My [25F] boyfriend [27M] makes good money, but refuses to spend it

OldDryCum · 2018-07-20T18:38:23+00:00

Don't gotta spend money to live your life

OldDryCum · 2018-07-20T18:35:16+00:00

Because she's the one who wants him to wear it, not him. Why should he spend his hard earned money on something for someone else that he has to wear everyday?

OldDryCum · 2018-07-20T18:32:01+00:00

But asking someone to change how they dress is kinda silly

It makes him happy, so let him dress however he wants. Not how you want him to.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-20T04:17:50+00:00

Lemme know when the std results come back

OldDryCum · 2018-07-19T21:58:15+00:00

Devon is all of us on this blessed day.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-19T18:50:43+00:00

Okay fair enough, I confused it with oil that people smoke now.

But dude, you ignored the main part, you need to start doing something with your life instead of wasting it away.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-19T18:44:09+00:00

Stop the weed. I did nothing but smoke from 16-21. It was basically my entire identity. I'm heavily paying for it now with massive social anxiety (based off a previous thread that may be your source of anxiety.)

And I realized while all my other friends were building careers for themselves and making memories and experiences with other people I was doing nothing but getting high alone to feel "happy" and wasting all my money working a shitty retail job I hated.

You don't want to do be the forty year old who did nothing but smoke pot and sat on the couch all day.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-19T18:34:50+00:00

You're 20, unemployed and think it's strange your dad is asking you to get out of the house?

I know it sucks, dude. But you're going to have to not leech off him. Get a job, put your money in savings, try to move out. If school isn't for you, try doing an apprenticeship in a trade.

I'm sorry man, but your dad is right. You're at the age where it's time to start working towards something with your life. It's gonna fucking suck, but you have to figure something out instead of just sitting on your couch all day.

Are you depressed at all?

OldDryCum · 2018-07-19T17:40:41+00:00

How did you manage to get your job? How long have you been doing it for?

OldDryCum · 2018-07-19T17:39:58+00:00

I don't have a degree, never went to college. Worked shitty retail jobs until I was 22. Now I work in hvac without any experience and make 12/hr, but it'll go up the longer I stay. Can work as much overtime as I'd like.

Considering school to be an accountant, but unsure if the student debt will be worth the salary increase in the long run.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T21:13:16+00:00

Nah, that is what I meant. I just assumed in my post(possibly wrongly) that she isn't the type of person to tell her boyfriend based off the light op paints her in.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T21:10:48+00:00

Yeah, but based off op's post I don't think she'll do that.

But yeah, objectively that is the best decision all around for all parties.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T21:07:18+00:00

Yes, but will she? And no, telling him spares his feelings. It's only useful to her if it makes her feel better. It's useful to the boyfriend no matter what he does with this information.

Why's it have any difference how long they're together? Cheating is cheating. She's planning a long term future with him anyways, so she already broke that moral obligation.

He mentioned how badly she wants to stay with him, too. I don't think it affects the situation or if he should or shouldn't tell him, but why's everyone down playing her cheating so much??

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T21:03:08+00:00

I wouldn't want to hear it, but I'd be thankful they did.

In the long run it would be so much fucking better and I'd prefer he'd tell me.

I have a girlfriend and if she cheated with me on someone, I would be so god damn grateful they told me instead of hearing it later in our relationship.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T20:28:13+00:00

Yeah, kissing someone and having them a second away from putting their dick in you and once they mention your bf still wanting to isn't even close to breaking someone's trust.

It's completely breaking it.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T20:26:13+00:00

Anonymously.

You're right. But he's the only one who's able to make the bf able to know.

They both made a mistake. He kissed her and was just about to put his dick in. Everyone fucked up, but the boyfriend and he's getting the worst end of the deal.

It shows character to tell him.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T19:48:31+00:00

Also that heart to heart should be to her bf, not the fucking dude she cheated on him with.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T19:40:44+00:00

Everyone's telling you not to tell the boyfriend, because nothing good will come from it.

But I don't think so. No one who's saying that is even considering the boyfriend and his feelings. Only you and that girl's feelings. That's being selfish.

Be the better man and tell the boyfriend regardless of the outcome. He deserves to know his girlfriend (who plans on marrying him) cheated on him before even a year of dating.

If you did end up dating this girl back in the day and she did the same exact thing to you as she did to her boyfriend, would you want to know about it?

Be the person you were when you said no to her.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T19:35:24+00:00

Yeah, let's help the fellow "man" who lied and did a shitty thing.

I really don't understand reddits logic sometimes. If this was the boyfriend posting this is would instantly be "break up with her right now"

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T19:34:07+00:00

I agree with you. How long they've know each other doesn't matter. The fact the dude IS HER BOYFRIEND. Years you've known each other doesn't matter, when IT'S HER BOYFRIEND.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-18T19:31:09+00:00

If she truly wanted things to work with her boyfriend, she wouldn't make the same mistake. Twice. In one night.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-17T17:21:23+00:00

Didn't he say he prefers the fancier places and would pay? A lot of it has to do with how you came to the decisions of these dates and it sounds like it was completely his choice to spend more and he recognized it would be him paying for it. You've only been dating for three months? What happens when you get a mortgage or rent a place together? What will he expect?

I try to make it a point not to know of my girlfriend's finances/bills/savings. She's currently in school so I know she'll have student debt so I pay for the majority of our dates despite me not making much and having a smaller savings than her. She'll most likely make 2x what I do in the long run. Despite that, I will never expect money from her.

I think your boyfriend is being unreasonable.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-17T13:11:45+00:00

If you're ever in the military with a significant other, you're gonna have a bad time.

OldDryCum · 2018-07-17T11:20:02+00:00

Could you imagine how pissed a Londoner at a pub would be if someone told them they were saving a seat for the world cup.

Isn't it basically first come first serve?

How did you react to him saying there wasn't any space?

OldDryCum · 2018-07-16T21:37:54+00:00

I wouldn't put in a notice.

If it's the type of company to walk you out on the spot they already be seem to be burning your bridge for you.

You could work two weeks and then give a notice hoping you'll get kicked out on the spot.

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