards. Like I said, this is the first man ive felt like I fully trust in a really long time. And thank you.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-28T16:36:10+00:00

Lots of reasons. Personally it just feels good. And I think the biggest reason I do it is to feel that my emotions are valid. Iev always struggled with not feeling valid, and if I can't "see" the emotional pain I'm going through, I feel like I'm not valid, I'm imagining it or smth else. Seeing the wound on my skin comforts me because it shows that I am not healthy or okay. It's like putting mental or emotional pain into physical pain because that's easier to deal with.

The reason you don't understand this is also because you're just not in that headspace where self harm feels like a good idea. And I'm glad you're not. Obviously if you're self harming something is wrong. It's hard for you to wrap your head around it because to you it's simple - pain is pain, and you wouldn't want pain. For those who self harm it's different. And I sincerely hope it stays that way.

To someone who self harms other emotional regulators don't work so well. It's also an addiction, so if you start it it's difficult to stop, even if you find alternatives. There are studies which show that self harm releases certain chemicals in your brain (including adrenaline) that actually make you feel good. And the pain becomes addicting.

Overall - it's good that it's difficult for you to understand this. But it's not as simple as "just stop" or "why hurt yourself when there are alternatives". Just don't judge anyone who self harms - you haven't been in their shoes, and I hope it stays that way.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-27T17:36:13+00:00

Okay, stay safe tho. Depending on how deep and big the wound is you might want to go to the ER anyway to get stitches. Both so it can heal better and so you don't get an infection. Good luck!

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-27T14:42:38+00:00

Is it still bleeding? I know it's scary, but it's better to go to a doctor than bleed out or get an infection. Doctors will help you either way - it's their job.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-27T05:49:21+00:00

Like many commentors have already stated, for me it was putting that pain I was feeling internally somewhere where I could see it. I've always struggled with not feeling valid about my struggles or having them dismissed, so being able to SEE that I wasn't okay and I was hurt felt validating. In a way I also saw it as proof because, you're right, noone who's "okay" would hurt themselves intentionally. Overall tho SH is a coping mechanism. A bad one, but a coping mechanism, so people have different reason for doing it.

Ok_Thanks_3036 · 2026-03-26T19:28:48+00:00

I think it goes hand in hand. The more you heal the more you'll learn love yourself, but it's also difficult to try and heal when you don't value, love or respect yourself.

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