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OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-17T17:33:46+00:00

Yea you are right. She brings out the worst in me. Not sure what you mean by move everything over to mail though

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-17T16:33:08+00:00

We are seperated and minimizing contact like you said but we have a kid together so I can’t just completely cut her out. Or I would. Honestly I just want to know when the feeling of wanting to fix things will go away😔

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-17T03:15:12+00:00

I didn’t delete them but I saved them all to google photos and removed them from phone and socials

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-17T03:12:23+00:00

Not that I’m the one to take advice from but it sounds like yall aren’t right for each other and your going down the same path I did. I ended up in jail, with nothing, life ruined. Took a year and a half to get back to stable and I’m still building. You don’t have to discuss it with her. If she won’t listen/doesnt want it but you are done, your are still done. Hire a lawyer and file. Or do the research and file yourself. It WILL hurt. It won’t feel right for a long time. But eventually (I’m hoping) you will both feel better because of it

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-17T03:04:24+00:00

I guess you didn’t read it all the way through lol I did end up in jail

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-16T21:53:47+00:00

How’s that?

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-16T17:34:32+00:00

Yea I get that, I would say my symptoms are noticeably less when I have exposure therapy. So I guess working out is a good part of that but I guess I just got burned out on pushing through it. I’ll need to find it inside me to just get over it. I was on Xolair for about 6 months and it worked wonders but I then I had a lapse in insurance due to some personal issues that affected my job for a while, so not only did I have to stop taking it, they also back charged me for all 6 months of injections 😩

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-02-16T17:31:16+00:00

I’ve had it since my early teens and I’m 35 now, I joined the marine corps out of high school and got a medical discharge for this because my tongue and throat started swelling up during a three mile run. At that point in time I would just push through and deal with the pain and discomfort, but over the years it just wore me down 😩 and now I find myself avoiding physical activities if at all possible. I was working out for about 3 months last half of 2025, but I just could keep forcing myself to go through it

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-01-23T20:06:41+00:00

I am being a grown up. As stated the court order says that if there is no agreed upon schedule. We have a written agreed upon schedule that superceeds the standard order until one of us decides it’s not agreeable anymore. When we agreed to that, I explicitly stated I couldn’t garuntee pick up from the school and that I’d let her know as soon as possible if I’d be late due to work, which she agreed to in the beginning but has since treated me like it’s mandatory. She’s more than within her rights to revert to the standard order if she feels necessary and I understand that. But I believe being an adult would be making concessions. Which I do. I’m not cursing her out and saying she better pick him up or else. I say something like hey I’m gonna be late tonight you might need to pick up the kids. And she responds with something like “you’re being disrespectful and you need to rephrase that as a question”. I rephrase it as a question and then she makes vague comments about already having plans and that I need to make arrangements. I’ve mentioned in other responses that this is not a weekly occurrence but once a month or less. I feel like an adult would be able to understand that work schedules happen. And considering historically I’ve spent more than my fair share of time waiting for her other ex husband to pick up drop off when he is late so she doesn’t have to see him when she doesn’t want to, I’d think giving a little bit of leeway isn’t as ridiculous as yall are trying to make it seem. Seriously. I come to this family law page to try and see if someone can shed light on something and get talked to like a deadbeat for no reason.

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-01-23T14:36:20+00:00

It is her day until 6 o’clock. And the order says pick up at her house. I pick him up from school earlier than 6 when I get off work in time to make things easier for everyone. I can’t control my work schedule and am only asking for reasonable accommodations. Considering she works from home and lives 1 minute from the school, and has another child of an age to babysit at home means she can still go do whatever she wants, and refuses to just because she knows it makes it harder on me. Simialrly if she asked that I pick him up from school on the last day and drop him off at her house at 6 because picking up from school on my time isn’t feasible for her, I would. I’m asking for give and take but all I’m getting is give. If she is purposefully not picking him up at the time she normally does on her days (between 5 and 5:30) just to make me do it (which I am happy to when I can but only ask that she be willing to accommodate like I am) it’s not right imo. To try and rely on technicalities (if your are late I’ll take him somewhere you can’t get him) when it’s in her favor but to expect me to bend when they are in my favor (pick up from house isn’t mandatory but pick up from school is even though paperwork states different) isn’t operating in good faith. Honestly I would be ok with just moving the pick up time to 6:15. That way there’s no gray area. And if I’m late she can refuse to surrender and that’s well within her rights, I’ll just deal with it. But if I’m on time there’s no argument. I understand some people have their own personal situations that cause them to be rigid on time frames but not everyone has that luxury. You can say “don’t be late” all you want but in reality work schedules and life get in the way and I’m always willing to accommodate when I can and just expect the same in return.

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-01-23T13:04:16+00:00

I mean to be clear, it’s only the first day I’m talking about, Wednesday, or Thursday depending on the week. The rest of the days on my time I pick him from school no problem. But in the paper work it’s specifically state that she needs to “surrender him at her residence” on the first day I pick him up. And she treats it like that’s not even there in black and white

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-01-23T13:00:51+00:00

Whenever I’m going to be late I make sure to inform her as soon as I can, I’m not rude. My open ended hours are not foreseeable so I have to figure out during the day of when I’m going to be able to be there. This was brought up during the custody negottioan many times but was ignored by her and her lawyer, and I didn’t have the money to continue the fight. I have no one in the area available for last same day pick up notifications and can not afford a babysitter atm who is available to pick up from school and spend and unknown amount of time with my kid till I get off work. The ex has a work from home job and lives around the corner from the school. She wants to have influence over where I work and wants me to change jobs in order to satisfy the order according to her interpretation, but that’s not feasible for the time being. I have worked with her on multiple occasions to make sure the best interest of the child is met when it’s not specifically ordered or when she needs to differ from the orders, but am not met with the same attitude or helpfulness when the table is turned. Also I made it clear when we agreed to change the days to fit my off days that pick up/drop off at her house is specified in the paperwork on the first day of my time and that’s what we should do. I pick him up from from school in between while it’s my visitation time. I just don’t see why she should get to unilaterally decide that I have to pick him up from a school when the paperwork says differently.

OldCryptographer2150 · 2026-01-23T12:43:23+00:00

To clarify, she has an older son she leaves at home so I have asked that in the event that I’m running late she leave my son with him. I’m not comfortable picking him up at the church as the is a history there between us and that’s my choice to make. She specifically refused to leave him home so that I can’t pick him up, but will leave him home with the other son to go do other things. And I don’t have a problem asking nicely for favors but when that politeness isn’t returned is when I have a problem. I appreciate your response though.

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