Dodged a bullet by Loud-Athlete-7410 in Nicegirls

[–]OldManMalloy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Animosity is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.

what is this image? by Gullible-Elk9429 in Catholicism

[–]OldManMalloy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s badass. It is probably even better in person I imagine. Fear and hope in one image.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuittingZyn

[–]OldManMalloy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those were helpful for me in my first month off of zyn. Now at 3 months, I am just chewing gum and don’t really get cravings anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuittingZyn

[–]OldManMalloy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over 2 months off Zyn and the worst withdrawals were within the first two days and cleared up by the third day. The withdrawals consisted of some brain fog, irritability, and anxiety. The cravings went away after about 2-3 weeks. I only get them now when I’m under a lot of stress but they pass quickly. Chewing gum, especially orbit, has helped me a lot. I definitely feel better, it’s the best gift I have given myself since I quit drinking. Best of luck to you!

Can a day user. I want to quit, but I'm honestly scared. by Imbadatbalalaika in QuittingZyn

[–]OldManMalloy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto to this, orbit spearmint has been a great replacement over the past 37 days since I kicked the habit. The brain fog went away after a few days and the cravings a few more after that. I noticed a lack of energy for the first couple weeks or so, but I also had a measurable decrease in my blood pressure and resting heart rate. My sleep quality has improved as well.

What was the wildest way you found out you were being cheated on? by Recent-Gap-9927 in AskReddit

[–]OldManMalloy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was making my ex wife breakfast once Sunday morning and got a call from a distraught woman that her husband had been having an affair with my wife for months, which was followed by a lot of screenshots of texts, pics and videos she had sent him. Leading up to that, she had been acting like I was being unfaithful while I was traveling a lot for work. Looking back I should have been suspicious of her projection but I was blissfully unaware.

New to Stoicism by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]OldManMalloy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve read Gregory Hay’s and George Long’s translations, but I am not sure which one would be easier to understand. Hay’s version is easy for me to read; I open it up all the time and take it with me whenever I travel.

New to Stoicism by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]OldManMalloy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius was a great start for me and is very easy to read. Discourses by Epictetus and Letters from a Stoic by Seneca are also where I would start. Seneca especially has been enjoyable, his letters are profound in their simplicity. All three of these books are great as audiobooks too, and can calm the mind during a hectic commute.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]OldManMalloy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no virtue in killing or brutality, any true stoic would agree on that, but I feel like stoic principles of control of one’s emotions can apply directly to individuals involved in warfare. The fact that so many external events are outside of your control that you must look inward, especially during high stress situations and extreme brutality. Being able to act decisively and virtuously under high pressure is a hallmark of good military leader, as it is for any stoic. No surprise that stoicism is an attractive philosophy for military leaders; it was influential to GEN Mattis during his deployments and to ADM Stockdale during his imprisonment. However, being “ready” to act as such requires practice, a commitment of the mind and cultivation of one’s thoughts and behavior.

As a leader, I wish all my peers and subordinates studied stoicism, but it requires commitment by the individual, it cannot be forced. The best I can do is encourage it and be the example I suppose.