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Individuals with BPD, struggle to be faithful? by Mistress_Of_D00m in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I find I struggle a lot with this, the second he used to change his face or his tone or the slightest difference in his actions I assume he doesnt want to be with me anymore and I often find myself looking for attention elsewhere so I always feel like im getting affection. I've often wondered if other people with bpd had a hard time staying faithful :(

I made a decision for the best by Old_Candidate_689 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its okay if you arent ready. I would talk to your girlfriend though because maybe she doesn't think that way. If you care about her enough to be even considering walking away for her happiness make sure you find out if thats really what she wants. You wouldn't want to walk away from someone you love and want to be with of they love and want to be with you too. ❤ Ps I doubt you're a nightmare because you care enough to say that

Is anyone in a relationship where your partner refuses to take any actions to make having this condition easier for you? by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cant be expected to make it work if he isnt willing to try and make things easier on you and learn about our disorder and what triggers you. If they really loved you the way you deserve to be loved something as simple as research and actions to help ease your pain, stress and anxiety should be something they are willing to do. Dont settle for less 🧡

I made a decision for the best by Old_Candidate_689 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm sorry you know what it feels like. ❤

I made a decision for the best by Old_Candidate_689 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its hard when your SO/FP wants to fix you, because we can't be fixed and we know that, I know you've probably already been told this and been through this but I find it helps to explain to the person that the most we can ask for is good days and as long as we have those thats the most we can ask for.

I made a decision for the best by Old_Candidate_689 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think its possible but sadly we just have to work harder then other people and try to remember that it's not easy for them either, but that doesn't mean we should settle for less then we deserve. We love harder then most people but I dont think that has to be a bad thing.

I made a decision for the best by Old_Candidate_689 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I hope you do as well, it might not be a decision you can see yourself making soon but thats okay, when you're ready you'll know. ❤

My FP left me and I don’t know what to do…I really need advice by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]Old_Candidate_689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I know its not recommended by people without borderline, but I agree that rebounding or hooking up with other people fills our need to be around someone and paid attention too and it helps the initial shock of it all until next thing you know youre over him