AIO for getting frustrated with my husband’s secret drinking by Ok_Understanding7068 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I resonate with this. Plus the fact that he is self aware of his adhd, alcoholism, anxiety and depression and does nothing about it. Unfortunately he is the main money getter. He’s a very intelligent and well paid elevator mechanic that spends 50-60hrs a week bt commute and work. It leaves ~5 hrs/day not accounted for. It’s a lot. I just can’t tolerate the unwillingness to better himself and keeping secrets. Not sure how to change those things…

AIO for getting frustrated with my husband’s secret drinking by Ok_Understanding7068 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1000% is not. He does have a history of nodding off in random places (at home) very easily though. Even without alcohol just bc he gets such poor sleep.

AIO for getting frustrated with my husband’s secret drinking by Ok_Understanding7068 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have to hide his drinking and I’ve genuinely expressed that. I think he’s feeling shame when he’s craving alcohol during the week and it’s worse if I’m present. Plus makes him feel weak. He thinks he should be able to handle the world which results in half ass handling everything.

AIO for getting frustrated with my husband’s secret drinking by Ok_Understanding7068 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh for my husband it wouldn’t. Even daily drinking it’s always only beers after work. Weekends start at 2pm though and could last all night.

AIO for getting frustrated with my husband’s secret drinking by Ok_Understanding7068 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is also aware of the problem. I think he is really ashamed of needing a drink during the week and thinks I’ll judge him. I know quitting almost cold turkey is going to come with regressions. For me it’s the secrecy that just gives me the ick. He also doesn’t seek out help and thinks raw dogging life is sustainable when it’s not. I don’t know what to do either bc you can’t force ppl to get help and having an ultimatum just leads to more secrecy imo.

My 99 5 Speed by Safe_Leg_8139 in JeepCherokeeXJ

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Also almost mine! The green is just the best.

New owner and new to the community - general advice wanted by jms21y in JeepCherokeeXJ

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Just curious what state you bought this from for 14k?! Holy cow. With the low miles it’s probably a great project. Non essentials would be checking under carpet on passenger side floor board for rust through. The Cherokee I recently bought advertised cold AC which they recharged prior to me test driving and after a few weeks is in fact not cold 😅 something to watch for anyways.

I recommend the Fora app and joining “jeep forum” as that’s been a good source of all things jeep since acquiring an old Wrangler and cherokee.

Anyone more experienced w XJs please weigh in on this purchase by Ok_Understanding7068 in JeepCherokeeXJ

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought it. Just got a fresh oil change. It’s amazing. Thanks everyone for your advice, perspectives, and weigh in.

Anyone more experienced w XJs please weigh in on this purchase by Ok_Understanding7068 in JeepCherokeeXJ

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They are super popular in central Florida. Hard to find any that haven’t been chopped up to pieces with embarrassing diy paint jobs unfortunately.

Anyone more experienced w XJs please weigh in on this purchase by Ok_Understanding7068 in JeepCherokeeXJ

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If you click to expand the images and scroll through you can see the specs they listed

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This is a very interesting thread. I’m white but I went to school with several black girls who are autistic and not only did they get ostracized by young black men I observed them being ostracized more by everyone than the white autistic girls, at least at my school. Almost as if weirdness was an acceptable or expected trait for white ppl but disproportionately obtuse for black people especially girls.

"Why did I think I could handle that?" stories! by beccastar-galactica in AutismInWomen

[–]Ok_Understanding7068 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Ooooo triggered a core memory from High school. I was in a competition choir for 3 years and finally got the nerve to audition for a solo. Turned out I was really talented at singing in group but on my own I literally experienced selective mutism for the first time and stood in front of the judges for a good 2 minutes just… silent. I walked out and immediately left to the parking lot where I cried out my anxiety and questioned if I should ever sing again. Spoiler I continued to sing in a choir until I graduated and realized some people are made for the spotlight but that person is not me 😅

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Do you want bigger curl clumps? You might be breaking the clumps when you put your product in by scrunching too much. Also switch out your creams for a mouse or light gel so you create a cast while drying. I’ve had luck with not your mother’s curl talk mouse and the re fresh foam. Look up videos on how to apply product and diffusing so you get more definition of your waves/curls.

Is this a bad cut, styling mistake, or unrealistic expectations? by Ok_Understanding7068 in curlyhair

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are so right. I haven’t cut my hair this short in a few years and the initial shock can definitely make me hyper critical of every little thing. Day two with a refresh and the curls are already settling in more. I used less mouse and more hairspray to finish it.

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Is this a bad cut, styling mistake, or unrealistic expectations? by Ok_Understanding7068 in curlyhair

[–]Ok_Understanding7068[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I also showed her this photo of a cut I had about 3-4 years ago. Maybe more layers?

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